I'm afraid that it's not mine

My girlfriend is pregnant and I don't think it's mine she says I'm the only guy that she has been with but I'm not sure if she is being truthful. For years I thought I wasn't able to have children I was married me and my ex wife tried to have kids but it just didn't happen. I want to believe my girlfriend but I can't stop feeling like she is lying to me. What should I do I've already spoke to her she even said that she be ok with DNA testing but I feel that she is just trying to deflect things. Am I paranoid is this normal?

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  • xxLucifer

    It sounds like you may be paranoid. Lots of people think for whatever reason that they can't have kids then they end up having kids. If the only reason you think she may be lying is because of your belief you couldn't have kids then go get your sperm count tested at a fertility clinic. It's entirely possible that in your previous relationship you weren't the one with fertility problems, but your ex wife did.

    If you aren't happy with the results of the sperm test and/or have other reasons to suspect the child isn't yours then go ahead with the paternity test. It's better to just get your suspicions out of the way now rather than waiting.

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    • MissWolf

      100% Agree with you there. I could not have said it better myself.

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  • litelander8

    I agree fully with Lucifer. I've even had a girlfriend get told by her OB she was infertile. She was pregnant a month later. Just keep in mind that she is in fact pregnant and you don't need to be causing her extra stress bc of your insecurities. If I were her I'd be absolutely broken by your accusations.

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    • Ellenna

      Yep, doctors can make mistakes about fertility: I was told as a teenager that I would never be able to get pregnant. I went on the pill anyway, mainly for period problems and got pregnant almost immediately I stopped taking it.

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  • d0esnormalmatter

    Most likely paranoid but you could still find out somehow before she gives birth.

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  • private3

    It sounds like she's not lying, ut get a dna test to be sure

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  • Inkmaster

    Try taking a virility test for yourself. It may have been your ex that was infertile.

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  • LifeIsWhatever

    If you want to put your mind at peace then I guess you should.
    But what the f*ck do I know!

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  • leggs91200

    So do you want a child?
    If not - make REAL sure to DNA test so she doesn't try to get you to pay for it.

    If so, then you have to decide how you would feel about raising possibly the child of some guy your cheatin' ass hoebag of a G/F decided to have sex with behind your back.

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  • Ellenna

    If you believe you're infertile, why didn't you ever have it checked out? Have a sperm test now and I mean NOW: if it shows you as infertile then you'll know it's not your baby.

    It's essential for all three of you that you sort this out NOW.

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  • DIO

    How do you know it wasn't your ex wife the problem?

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  • Wellyoudliketoknoweh

    And if ur infertile and she’s gonna have a child with u, like raising it together even if it’s not urs, wouldn’t that actually be a good thing
    U wished for a child, you have the child and even if it’s not biologically yours, family doesn’t happen only with blood
    Now, if that’s the case ur gf is another matter
    Dunno how to deal with her, but I’d keep the child
    Anyways yeah maybe ur just anxious, dunno

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    • Ellenna

      So you're seriously suggesting OP takes on a child that isn't his (assuming he is in fact infertile) and then takes it away from the mother? Really?

      IF he's not the father and she's told him he is, why would he even want to have anything more to do with her or the baby?

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      • Wellyoudliketoknoweh

        why is blood relationship so important to people
        It doesn’t really mean much
        If u grow attached to someone u count as ur family u just do and OP wants a child anyways
        A father figure can be anyone, not just ur biological father
        That’s just my suggestion, what hell do is his thing cuz I’m not him or her
        I mean u can test it a then decide, but try thinking about it for long. Most ppl would up and go, some don’t and it still works out

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  • RoseIsabella

    Get a DNA test done!

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    • Ellenna

      Unless that can be done now while the fetus is in utero, no, that's a silly idea, because otherwise everyone will have to wait until the baby is born to find out who the fathe ris. OP can just go and have a sperm test now to determine whether or not he's fertile.

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