I'm an 18 year old virgin in college.

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The title explains it all, Im a virgin and no not by choice. Most- if not all will say "oh you're still young be patient and you'll find the right woman for you!". Umm ok thanks but the problem is Im introverted as hell. I cannot maintain social interaction with people my age. Anyway people never approach me or try to keep conversation its always me desperately attacking them with random questions and comments and them responding without interest. I get incredibly uncomfortable in large crowds and always resort to leaving social events because I get extremely anxious and nervous. Because of my social handicap I don't have any friends and spend a lot of time alone in my room on the internet or listening to music. My roommates tolerate me but we're not friends.
I can't hold a convo with a girl and plus, most girls aren't even interested, I haven't found one girl in years that would date me so fml. Even when I tell myself "enough of this pathetic crap! go out there and communicate!" and actually try reaching out people seem to be repelled by me like I'm some disease. I always feel like everyone around is sharing some non verbal agreement to ignore me and isolate me from everything. Im not depressed Im just tired of my shitty misfortunate life. Ive seriously considered approaching loose women from foreign countries when I've traveled lol Im sorry

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Focus more on improving your social skills before you try to get laid all. Crawl before you walk buddy

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    Unless you are drop dead gorgeous, women won't want you unless you are a jerk that is funny. You can't care. Act like you are Brad Pitt, and don't give a damn about getting attention.

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    • daydreamer394
      9 years ago

      Speak for yourself.

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      • green_boogers
        9 years ago

        You must be a 10.

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  • richmanjoe
    9 years ago

    Hire an escort and get over it.

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  • Thatguy777
    9 years ago

    I pretty much have the same problem as you. It seems like I can't get anyone to want to talk to me. Everyone has their own little groups and I'm just kind of there. I've made plenty of acquaintances, but 0 friends. It blows. I'm not even trying to get laid or anything, I just want some damn friends. But it's harder at community college.

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  • Syturio
    9 years ago

    I really dont see any problem being 18yo and still virgin. Better do it later with a decent person than doing it now with whores.

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  • Lonely2
    9 years ago

    I am like you and depending on the degree of social anxiety counseling and meds can help...18 is still young but I am in my 40's and am still the same as I was then...but every dog has its day..if you really want sex it will probably happen...you will probably always have these issues to some degree but your not retarded or anything and will still get a girlfriend and get laid..it will happen...some girl will even like your shyness

    Its hard for guys because girls ( unless you are a movie or rock star or something) will almost NEVER approach you ...unless they are high or drunk..thank god for alcohol or I would probaly still be a virgin...it is true that you increase your chances by approaching them and asking for it...but the amount of rejection can be hard to take and you do have to be ready to fight other guys as well...

    Some days I cant go through with all that and some days I can...I would say I get laid about 1 out of 15 approaches...

    And you will learn to thank god for sluts and alcoholics they can get you through some rough rough times

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    Confidence! You need to relax, it seems like you think people are looking for a reason to dislike you or not want to talk to you- they aren't.

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    I was an 18 year old virgin once (even a 20 year old one), but by choice. Join a club on campus that genuinely interests you.

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  • Negima93
    9 years ago

    Try going slow with social interactions. Try finding someone with mutual hobbies and interests. Go slow, by just interacting with one person at first

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  • Dulse.
    9 years ago

    Worst thing you can do is be too hard on yourself. Don't worry, friend! Thinking things like "enough of this pathetic crap" will only make it worse.

    What you're going through is tough, try as hard as possible to let go of it though. Try practicing mindfulness/becoming more accepting. May help you overcome your fears. Hope this helps.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Why do you think anybody cares enough about you "to be repelled by me like I'm some disease", before they even get to know you? Not everybody is thinking about you or judging you or even aware of your presence, most of the time. It's all in your mind. You need to put those thoughts away and practice your smile. You would be well served to figure out what interests your peers and learn a bit about those things, so you can carry on an interesting conversation with them.
    You've obviously been putting yourself down for so long that you have bought your own line. You can not be as bad a person as you have convinced yourself you are.
    It's just as easy today as it was a thousand years ago, to walk up to someone, smile and put out your hand and say, "Hi, I'm XXXX. What's going on" or "aren't you in my XXXXX class?"

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    • daydreamer394
      9 years ago

      That doesn't go anywhere. I'm talking from experience.
      But the OP is welcome to try it for themselves.

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        Like the man said, "If you ask enough women to sleep with you, sooner or most likely later, one will." One should not give up, and the more one does it, the easier it gets. And, sooner or most likely later......

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Everyone fails before they win.

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  • I_steal_free_bread
    9 years ago

    Well, nothing I can say will be of consolation to you so Im just going to say it, "oh you're still young be patient and you'll find the right woman for you!

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