I'm a loner and the only people i trust are loners

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I've been a loner for over 30 years of my life, and it turns out, most of my closest friends are loners (although most of them are not as extreme of a loner than me.) I have a girlfriend and she's also a bit of a loner as well.

I can't imagine having 0 friends but I can't imagine having more than 3-4 friends either. I also feel little desire to make friends with people who have a ton of friends or an active social life.

It seems the people in my social circle (myself included) don't enjoy frequent social contact but we do like to get together on an occasionally basis, be it every few weeks or months while we spend the vast majority of our time alone or just with our partners.

Does this social circle seem within the "realm" of normal?

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  • GinnyWeasley
    10 years ago

    I am a loner and I don't trust anyone

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  • TheAnarkyOfLife
    10 years ago

    I used to have good friends.
    But being a loner isn't really a bad thing.
    It just means you are independent and work better on your own.
    Alone.
    And being alone isn't the same as loneliness.

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  • Shiroyasha
    10 years ago

    I am kind off a loner as well, but the last kind of people I would trust are other loners.

    The problem with them is that you never know why they are loners. I know many people who act as loners, but are just shy. It happened to me many times that a "loner-friend" leaves me after gaining enough confidence to follow he crowd.

    Also, I don't like gangs of loners either. I think that I fit in other regular groups by providing something different.

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    • linchpin
      10 years ago

      Gangs of loners?

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  • Agirlsbestfriend.
    10 years ago

    loners dont have closest friends, or any friends. your just a wannabe aloner.

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  • Shackleford96
    10 years ago

    I'm starting to think that the definition of a 'loner' is subjective.

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    • Anime7
      10 years ago

      I agree with you. I mean it seems more of like an attitude than an actual state of being, like a geek. I mean a lot of people nowadays who dislike being around others or huge crowds would probably describe themselves as loners, when in actuality they have friends. It's just that they won't go out of their way to be nice to others, like they won't say "hi" to people. They won't talk to anybody unless somebody talks to them. Like if you try talking to one then usually they'll just come off as cold, like they don't really want to talk to you. But even so they have friends and they probably have a lot in common with a lot of people, it's just that they don't really care for making friends. Is any of what I'm saying making sense?

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    Ironically I don't trust other loners even though I am one. If a loner ever tries talking to me I think they must have some sort of agenda. I don't trust sociable people either because I can never understand why a sociable person would want to befriend a loner other than to manipulate them

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