I'm embarrassed to try on dresses? iin?

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I used to be a huge tomboy so I never liked any girly clothing. Around my early/mid teens I started wearing makeup and girly clothing and I loved it. I'm 19 now and every so often when I go clothes shopping I get the urge to try on really pretty dresses but I almost feel embarrassed to do so. I think it might have to do with how much of a big deal everyone made it when I started dressing like a girl and wearing makeup. I also don't try on skirts or shoes that might have a bit of a heel. I know it's stupid and I'm pretty sure it's not normal, but does anyone have any advice on how I could get over this?
No troll comments, please.

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  • bananaface
    10 years ago

    I'm pretty similar.:) I've never seen it as a big deal, though. I was very much a tomboy as a child. It's not something I'd get called nowadays, though, because my figure is quite clearly not boy-ish. I'm just a jeans and T-shirt kind of person, though, which isn't really massively feminine or masculine.

    Anyway, I haven't worn a skirt in over ten years. I quite like them, but I just don't really care enough to wear one. I don't like faffing on with clothes. I own three dresses, but I don't wear them as an everyday casual thing. I did feel a bit silly trying some dresses on, because they weren't very "me", but just try to find some that match your style. Do things gradually, instead of trying to change yourself completely. Just wear what you feel comfortable in, but try to push yourself a little bit now and again.

    I think a lot of people want to try something new now and again but find it hard to leave their comfort zone. I don't like getting attention for the way I dress, and wearing things which are overly feminine might do that. I'm not sure if that's how you feel, but I don't see this as being anything strange. Trying new things can be a bit daunting!:)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thanks. Your reply really helped. :) I'll just try on a couple dresses for fun and see where it goes!

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      • bananaface
        10 years ago

        Aww, I'm glad I could help!:) I was just trying to get across that you aren't the only one. I don't feel the same anymore, and I think it's mainly because I feel quite comfortable with my appearance and it's not something I really feel insecure about now. It helps a lot. But yeah, ease yourself into it if you need to.

        It came across a little in you post that you might feel like people will start seeing you differently if you were to dress more girly, sort of. Like you feel you're betraying your style or people will think you're not being "you". I haven't phrased that very well, do you know what I mean? Either way, if that's the case, try to not let that bother you too much. I mean, in a few years it's not something people are going to remember. And you'd only be holding yourself back from what you actually want to do and what you are. Isabella80s is right, something as trivial as this can escalate if you don't deal with it.

        Try not to get too disheartened if you try on dresses that don't suit you, that's normal. It does feel great getting clothes that suit you well, though. So yeah, just go and try a bunch on and see how you feel. Happy shopping!:)

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Yeah, I sometimes get so caught up in what people will think of me if I dressed differently, that I just stick to the same style of clothing now. I mean, I like what I wear but I feel like I'm holding myself back just because I don't like too much attention on myself. I guess that's just something I need to work on. How did you become so comfortable with your appearance, if I may ask?

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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    Cool your becoming more feminine. Embrace it. Dont care what people think. Enjoy yourself :)

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  • Summerbing
    10 years ago

    You could wear girls clothing. It's your own right. At the every beginning, you may shocked your friends. But believe me, it will only take a short time.

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  • ryan4399
    10 years ago

    Most girls were tom girls as kids, unless their mom was over-protective. So you don't have to feel bad about that.

    And in terms if being embarrassed, what I would do first is wear dresses around in private at your house or something until you feel more comfortable, then wear them in public when you're ready.

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  • candyswan2017
    10 years ago

    OMG the same happened to me!!! its completely normal. people change all the time, and you did. don't be afraid or embarrassed to try on what you think will look cute on you. If you wanna wear it, wear it!!

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  • kelili
    10 years ago

    I'm embarrassed to wear tight jeans :(

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Why?

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      • kelili
        10 years ago

        I get the feeling that "my parts are being parted" and that everyone is watching only this.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          Ohh. I see what you mean.

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  • Isabella80s
    10 years ago

    When people have made a huge deal of something when we were kids/teens, it can become an issue in later life. I'm sure you're not alone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Thanks. :)

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