I'm embarassed of my autistic brother

I know it sounds bad but I feel embarassed to bring friends to my house because of my younger autistic brother. I just feel that some people won't fully understand what my brother goes through and it will make them feel awkward so i just don't bother bringing a lot of people over. Only a few friends know about my brother's autism and i only feel comfortable with like 2 of my close friends being around my brother because they understand. I really wish i wasn't embarrassed. i love my brother and i wish we were closer but i feel like this embarrassment is keeping us apart.

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  • IAMAFUCKINGPSYCHO

    So what? Dont hide it. If someone acts like a bitch though, he is clearly not your friend, and I strongly recommend to beat the shit out of him.

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    • ultralux

      If you're embarrased of you're brother, he atleast has a valid diagnosis. But there's no diagnosis for your ills my friend. You should learn to love him in action rather than words.

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  • amberlyn1021

    My little brother is and my friends love him. If they don't they can fuck off and die. Remember no ones asked to be born like that so be grateful your not and support him. Switch shoes and see how it feels if your brother was ashamed of you.

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    • matthewkoehler

      that is so sweet you are a nice older sister (:

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  • Enizzle

    Don't try to hide it dude. Shit. Tell your friends he's autistic, and if they wanna crack a joke, rip their fucking teeth out. It's what ID do.

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  • 53739

    blood runs thicker than water

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  • Goodvibrations

    It's more awkward to be ignorant/ not understand than to be told "My bro's autistic; if you have a hard time understanding him, just ask me."

    I'm atypically autistic, so it's not exactly the same thing, but personally I'd would want people to ask and show they want to understand and learn than to be awkwardly looked at like I'm an animal in a zoo.

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  • Rappingly

    Don't be embarrassed
    Flaunt it!
    Show it off!

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  • Riddler

    Are they like severe autistic or like awkward social skill type of autistic? Since if they are high functioning I don't think most people would notice. Also no some people do not understand it and I don't think you are embarrassed so much as protective. You don't want people hurting your little brother and that is understandable. You are a good older brother and take good care of your sibling.

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  • kesdog

    he is your brother and love and repect should be within you straight up and yes he maybe he can be loud but he is your blood and thats all that matters kesdo

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  • underwhere

    One way to tell who your REAL friends are is by how they relate not only to you but also to people who are close to you.

    You have an autistic brother. Autism is surely a challenge to those who are autistic trying to navigate among a world of people with social rules they lack the innate ability to understand, but you already know this. Now it is time for you to help your brother teach about this to your friends.

    Check this out, although it sounds like it doesn't apply to you directly: http://www.autreat.com/dont_mourn.html

    Jim Sinclair wrote that essay primarily in response to parents who found themselves with an autistic child, but I think it applies to any person who is an outsider to autism. Perhaps if you print that out and share it with your friends, after they have met your brother, they will have a better understanding of some of his struggles. Perhaps you will as well.

    I hope this helps.

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  • nick927

    i made a account just to comment on this so plz read it lol.

    Im 18 years old. i have 2 brother nathan and noah.
    Nathan is 9 (autistic)
    noah who is 6.

    when i was 14 we found out about my brother being autistic. it didnt really bother me at first but it started to sink in and i was very embarresed by him, but when he started school i realized how much he needed me to be there for him. he doesnt have many friends because of the social problems it brings. and my youngest brother who goes to the same school as he does always makes sure he talks to his big brother nathan.

    my point is its normal but dont let his problem blind you from the fact he is completely normal just thinks in a totally different way than everyone else did.

    hope this helps (sorry if this is hard to understand)

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  • you should just tell them your brother is autistic. they probably arent used to being around people like that, but if they were your real friends and good people they wouldnt care.

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  • sherry

    Get over being embarrassed. People are more accepting than you think since there is more understanding about autism now. I have a friend at work whose son has Aspergers and he is really weird. But nobody thinks anything about it, it's just the way he is. It's not a reflection on you.

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  • defyingallreason

    Its normal to be embaraced about it. The best thing to do really is get him socialising it will teach him to be less embaracing. And show you up less. I befrended an autstic kid in high school (were still good friends now) hes a great guy, he just needed a chance to be got to be known, the more he socialises with normal people the less autistic he seems. When i met my friend he couldnt even look at peoples faces and kept himself to him self (seemed like my kinda guy in high school) and now he can make what seems like eye contact and he can socialise without screwing up (70%% of the time) , Its normal to be embaraced but the more he socialises and the more you teach him to (without letting him know your teaching him too) the less embaracing he will be by a long shot!

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