I'm an 18yr old female virgin, and is scared of being with someone!

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So I'm fairly normal everywhere else, I have amazing friends and go out and have fun and all that. But when it comes to men.. I can be friends so easily with them, but as soon as theres even a smidgeon of feelings on my part I freak out! I get all shy and nervous and say stupid things.

I know what your all thinking, 'well yeah everyone gets that!' But with me, its like.. I want them. I have feelings for them. But the thought of ACTUALLY being with someone scares me! Like, run away scared. I've only ever kissed 2 men, with the help of alcohol. I have a pretty normal sex drive (as in i do want sex!) and when i think about being with that person its great.

But in real life im shit scared. I just cant go through with it! I'm pretty plain looking, i dont exactly have high self esteem but i dont hate myself either. I do worry about the virgin thing though. I just feel like, im a virgin cause no one wants to be with me... which isent true. But i cant help thinking that way! Ugh, whats wrong with me??? :(

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  • travi354
    13 years ago

    Phsss same here girl!

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  • Faceless
    13 years ago

    Best advice I got was driving by a hitchhiker on the highway one sunny afternoon. Know what he said? "Pick me up or get the fuck off my road!"

    This might apply to you.

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  • Lonely2
    10 years ago

    You havent really specified what exactly you are afraid of....the sex, possible rejection, getting close,etc...so i cant comment unless you try to explain exactly what you are afraid of.....

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  • emogirl10000
    12 years ago

    your 18 thats a gd thing your still a virgin coz a load of people at my school have all redy had sex and there 12,13,14

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  • galgal109
    13 years ago

    As wise stated, wait till youre happy with someone you trust and it will just happen naturally. Youre still young so dont worry. And as for being worried about feelings etc, lots of people find it difficult (sorry) but if you find it a big problem,maybe you could talk to someone about it? that you trust?
    Good luck

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Once you find someone proper and you're comfortable with them, it just happens naturally and you won't even feel scared. Don't pressure yourself, 18 is not a good age to lose it at. Most people are too young nowadays...

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  • LovingTogether
    13 years ago

    All youth are attractive! Try masturbation as frequently as every time you shower. Read erotic stories, get aroused and do it! The more you orgasm, the better prepared you will be when the right moment arrives. Just make sure the boys and men use a condom!

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  • rayst
    13 years ago

    Lol you remind me of my ex, she was a 18 year old virgin and very shy about it. She thought i was judging her, she felt like she needed to warn me... Instead of repulsing me ( as she thought ) i liked it very much, because that way i knew she was a good girl with good values, not a slut

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  • Darkoil
    13 years ago

    When the right person comes along and you have spent time together and are comfortable with each other im sure you will realise that there is nothing to worry about.

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  • dappled
    13 years ago

    The media has been skewing things, making us all imagine that the most attractive thing is a hugely confident, bleached blonde, fake tanned, breast-implanted Barbie doll.

    It's quite obviously a lie as the only reason a person would do any of those things to themselves is because they felt insecure to start with.

    The media has a strong voice but so do our natural human instincts and any man listening to those would realise your value, and also that he should take things very, very slowly so that you feel comfortable.

    Good luck. I'm sure you'll get there.

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  • itsmadness
    13 years ago

    If you're not "Ugly" but "Average" looking, you'll eventually find someone you're comfortable with.

    One more thing, a girl virgin isn't really a bad thing.. let's just say many guys want to "deflower" a girl at your age :)

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  • Jesus_Toast
    13 years ago

    I felt the exact same way at your age. I lost my virginity a year later. Trust me, it's fine. =D Brace yourself for the pain, though. Fucking OUCH, man.

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