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I'm fat. Do a deserve loving boyfriend? Note: I don't think I'm going to lose the weight. I've tried and like most people I gained it back. It's statistically likely to gain it back. It's so hard. Do I deserve a boyfriend who loves me? Or do I not deserve on because of how I look?
| No, you don't deserve love who could love a fat person | 10 | |
| You deserve loving e. some men like bigger women and looks aren't all | 72 | |
| other | 7 |
You should love yourself first before entering a relationship. Being overweight neither makes you less of a person, nor undeserving of love.
You deserve nothing, but you can earn everything. It never gets easier, but you do get stronger.
Yes you deserve love! I hope you find someone great!! People love different shapes and sizes and relationships and love isn't only about looks if it's the real thing!!!
You deserve Love . I been overweight all my life
and i Love bigger girls and I Love a girl for real Love
not just for sexual stuff but I've loss lot weight shy
of 100 lbs and i want lose another 50 pounds but i would
still love bigger girls. Good Luck Sweetie!!!
awww you're so sweet thanks for your kind words :). Congrats on your weight loss that's great. I'd like to lose some for my health, but I don't feel optimistic that I can keep it off, but I guess I shouldn't predict the future based on the past. 100 pounds wow you really deserve kudos on that. I'm so happy for you :)
You're so welcome :-) Thank you so much with
your kind words too . Yes, it's been a battle
to lose weight and i do try my best. I go out
walking and just cut back but i still eat all
foods. I find it's how much i eat but i will
say I had to have my heart in it and It seems
to be working i loss inches in my pants and went down
8 pants sizes. Thank you with your kind words i do
appreciate it so much.
It depends on your personality if you deserve love and what you do(actions) not weight.
You are never entitled to love from another person, except maybe your parents when you're a child. By all means, go on looking love, but don't approach it with the idea that anyone owes you. Maybe that's not what you meant, but some people do seem to feel that way (I actually see it in men more often) and I think it's unhealthy.
If you believe that you can't lose your weight, that you don't have the willpower to do it then how are you going to cope in a relationship with ups and downs? You won't care for your own body - how can you care for someone else?
You need to boost your self-esteem. Losing weight will give you a sense of confidence as clearly you're not happy being obese.
You're such an asshole and a tool. The two aren't related. There are many ways she can boost her self-esteem. You don't know jack.
I can't say whether or not you deserve a loving boyfriend, but what I can tell you is it has nothing to do with your weight.
Ellena, try a convalescent home for the blind. That's the best you can hope for.
You deserve love. Just cause your overweight doesn't
means you shouldn't be loved. We all deserve love.
Everyone deserves happiness its just harder to find for some than others. As far as weight you CAN lose it. It takes alot of hard work and discipline but if thats what its going to take to give you the self esteem to have what you want then your going to have to do it or remain miserable. Most ppl can lose alot more than they think just be cutting out breads and processed foods along with simple exercise like walking. If you do it and stick to it you WILL lose weight. At some point you'll plateau and have to change up the method but depending on how much you have to lose that may be enough. Do you know your BMI?
She doesn't need to lose weight to feel good about herself. You're so rude. She can feel good about herself just the way she is. There are other ways she can gain self-esteem. In fact, I don't think losing weight alone would make anyone gain self-esteem if they have self-esteem issues. You're such a tool.
I thought mysistersshadow was nicer in this post about the whole overweight thing. She is just giving some advice. For health reasons, it is not a bad idea to lose weight if you are substantially overweight.
That being said, if she chooses to stay overweight, then that is her choice and not necessarily a bad one if she is happier that way for one reason or another.
But the bmi might be helpful here because lots of girls say they are fat and they're not really that fat. If someone is really obese though, for health reasons, it is good to lose some extra weight.
Thanks. I'm ignoring bobo becos hes clearly not mentally stable and seems to have a unhealthy obsession with me. For some reason he thinks hes been appointed the IIN police but the sad fact is hes clearly the one being a bully. Luckily for me I'm not fragile enough to be hurt by any of the shit he spews. And yea the BMI part is really important becos the problem may not be a problem just a misconception and since the OP clearly linked weight and self esteem it seems relevant.
Yeah I've seen her be worse but she's still not nice here or overall. She's totally off base that losing weight is the solution to self-esteem. The health stuff is up to the OP, but she didn't ask about that. I call out all the Jerks on this site including mysistershadow. I've been lurking here a while and I finally decided to make an account and call jerk ad bullies like her out.
Thanks for saying everyone deserves happiness. I think my self-esteem issues are about a lot of things. I don't know my BMI.
Google BMI calculator. You put in your height and weight and it will tell you.
It should also be noted that if you lose weight and are working out and building muscle, there will be a point where you will gain weight even though you're working out. The reason being for this is that muscle is denser and heavier that fat. So if you're losing weight and you start to level off and neither gain or lose weight, then it means that your body has gotten used to what you're doing and should change it up a little bit.
BMI calculators aren't very accurate if all you do is put in an age/height/weight because someone could be extremely muscular for their frame and the calculator could say they're obese. Best way to check is simply going to the doctors and having them test you.
And losing weight may/may not give you a boost in self-esteem. I feel you get a good boost of self-esteem by finding something you're good at, whether it be cooking for others, sewing, knitting, programming, cheering others up, tutoring someone, etc.
And as others have said, love knows no bounds. You can definitely find someone who'll love you they way you are now. And if you still feel the need to lose weight for yourself, I'm sure they'd help encourage you and support you through it and will love you regardless of whether or not you reach your goal or not.
I hope you find someone.
-the nuggets made of chickens
Of COURSE you do! That's not even a question.
If being chubby makes you feel insecure and unworthy - work on your self-esteem. That's the only thing that can hinder you in a serious, honest relationships, not your body's look. And if you're just looking for casual sex or casual dating, don't forget that men are attracted to all kind of people. What will make the difference in the end is truly your self esteem, and the way you interact with that person.
Don't worry about it, and keep your head up!! ;)
Yes, of course! It shouldn't matter about what you look like! Also those 6 people who said no are seriously wrong. I'm sure you're beautiful.
Single men appreciate single ladies of all shapes, sizes. Then you enjoy multiple helpings at snack & meal time which makes you fitness challenged. Personality matters. If it truly is an issue to you, go figure out a way to lose the weight by diet & exercise.
Sure, you can find love. I do think you're more likely to find love and compatibility with someone like yourself than a guy with movie star good looks. Be realistic in your search. I think when someone goes after someone else who's way outta his or her league it's rather comedic and delusional. Ask yourself this question? Would you date yourself?
No, you're not entitled to another human being. But that's really what your life is all about, isn't it? You think you have a right to eat whatever you want, but you have a right to be slim -- it's nature's fault for making you the way you are. You have a right not to be ridiculed, and you have a right to be a burden on our healthcare system. Your self-entitled attitude is truly disgusting.
You're a total bully piece of shit. You have no clue what her attitude is. You're just making up shitty assumptions. People like you are a burden on society.
Fuck you, all fat people have the same attitude. They (you) need to buy a treadmill and stay indoors out of everyone's sight until you look like a normal human being again, the way nature intended. It's too bad so many people think being a blob is acceptable these days when it really shouldn't be.