I'm a girl who can't orgasm during penetration so masturbate after

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I'm engaged to the love of my life, about to graduate college, and I'm a girl who can't orgasm during penetration with my man, although we have sex at least 5 times a week. so after sex I like to masturbate with him close next to me to make it so I'm not feeling "left out to dry", because he cums and I want to. He masturbates with me too sometimes, when penetration occasionally hurts too much (I'm on birth control). He says he's ok with it, but sometimes i wonder if he is just trying to be nice, but I'm actually hurting his feelings and saying his penis isn't enough for me. Should I be allowed to masturbate after sex?

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    Take his hand and use it to help you masturbate before you start having penetrative sex. Show him, with your hand, how you like it. He could also use his tongue on you, if he's okay with it (make sure you've bathed before, unless he tells you not to).

    You may also want to buy some water-based lube; it's very slippery stuff, so it should help him penetrate you without causing you discomfort.

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  • The_antipop
    10 years ago

    It's a LOT more normal than you think. For you to have an orgasam there needs to be clitorial stimulation. Now if you think about where things are being put in relation to where your parts are, you will notice very quickly that the needed stimulation is difficult to achieve with traditional penatrative sex. It's not impossible, just takes a little effort.

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  • otakuneko
    10 years ago

    I'm the same way I cum by myself try riding him and don't let him cum lol

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Get another guy to suck him off and you watch, then get back to me.

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  • Couman
    10 years ago

    It's better to be honest, and assume your partner is being honest. Once you start second-guessing eachother it all goes down hill. And trying to conform to some preconceived idea of what sex is supposed to be like sure won't do you any favors either. What's important is to find something that works for you two. Although I do agree with the suggestion that it might be enjoyable for him to take a more active role getting you off, even if it's not with his penis.

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago

    Encourage him to use different methods like using his tongue or hand/fingers. Also you need to find a way to make him feel confident about his penis again, you are the guys saying size doesn't matter, and saying that to a guy can be super hurtful and defeating.

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