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I'm gay, 23 but I haven't told my family I'm gay... they think that Im straight. My father is against gay. Even if its me . should I tell him or should I live with a guilt.?
What guilt. Only tell them if you have to. And if a parent's love is determined by the sexual leanings of their offspring that is pretty fucked up.
But in retrospect, my father hated me too because I am gay. He died 4 1/2 years ago. But there was no love lost between us previous to him finding out anyway.
You let your family down... tut tut. They expected a normal son and boom here you are...
U shouldn't have to feel ashamed and hide who u are. Tell them, if u have a loving family they will still love u and respect who you are
my personal stance, once you are not at all sustained by your parents you can risk it if it keeps bugging you every night. if your dad is completely against gays and you still require his support then you might start to regret it
You shouldn't have guilt regardless, being gay isn't something you can change. I wished it away myself for years until I eventually accepted it and came out.
My advice would be to only tell your family when you feel safe to do it. If you're still living with them and you think they might get violent or disown you, wait until you move out and become independent.
Coming out to your parents is honestly the hardest part. Once it's over with, you'll know where you stand with them. And if it's that bad, you're not obligated to stay with them for life. They might surprise you though, my Dad took it much better than I thought he would when I told him (my Mom was actually worse than I thought she'd be, although she has come around since).
Why do you need to tell anyone? Its your personal business and no one needs to know. Only 1 would be your partner. I don't hide it but I don't tell anyone I'm bi. Its just none of there business.
The answer is inside of you. How bad you think your father will react? Do you think he would expel you from home? If you think he would do something like that, maybe just tell them when you're able to buy your own house and have your own money.
In the end it isn't really no one's business what your sexually is. And you shouldn't feel guilty because your father is closed minded.