I'm afraid to ask my boyfriend(s) for sexual pleasure

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I haven't had sex yet, but a couple of months back me and my bf (now ex) were in his bed and well, he started fingering me and it was so amazing and I was moaning too, he could tell I was enjoying it, right? Then for some reason he just stopped and was like "do me now." I don't get what happened, I was getting really turned on. He did this a few times and classed it as 'teasing' but he'd never actually finish it - the whole time we were together, not even once. He had plenty of orgasms from me - about 30. I don't know how to tell him, nor do I know how to tell anyone! I feel weird for asking, like I'm putting them out of their way - I just wish he hadn't stopped every time :(

How do I tell a guy I want him to give me an orgasm without sounding weird?

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  • derpyderp
    8 years ago | pl

    Tell him you want him to get you off.
    "Keep going, you're gonna make me cum"
    Simple, sexy & straight to the point...

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  • flamer180
    8 years ago

    Heres how:

    "I WANT AN ORGASM YOU SELFISH MOTHERFKER!"

    lol something like that

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  • Terence_the_viking
    8 years ago

    Just tell him or refuse to do him.

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  • KingTermite
    8 years ago

    I think a lot of guys would love to have a woman that could speak frankly about her needs, desires, fantasies, etc. If you're not finding that guy, keep looking, he's out there.

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  • sexysonofsam
    8 years ago

    Say oh my God, I am so wet and horny now if you continue doing exactly what you are doing I am going to have a big fucking wet orgasm, I am going to spurt pussy juice all over your hand...see how he reaches for his cock whilst he continues fingering the holy bejesus out of you!

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    • Arm0se
      8 years ago

      Oh my ▰o.o▰

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      • sexysonofsam
        8 years ago

        Did my explanation work for you? If not, just say so, I have plenty more where that one came form!

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        • Arm0se
          8 years ago

          Hehe. It did but I'd like to hear more lol

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          • sexysonofsam
            8 years ago

            alternatively what you could do to really get his attention focused is to carry on where he finishes off...

            so when he stops fingering you and says it is your turn to do me now, tell him you want to try something new and exiting...

            tell him to sit on a chair and then proceed to tie his hands behind his back, ties his legs to the legs of the chair, obviously you want him to get naked first...

            then when you have him all tied up on the chair proceed to start jacking him off, when you have him nice and stiff, lick from his scrotum up to the head of the shaft and suck his head only into your mouth, repeat this process a few times...

            when you notice that he starts "lifting" himself from the chair to meet your mouth, obviously trying to get more head action going, pull your head away and ask him if he is enjoying your new game?

            when he confirms this, walk away, go lie on the bed facing him and spread your legs...

            spit on your hand and start rubbing your clitty slowly, lift your legs up behind your head and spread your vulva nice and slowly inserting two fingers inside your warm pussy and start fingering yourself...

            ignore him when he asks you when is its his turn again,carry on alternating between fingering yourself and playing with your clitty, not forgetting to give your "twins" some attention every now and then as well...

            use him and his stiff throbbing cock for visual stimulation to get yourself really humming and over the edge, don`t be afraid to be quite noisy when you cum, say things like "OH MY FUCK", I am COMMING>>>YEH FUCK ME, FUCK ME...then twist and shake your body as if in convulsions...

            stand up, get dressed and untie your boyfriend. Turn around and walk out of the bedroom to the lounge.

            When he comes and asks you what the fuck was that all about? tell him that you also have needs and he better start taking care of them as you taught him or there will be many more unfinished acts of masturbation for him from your side!

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  • orgasmio7
    8 years ago

    Find someone experienced with his fingers & mouth - make sure he make you 'come' properly FIRST.

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  • kendoll969
    8 years ago

    If he cares about you he will finish

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  • Mrs_Hatake
    8 years ago

    He's being a selfish bellend :/
    It's pretty cruel of him to get u going but then stop only to make u focus on him. Sex/love etc is give and take, and it's only fair that he gives you a good time to completion too! Next time tell him you want him to keep going, that you want him to fingerbang you til u cum, cos most guys wouldn't even realise that they've done something wrong - a man's iq seems to drop significantly when they're turned on lol! So communicate, tell him you're frustrated and that you love what he does to u but u need him to do it til u get what u need.
    If you're not ready for penetrative sex then there's nothing to say you can't give him a good handy whilst he's fingering you - that can be a lot of fun with you both getting an orgasm at the end :)
    Main thing - talk, speak up if there's something you want to change/do/dont want to do, want to try something new then ask, look up fun sexy things to do together & experiment. If you do these things you'll have a great sex life both now and in the future :)

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  • snarkygirl
    8 years ago

    Most guys love if you tell them what you like and get specific. Of course he just might be a lazy ass and if he doesn't care about you, find a better partner. But try telling him first. It seems embarrassing as a woman at first but makes and their tiny brains love filthy talk and bluntly sexual talk.

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  • Docholiday
    8 years ago

    You did yourself a favor by dropping him. Don't date anyone that doesn't please you like it's there job ....

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  • ThingOne
    8 years ago

    Most girls say, "Don't stop, don't stop."

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  • Gspyder
    8 years ago

    Just say "no, keep going! I'm gonna cum soon!" And he should be happy to

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  • TheChildMolester
    8 years ago

    Say "more time in that hole" This is what my ex said when I pulled it out of her pussy and she knew it was going right in her ass... So I gave her more time in the pussy hole before I came in her ass. That's why she said and it passed off as feminine to me and I was fine with her wording.

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