I'm glad my ex became uglier (am i a bad person?)

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I hadn't seen this ex in the 2 years since he moved to Germany, but when I knew him in 2015 he was (to me at least) the definition of male perfection. Strong jaw line, long thick black hair, muscular build, in the back of my mind I thought he was out of my league all along.

Anyway we split up, time passed, feelings faded and today I decided to look up his Facebook and my god I got a shock. He would be 23 now but he could pass for 30, he's noticeably put on weight blurring the jawline I once admired, his hair has gone flat and wiry and his face is covered in a stubble that serves only to make his cheeks look grimy. I had to scroll back a few years to double check he used to be as beautiful as I remembered.

My question is- is it bad that I felt a pang of amusement at this? Has anyone else had seen ex go downhill and felt a bit smug? Am I a bad person?

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  • Eagwol
    6 years ago

    I find this amusing. I be the same way.

    Don't feel so bad about it eh? No shame in taking pleasure in others down fall. ^_^.

    But I do enjoy being the devil on the shoulders, it could be very bad. But who cares? Take pride in it ^_^.

    I mean it isn't like you did that to him. And even if you did, oops... :O ;) ;P ^_^. Lol

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    This doesn't make you a bad person overall, but it is messed up to think this way; makes you seem real bitter. Did he break up with you? Was he abusive?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I broke up with him because he took me for granted and wouldn't stop flirting with other girls. But I've been over it a long time, I only looked him up out of curiosity.

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    • rayb12
      6 years ago

      This was not written by half a pair of overalls

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  • AntiArchon
    6 years ago

    its totally normal..specially coz he took you for granted., I'd laugh my ass off and do a happy dance if it was my asshat ex:}

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    It's not admirable and kinda shallow, but I think it's understandable, since it helps you accept that what happened was for the best.

    But maybe I'm sympathetic because I've done something similar. A couple years ago, I looked up the Facebook profile of the woman I married when I was 20. In terms of appearance, the years have been fairly kind to her, but everything else there confirmed that divorcing her had been absolutely the right decision. She's still as ignorant and bigoted as I remembered her being, and she's turned into a total fruitcake over the decades since we last spoke.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Thanks for your response, good to hear from someone in a similar boat.

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  • Lighttunnel23
    6 years ago

    Must mean you didn't care too much about each other.

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  • RustyKuntz03
    6 years ago

    The fact that you’re still stalking him on fb tells me that you still rub your moist pu$$ee while thinking about his throbbing meat-sword. If he’s gaining weight that means his c*ck is getting fatter

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  • Seahawksfan56
    6 years ago

    Maybe the reason he was looking all handsome was for you. Now that you are gone, he has no reason to take care of himself. You say he took you for granted but maybe you where always passive aggressive and withholding. If he was really into flirting with other girls wouldn't he have just as much reason to look good for them now. Or maybe my experience with heartbreak is mine alone and he really was a d-bag. My guess is He would lose the weight and shave for you in a heartbeat. I know I would for my old flame.

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    • Seahawksfan56
      6 years ago

      As an American Living in Germany since 2015 that moved there because they had their heart broken and felt like there was nothing left in the world for them. I've mostly spent the last two years freezing out in the woods, and haven't had a lot of time to condition my hair. I recently looked at the lady it didn't work out with's facebook page, and saw a picture that just made me feel grateful such a beauty existed. One that cannot wither but only be tampered with wisdom as the years go by and increase. Being cold and miserable and alone with your thoughts in Germany is easy when you have if only for a short while known such a beauty. Your Ex may be going through something similar, but your feelings are normal.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    It's definitely not something to be proud of. I read the comment on why you broke up with him, though. So your reaction kind of makes sense.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    He is lucky not to be with someone who takes pleasure in what you perceive as his decline, or is so concerned with his appearance

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    • Rec1uded
      6 years ago

      Probably man love gone wrong. You know how it is, am I right? Fuck yeah I’m right Ray!

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