I'm a girl who's in love with another girl but she's ashamed of me

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I met a girl at a party some months ago. After a while, I fell in love with her and she says she loves me too but she would never be with a girl. She has a boyfriend but still I go to her place almost every weekend, we lie on her bed, talk, cuddle and kiss but I leave before her parents wake up. We've only had sex (I used to say "made love" but it's probably just sex) once and she says it won't happen again but still she always calls me and tells me to go there. She says she liked it better when she did it with me whan when it happens with her bf.

I keep hoping that one day she'll accept her feeling and be my girlfriend but I don't know...

Do you think I'm wasting my time? should I try to move on? will she ever change?

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    I feel for you. You are one of those people who yearn for the proverbial fairytale love but attract the wrong kind of people. This other girl, she is just going to use you and toss you away. You owe it to yourself to stop seeing her because you deserve better, oki doki?
    I can see that you are gradually starting to get over her : "I used to say we made love but now I just call it sex"
    You are nobody's treadmill. Don't allow anybody to walk over you and end up going nowhere

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    • Leerings
      9 years ago

      I'm not getting over her at all. For me it's love but I can't call it that because I doubt she feels the same way. Thank you.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Probably wasting your time. If she loved you, she would've left her boyfriend for you. Heck, she'd probably cheat on you if you two were to date since she's already doing it.

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    • Leerings
      9 years ago

      You're probably right :(

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Move on. You deserve better. This girl will keep stringing you along if you stay.

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  • canihelpit
    9 years ago

    Nah, I know this is just a book but, hey. So anyways, I read a book about a lesbian and a girl with a boyfriend, long story short after the battle with her sexuality and leaving her boyfriend, the two girls became girlfriends. Don't make yourself so available, it was the straight girl who always went to the lesbian. Good luck.

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    • Leerings
      9 years ago

      That gave me a bit of hope! thanks

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Forget about her, she's just using you for sex.

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    • Leerings
      9 years ago

      For kisses, I guess. Ugh.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Yeah, I'm sorry. You deserve better than someone who's ashamed to have you as a partner in public, but unashamed to put the moves on you in private. You're not an object, but a person with thoughts and emotions. Don't waste your affections on someone who uses and doesn't respect you.

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        • Leerings
          9 years ago

          You're right :( thank you

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  • fratom
    9 years ago

    What age are you both and her boy friend??? That might go along way to be patient with yourself and her: Make a friend be a friend first I would say: girlei curiosity seems where your are at in making friends with girls: do boys enter your thoughts: ?? you'll be fine just be built up your self confidence and Always believe in yourself

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    • Leerings
      9 years ago

      We're both 18 but I think he's 19 or 20, I don't care. And not really, I'm really sure about my sexuality, I know I'm a lesbian and couldn't care less about guys.

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