I'm chasing a relationship that i am well aware i cannot have.

67% Normal
9 Comments

I'm in a situation here where the odds of me forging a relationship with this individual (considering our extremely close friendship, and that she is currently with someone else) are slim to nothing. I am aware of the impossible odds, yet for some reason, there's a burning desire raging in my heart encouraging me to continue pushing onward, despite the obvious imminent failure. Am I wrong to pursue a relationship which it's pretty clear I cannot achieve? Is it normal to grow ever more attracted considering the crazy slim odds?

Voting Results
67% Normal
Based on 21 votes (14 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 9 )
  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Sounds like a great way to ruin your life and destroy your self esteem.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
      -
    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      As much as I may want to be annoyed you're absolutely correct. It's stupid, it's insanity, but, it's love. It hits hard, and slowly fades. I cannot say it destroys my self esteem though; quite the contrary. It gives me a goal - it drives me to work towards something, in hopes that I may one day succeed. It will be all the more exciting considering the valiant effort put forth.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      1
      1
        -
      • RoseIsabella
        8 years ago

        What if you don't succeed, what will you do then? I'm not trying to antagonize you, but it not like I haven't been there myself. A lot of us older folks have been where you are now. Even cougars get the blues. I've found myself a mountain lion who's only one year younger than me, yet still life holds no guarantees, especially in love.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    For you this is a good, safe, simple way to stay unattached and therefore, unhurt.
    If you actually had the hots for someone attainable, you might get hurt and that's something you are trying to avoid at all costs.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • FastDoggoAtIncredibleHihgSpeed
    8 years ago

    I was in your situation for about 4 years. Yeah, it sucks. You have to move on. You might still be in love with her but you have to find someone else and ignore that. The only way I was able to move on was by not talking to that person for a long time. I found someone else and by the time I broke up with her, I was over the girl I was pursuing for years and now I have no feelings for her at all. I just needed a break.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • MR.mr
    8 years ago

    Don't waste your time and hers

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    Yep because the grass is always greener on the other side. Just take a big shit on the other side.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Leonard_Hatred
    8 years ago

    yes I can relate, I have sam eproblem with girl I am crazy about, she has loser bf who she chooses to stay with even tho shes unhappy in it. I too fantasize about a relationship with a person who it seems the odds are slim to nothing.
    I sometimes wish I was not attracted to her but i cant turn it off it seems

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • ikky
    8 years ago

    love is insane :P and not reasoned... you are in love lol. other guys would just move on and forget it. you can do the option of trying and move on as well. or maybe she would fall for you *who knows!*.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0