I'm almost 24 and idk how to make friends

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All my life it is just been too much trouble to make friends I don't really get the point. I would rather just go home and do something by myself. I don't hate people though, I just don't really "get" them. I've had people being friendly with me, for example at work, school, etc. and honestly I just think "why?", then start to tell myself they don't really like me, they're just patronizing or something. I have no idea how to tell if someone genuinely wants to be my friend, nor what I'm supposed to do to let them know I'd be interested, and that I'm not some cold bitch (although honestly it's more likely that they'd just think I'm retarded or something). IIN?

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  • flyingnostalgia
    8 years ago

    Well you just got a friend (っ´▽｀)っ

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      CUTE! ♡
      :-)

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  • erlang
    8 years ago

    I was EXACTLY like you for most of my life. I never had any friends mostly because I never wanted any. It just felt like a waste of time going to parties, chatting after dinner, etc. It was boring and the whole time I kept thinking, "man I'd be so much happier right now if I was in my rooming doing xyz" But eventually after I graduated college I found some people I really did enjoy hanging around and having friends suddenly made sense.

    The best way to find out if someone genuinely wants to be friends? This is piece of advice that I one time when I met with a CEO of a fortune 100 company, just assume innocence until proven otherwise. There are people who are legitimately interested in being friends.

    The most successful method I've had of fostering a friendship if you want to reciprocate or initiate a friendship is to get interested in the same thing as the other person. Even if its fake at first sometimes I've gotten interested in something just because of the friendship that it was based on. I've bonded so much with my brother over action movies, cars, and baseball none of which were at all appealing to me when i reached out to him. You gotta meet people where they is what I've found.

    Sorry for the long post. Good Luck love to see you update the post in a few months and let us know how its going!

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    (((HUGS))) to You, dear heart.
    @-->>---
    ;-)
    ♡

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  • MrSexyJesus
    8 years ago

    Have you tried using chocolate?

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Almost all of my friends after finishing high school, but found some more online. Maybe you can try making friends here too?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      same problem online really... i don't know when one is considered a friend. There are people on here I talk to, that are nice to me, but they don't really "know" me and if they did they wouldn't like me.

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      • Arm0se
        8 years ago

        How do you define friendship... That is a difficult question. I guess it's when someone likes talking to and being around you because of your personality, and you like being around and talking to them for the same reason.

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  • FEMALENATURIST74
    8 years ago

    Here's another friend. U can join clubs that are or may be of interest to u. I for instance have met lots of really nice people thru naturism.

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    • Lord_Flatulitis
      8 years ago

      I keep empty glass jars in my house so that I always have one on hand to grab when I have to let rip some massive farts and then I quickly put the lid on to save it for later. The jar helps keep it natural.

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      • FEMALENATURIST74
        8 years ago

        Another immature answer sadly.

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        • Lord_Flatulitis
          8 years ago

          So, you're saying you do the same thing? I knew I wasn't alone.

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          • FEMALENATURIST74
            8 years ago

            Do Wat?

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            • Lord_Flatulitis
              8 years ago

              *do what.

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