I'm 19 years old and have never done anything sexual...

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Ok, so I have a few problems that I reflect on regularly these days. I can't seem to think of anything else:
I'm 19 years old and I just recently started coming to terms with the fact that I am, indeed, attracted to girls. I realized I can't change it so I might as well embrace it. I've only had one lover in my entire life (she ended up being straight, but it was still the happiest I've ever been), and I haven't done anything sexual with anyone. As the days go on, I get increasingly more and more aware of this and I can't help but ask myself, "what the hell is wrong with me?"
I've had multiple opportunities to do things with guys over the pas couple years but I've always gotten extremely uncomfortable and had to turn them down. I'm terrified, more than anything, that I'll never experience love again and I'll end up being the 40 year old virgin friend. Anyway, is this normal? To feel this way? To go through this?

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  • DADNSCAL
    11 years ago

    First of all, NOTHING's wrong with you. You may be a late bloomer, or just have more traditional beliefs about sex, like you want real intimacy before you "do it". I think it's sweet.

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    • Peaceout182
      11 years ago

      Thanks so much, that made me feel a little better :)

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    I wouldn't worry too much :) you have a lot of years left to find love. And if you're not attracted to guy it is normal that you don't want to have sex with them. Girl-on-girl sex still counts

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    • Peaceout182
      11 years ago

      Thank you. I've never had sexual relations of any kind with anyone, male or female. But it's getting harder now that I've narrowed it down haha.

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      • quentari
        11 years ago

        Well don't rush :) There's heaps of women out there who like other women, so just relax and go with the flow. If you're interested in actively meeting someone maybe see if there's any gay/lesbian groups out there (I was gonna write LBG... Whatever but I can never remember all the letters or their order) and join a few groups or just go a few times to meet some like-minded people.

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        • Peaceout182
          11 years ago

          That's great advice! I'm definitely going to do that as soon as I move out of my parents' house (they're very, very against homosexuality) so I can at least make friends who are just like me :)

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          • quentari
            11 years ago

            Ah, anti-gay parents can be a big factor in your own acceptance. Moving out sounds like a good plan

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  • DolphinAngel
    11 years ago

    I guess many teenagers have to face problems with their sexuality and so do I... Puberty or late teenage years are there for discovering your sexuality, experimenting etc. so I'd say it's perfectly normal to worry about things like this...

    Just don't give up your hope of finding love sometime...

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    • Peaceout182
      11 years ago

      I'm doing my best to not lose hope. It seems like the light of hope in me is getting dimmer and dimmer as the years slip past and that's why I'm so anxious about it. Thanks for the help!

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Of course if you don't get poked you will always be a Vegan.

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    • Peaceout182
      11 years ago

      To be honest, I'm not sure what you mean by that. If you're making an analogy, my best response is that I WANT to be vegan. Why should I go do something that definitely makes me uncomfortable, ya know?

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      • DADNSCAL
        11 years ago

        Way to tell him; good for you.

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