I'm dying inside now that i've lost my best friend. is it normal?

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My Best Friend is a girl (I'm a guy). We have known each other for only about a year but during that time she has become the best thing that has happened to me. She has made me a better person and made me some one I'm more proud of. During the year we had a lot of up and downs but in the end we always came back to each other. She has a boyfriend who she has been dating for the past 4 years, but earlier this year he cheated on her but they didn't break up. I was there to comfort her and always be there for her and support her, during this time we realized we had strong feelings for each other and we made out 4 times and then realized that we wouldn't work out because she loved her boyfriend more. Even though I still love her I accepted that fact too and I was ok with it. She confessed to her boyfriend and then felt guilty even looking at me. She now feels that we can't hangout or talk anymore. She says she doesn't want to let our friendship go but she seems soo happy not talking or hanging out with me.
I see her happy and acting like things are normal around and it seems like she is already moving on. I have to see her for the next five years.
With out her I feel lonely, depressed, and sad. I don't feel proud of myself anymore. I cry every morning cause its too painful to see her. I cant bring myself to let her go. And all I want, is her back. I can't accept anyone else other than her, I don't want to have anyone else other than her. I want her to be my Best Friend again.

I don't want to feel anymore.
Is it normal?

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  • TareBear20
    9 years ago

    You're going about it the wrong way. Be there, but don't try to interfere with her relationship. She kissed you? Well, that reveals that she cheated on her boyfriend with you already. What you need to do is back off and maybe let her come to you. She's probably conflicted and has no idea what she's after, which is why she kissed you. She may be trying to avoid you to protect her relationship. There are many possibilities with so many different outcomes. Play it safe and good luck!

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  • DoctorAngelDust
    9 years ago

    I've experienced similar. I was with a woman for 3 years and eventually we broke it off. She got married and that was the last I had heard of her for years. It killed me knowing that she was disassociating with me because she had such loyalty to another man and had circumstances been slightly different, I could have BEEN that man.

    It sucks and it's painful. It's painful because you just know, somewhere in your heart, that you'll never find anyone like them and you'll never experience that same level of connection with someone again. You're dead wrong, though. If you continue that mentality, you will be closing yourself off to a lot of potential opportunities to make another friend.

    She is absolutely right in cutting you out from her life. It is a matter of loyalty and she obviously knows what that is. The pain will eventually pass so for now, put it out of your mind and go interact with different people.

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  • nixred14
    9 years ago

    does anyone have any advice?

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