I'm a 19 year old virgin and it's getting to me

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I'm a 19 year old student about to turn 20. I'm still a virgin but god knows it isn't for lack of trying. It seems when I go out I try to chat up any woman who crosses my path with the intention of sleeping with her. Shockingly, this approach hasn't worked. I'd say I was average looking but I'm very skinny which has led to a bit of a self esteem issue and I feel I have very little to be confident about. I'm very worried that everyone will see me as some sex obsessed nerd and will actively avoid me. I feel as if if I just lose my virginity I'll be glad never to have sex again. Please let me know your thoughts.

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  • qualityaristocrat
    8 years ago | pl

    Derive your self-worth from self, not from others. To do otherwise leads one down a degenerate path.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    8 years ago

    "It seems when I go out I try to chat up any woman who crosses my path with the intention of sleeping with her."

    People can sense desperation, so don't talk to them just for that reason only. Get to know her, go on a few dates, and see of you guys have any chemistry first. I knew a few dudes that lost their virginity to strangers just to "get it over with" and they wound up regretting it.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    First error; going out with the express purpose of chatting up a woman with the intention of sleeping with her. Unless you are a proficient cocksman, it ain't going to work. Kinda a catch 22. Can't get the girl until you are proficient and can't get proficient until you've had some girls.
    Instead join some clubs or activities that interest you, where you will meet girls that share these interests. Then change your tack and just try to be a likable, humorous guy. Girls actually prefer to have sex with guys they like, believe it or not!

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  • NeofelisNebulosa
    8 years ago

    Just relax. If you are constantly frustrating yourself over losing your virginity, it won't happen. Take the time to get to know a girl, then it'll be more special when it happens.

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  • mebaby
    8 years ago

    Your not alone im almost 26 T_T
    shyness is my problem so cant help you just letting ya know your not alone.

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  • JakeS
    8 years ago

    I was 19 going on 20 when I lost my virginity, don't put so much pressure on yourself dude. Find someone you have a genuine connection with, form a good relationship and believe me when it happens it'll be magical.

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  • MisterPapaya
    8 years ago

    Buddy try speed dating. That's how I met my wife. I mean, don't expect to take a girl home that night or anything, but it's a great place to start. Good luck.

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  • Itsnotnormal1
    8 years ago

    Sounds like you got no game.

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    Don't worry about it! It'll happen when it happens. You can't force it.

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  • jethro
    8 years ago

    Try a hooker. They are easy and you dont have to be a good talker.

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  • nicksimmons
    8 years ago

    Get a booty call dude ! it be all over quick

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