I'm attracted to her personality, not her body. iin?

I'll come right out and say it. My girlfriend is so sweet and funny. She's the best friend I could ask for. But honestly, I wish she'd work out. She's not fat..But she's not tone. She's not as hot as I think she could be, and I wish she would try as hard as I do to look good. I go to the gym everyday. When fit girls at the gym or on the street walk by, I wish my girl was like that. is it normal to ask her to work out? how could I ask her without hurting her feelings? I would hate to hurt her, she is just the cutest, sweetest girl you'd ever meet.. Help? IIN?

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  • lc1988

    Wow, Looks like my boyfriend found IIN and posted a story about me. THANKS DICK.

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    • Shackleford96

      Don't call me DICK, my name is Richard!

      Just kidding :P

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      • lc1988

        hehe =)

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  • ccjigsaw

    My boyfriend tries to push me to workout, but I don't just cause he asks. Pisses me off LOLOLOLOLOL

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  • Accept her the way she is, or just get a new girlfriend. Sounds like she makes a great best friend for you but not a girlfriend. I personally like my boyfriend to be attracted to me, and not just me personality.

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  • admirer

    It's normal to ask someone to take care of themselves health wise. Hell, I think it's ok to insist on it if they're a part of your life!
    If, however, she IS healthy & it's purely aesthetics your going for then you either need to step out of the things-that-matter kiddie pool & dive into something deeper or get a girlfriend that looks just how you'd like her to & who may or may not be the kind of person you much care to be around.
    Who cares how sweet, fun, smart & an all around joy a girl is so long as she's hot, right?
    Priorities, kid, priorities.

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  • Shackleford96

    Ask her if she would like to work out with you. Don't tell her that she NEEDS to work out! Instead, inspire her (in a loving and caring way) to WANT to work out. Tell her how good she looks now(and how much you love her and all that), and you better MEAN it too lest you hurt her feelings, but also tell her that she would love getting into better shape.

    Everybody could do a little better at being healthy. Tell her how great it is/will be for her self-esteem. Tell her of any other benefits you can think of too. Let her know that it is just something you though she might enjoy and you would definitely enjoy doing it with her as a couple. Tell her that you would just like her to try it, and if she doesn't like it then she doesn't have to continue. However, if she really doesn't want to, then that is just something that you should accept.

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  • I think it's fine to want her to be toned and stuff. It's not you being douchey, you just want her to be healthy and look her best. You really do love her, obviously, or you at least care about her a lot, so you're not a bad person or anything(:

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  • hermione

    tell her you want to spend more time together that you miss her when your at gym and wish she was there too (emotional blackmail)and when you get her there after a week keep complementing her telling her that she looks good, that the work out suits her

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  • runnynose

    Ask her to exercise with you. Tell her that you think its sexy when you see girls working out but that your not attracted to them, only her. If this does not work, ask her to go hiking or rock climbing. If she does badly, she might be self inspired to work out.

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  • wuddeva

    ^the best mistake I have ever seen.
    Same problem. Get over it, unless you want to insult her. People see deception, no matter how stupid they are.

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  • piman

    run not rub -__-

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  • 7797OX

    Well yeah that's normal, you've said all cute stuff about how she is but at the end of the day you can't bang a personality can you?

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  • Mrman10

    The worst things about this is that if this was reversed, everybody would be OKAY with it.

    A girl not findig a guy that attractive that is.

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    • Shackleford96

      Double standards suck...

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    • dom180

      This is true. If it was a guy who wasn't attractive everyone would probably be telling him to get his ass in the gym or dump him.

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  • debpratim.ghosh

    It happens to smart people. For others generally the opposite happens

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  • piman

    ask her if she wants to go on a rub with you. running at a very light pace isnt that hard on the body, but can help get her in shape.

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  • u dont realy love her as a gf if u dont like her body is now u should exept her for her u jerk!

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  • Sugarcoateddoll

    I agree with shackleford96 ask her to go with you, if you even the slightest tells her in some way (you might find innocent) she might get really hurt. And you said yourself she isn't fat. You do know it's healthy to have some meat on the bone and not be completely skinny, right?
    To be honest most girls would find it rather offensive especially if it came from your own boyfriend. If she is HAPPY with how she looks, let her stay that way. And if you can't accept it find another girlfriend and keep her as a good friend.

    Sorry if it sounds harsh or anything but this subject is probably always gonna be hard to go through with anyone :) Hope it works out for you!

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  • MissClaire

    I had a friend who once lovingly expressed to his girlfriend that "if she worked out more the sex would be better" - something like that. Anyhew it didnt go well.

    I would ask her to join your gym with you as it would be something you guys could do together. Unless the gym is an escape for you.

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