I'm 20 y.o and have no job

Is it normal I'm 20 y.o and I don't have a job I really really wish I had one I just can't find the right thanks to my mom she understands me and doesn't say anything about it she still feeds me buys clothes and etc but im not feeling well that my mom still supports me please tell me I'm not the only one here
I don't make money but study which doesn't do my mom any good.

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  • 1WeirdGuy

    UPS is a great job where you can move up and easily make 100k a year. You have to start out part time which is hard work but it will make you tough. They also pay you $5,250 per semester and they dont care if your college is already paid for they just let you keep the money if you go to college. Its a great job for college kids. Starting pay in my area is 20 an hour too.

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  • kelili

    Your mum understands and she probably doesn't want you to feel so much guilt. Be patient with yourself, you're still so young and there's a lot ahead.

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  • SkullsNRoses

    Being a dependent adult is frustrating but remember that this is a temporary situation until you graduate. Your mother is supporting you whilst you study hard for a better future.

    Is it possible to work for your college/uni? A few people I know did that whilst they studied and naturally they are very understanding of the fact you cannot work long hours.

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

    Are you in college? Look for jobs around campus or look to see if there are resources.

    If you can't find a job, look for volunteer opportunities, preferably related to what you want to do later but it doesn't necessarily have to be. It helps build your resume.

    I also know, at least where I live in the US, having a CPR/First Aid certification looks good on resumes. I would also get the ServSafe (or another certification for working with food if it's called something else in other places). That will help you if you want to work in a restaurant, coffee shop, basically any place that serves food.

    I had my first job at 19 and got fired in less than a month lol (Kmart). I didn't get a "stable" job until I was 22. Just keep trying. Even if you start with volunteer work I think it will prove to your mom you're trying to gain experience working and being independent, which is good.

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  • capman

    You need to quit relying on mom to supply your wants and needs. Get a job tomorrow even a part-time at Walmart, McDonalds, Pizza Hut, ect... Will help put you on course to what you want.

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  • Cable4nerds

    you could be like a lot of people I have come across who just mooch off other people, live off the government and complain they “can’t work a real job” and blame the government for bs in their life and are almost 30 🤷🏾‍♀️

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  • jethro

    Join the military and get a skill that is marketable in the outside world.

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  • kikilizzo

    That is very normal, and most 20 year olds who do have a job have a parttime job because it's hard to get hired fulltime. There's very high requirements these days due to high competition for nearly every job out there. I studied a lot when unemployed but tbf I live in a country where studying is free. It might be harder in the US etc but otherwise I recommend that. It always looks good on your CV to have done something instead of having huge gaps.

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    • Grunewald

      I totally agree with kikilizzo. OP, you're not yet in 'abnormal' territory but the time to do something is now. Listen to this feeling of unease and use it as a springboard to action (though don't let it beat your self esteem to a pulp).

      You need to do something with your time that will help you grow as an adult person (because as you've probably already realised by now, hitting the big 1-8 and leaving school are just the beginning of your personal development journey). At this stage in life if you're not in higher or further education, it's obviously not by attending classes that you'll continue to learn: you'll do that by putting yourself in new situations that require things of you, and then finding ways of delivering those things with energy, grit, Google, and a little help from your friends (and colleagues and bosses, and older family members who have your back, if you've got any).

      If you can't find a part-time job, volunteer. Do something with your time that develops all the 'soft skills' you picked up here and there at school and that adds to them. Maybe do something that requires you to work with colleagues or maybe the public, or that helps you hone your decision-making, organisational, communication or computing skills, or that gives you confidence in dealing with adults, children or animals (depending on what you want to go into and what you'll need to do once you're in). You get confidence by doing it and it going okay, and then doing it again until it becomes normal.

      Alternatively you could try and get an internship somewhere you'd like to end up, or somewhere related to it that might require the same knowledge/skills/procedures.

      I'm a teacher at a high school specialising in vocational studies; I'd give this advice to my students. Also, I'm a millennial raised by boomers, and trying to move away from looking at the old perception of work experience etc. as just 'something to put on your CV'. At the end of the day, this is your life and your time is worth more than just marketing fodder to get you through the revolving door of some money-grabbing corporation. I believe that it is possible to use your working life to help yourself grow. That will be valuable to you, the world AND potential employers.

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

    In regards to "he who works not eats not" that's not inherently true. There's evidence of ancient people caring for their disabled members, even if it put stress on their group.

    There was one ancient man they found, I believe with a severe back injury, who was carried around by his tribe. There was another skeleton of another group of a little girl who was severely mentally disabled, but her teeth were rotted. They figured out her family group would feed her very sugary berries from a local plant, very likely to keep her happy.

    Humans have always had empathy for each other, even those who are not capable of work. We still want them to survive. Empathy and love for each other is a huge part what kept humans going. I don't want us to lose that.

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  • ospry

    I'd be cautious about encouraging people to start a business. That's one of the most stressful choices a person can make, especially when you consider that most startups don't even begin to turn a profit until about year 5

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  • Tinybird

    I'm 25 and have never had a job, and I don't study.

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore

    It's fine, I didn't take it as rude.

    I just think people forget humans are actually very attached, loving creatures. But we are still animals and capable of incredible cruelty too.

    I have concern about humans in the future, with increasing isolation from each other. We're ironically more connected yet isolated today than in the past, at least in my opinion.

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  • 1234tellmethatyoulovememore


    An article on the man I mentioned. He was paralyzed before adolescence and still lived a decade being cared for by his tribe.

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