I'm depressed and hate myself, but i don't know why.

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Is it normal that I hate myself and get depressed constantly for no real reason?
Every little mistake I make, whether it's a B on my report card or just doing something that will make me look stupid, weighs VERY heavy on my mind, and when I do it I can't stop thinking about that little mistake for days. I start crying because I hate myself so much and I cut myself.
I don't have many friends (I have literally, maybe, four) and going to my family for help isn't an option. I'm not bullied (mostly) and the most traumatic thing that's ever happened to me was my dog dying a year ago.
I literally can find NOTHING to be sad about, but for some reason, I am. I have been like this for a very long time and I'm getting tired.

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  • NoClueAtAll
    12 years ago

    You should seek a therapist. Talk to them about what's bothering you. It might help. Good luck.

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    • UngodlyPlatypus
      12 years ago

      Therapist actually dont help you. They make things worse most of the time. Especially when they say, "I know how you feel". Bitch no you don't.

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      • Kitkatpattywhack
        9 years ago

        A lot of therapists have histories of mental disorders, you shouldn't jump down their throats if you don't know what type of life they've led. I want to be a psychiatrist myself and I have an eating disorder, depression, and a panic disorder. Unless you know for a fact what they've been through, you're the one being a bitch.

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  • Phycokitty
    11 years ago

    im 22 now i went thru the same thing i could trip and want to kill myself idk i was popular in the freak way i could care less about others but if i did somthing to this day i want to die over things i did back then some people feel things more strongly. If u stand in superman pose whth fist on your hips chest out head high its scientificly proven to boost selfesteem/ confidence

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  • DameInDistress
    11 years ago

    Go talk to a therapist/counsellor they'll help you through this. Consider asking your doctor for some anti-depressant pills.

    Good luck!

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  • noneo97
    12 years ago

    *benifits. Sorry I'm on my iPod and autocorrect just hates everybody

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  • noneo97
    12 years ago

    This sounds a lot like one of my friends, except she knew why (sorta). If your unsure why, sit in your room in the peace and quite and search your thoughts. Sort them out, try to find peace in your mind and body, and you'll know a lot more. Trust me, I've done this a few times and I learned who my real friends are, who I can trust, and realized I'm in love. Now, this does have some drawbacks and may worsen your depression, but more often than not, the Benicia outweigh the risks.

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  • LIEWM
    12 years ago

    You used the example 'just doing something that will make me look stupid, weighs VERY heavy on my mind'. That sounds to me like a reason. You don't want to look stupid. You don't want a B. So you put yourself down.

    Is it normal? Maybe. Is it common? Very. Is it healthy? No. You over think things and focus on the negatives, it sounds like. Try the opposite. Easier said than done, yes, but try.

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  • saif
    12 years ago

    I do feel the same...i dont hav any friends in my life...

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    • solidman
      12 years ago

      you know thats something realy bad!!!. just go find something you like and be polite to people and youl make friends in no time. just remember there is always hope.

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  • Wonder_girl101
    12 years ago

    Just keep ur mind open to positive thing not. To negative it might help :/

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    • Badwolfbay
      12 years ago

      If it were that easy, I wouldn't be having the problem....

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  • mattsaballer5
    12 years ago

    This is something I learned in biology. Just stand out in the sun. There are chemicals which makes you in a better mood

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    • Badwolfbay
      12 years ago

      I'll try that, but I don't think it will help very much. I spend just as much time outdoors as anyone else I know, and for some, more time outdoors.

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  • thinkingaboutit
    12 years ago

    So your saying your parents or other family didn't put you down as a child? No name called? Belittling? Screaming? fighting? neglected? forgotten about? If you had a happy upbringing, with positive reinforcement and guidance, you should for the most part be fine. You might have felt neglected and unloved as a baby, and have no memory of it. there has to be some reason.

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    • Badwolfbay
      12 years ago

      As far as I'm aware, my childhood was perfect. I had the best parents ever, a loving sister that I got along with well, and hardly any fighting at all with my parents. Currently there's nothing going on in my life that would make me sad. But for some reason I am depressed all the time and I hate myself. I can't figure out why.

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      • thinkingaboutit
        12 years ago

        the feelings and reactions your describing is of an abused person. Most people who take antidepressants have life circumstances that push them to take them.

        How old are you, and when did you first start feeling depressed? Are you male or female? It's important not to exaggerate..

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        • Badwolfbay
          12 years ago

          I'm fourteen and I'm a male. I probably started getting depressed around three/four months or so.

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          • thinkingaboutit
            12 years ago

            LOL dude what your experiencing is because of your raging hormones (really it is). Plus it looks like your a freshman in HS, which is always a wack ass transition. you'll get over this. Join some extracurricular shit... football, debate team..whatever. funneling our depression into some kind of goal is really gonna keep you healthy and focused. Half the people you meet in HS feel the same way you do, they just hide it REALLY WELL.

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  • Anime7
    12 years ago

    Well I can empathize with you to an extent. I'll admit that I'm a little hard on myself when I screw up on test (I'll call myself dumb for the rest of the day). However, self-mutilation isn't the answer to your problems. I think that all this stems from a sort of mentality that you developed where you have to be perfect. You have to have a high grade and you can't screw up. THROW THIS MENTALITY AWAY! Everyone makes mistakes and no one is going to hold over you what you've done. Although there will be that occasional asshole who makes fun of every ones mistakes but lets ignore him. No body is perfect, you have to realize this. You sound like a sweet girl and I guarantee you that you will have a bright future ahead of you, but sometimes you have to treat yourself a lot kinder. Don't hate yourself over minor things, that is no way live. I hope that you realize that while getting a B sucks, you know that you have the ability to do better next time.

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    • Badwolfbay
      12 years ago

      That's another problem I have....I'm a guy. People often mistake me for being gay, or when I'm on the Internet and they can't see me, they mistake me for being a girl. I'm a straight male.
      Thanks for the comment, it really does make me feel better.

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      • Twinfinite
        12 years ago

        I am a straight guy too. Ive always been different from alot of people too and it is ok I think. I don't wanna be like everyone else though. I don't want to smash beer cans on my head and impregnate every girl I see. We are the gamechangers. Einstein was different, so were MLK and Mozart. Just do you.

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      • JustinBiebsFan#1
        12 years ago

        you should do eeryone a favour and try haing sex with a guy

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      • Anime7
        12 years ago

        I am incredibly sorry for confusing you with a girl. This is going to sound extremely sexist but from the posts that I've read the OP is usually a girl. I mean that when the post is about self esteem issues, the OP is usually a girl. I am incredibly sorry about the confusion. Have you tried putting up a picture of yourself on your profile? It could help when people are deciding what gender you are, not that there is a problem being a guy. I'm merely stating that a picture would help. And really I am extremely sorry about the confusion.

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        • Badwolfbay
          12 years ago

          No, it's fine. It happens all the time. I put pictures of myself on everything else I do online, but IIN doesn't seem to work for me when I try to put a profile picture. I don't care though.

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          • Anime7
            12 years ago

            Alright, I can understand that. I'm glad that we're cool.

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