I'm 25, single and have never been kissed.

Once I turned 25 I thought this was going to be my year. I have never had a boyfriend (even in elementary school) and thusly have never been kissed and am still a virgin. When I think about it, I'm not sure why I'm still so inexperienced with all of this. It's not for lack of trying. I mean, at this rate, I might as well save my V-Card for marriage. But I feel like it won't ever actually happen; the falling in love and all that jazz. I am by no means desperate to attach myself to someone but I'm starting to wonder if it's too late. I am mature (most of the time), polite and an all around fun person to be with, so I just don't get it. Is this normal for someone my age?

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  • rebel2010

    Never too old. Kiss when you are ready.

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  • I have also never been kissed, but i have done other things...... such as tennis and knitting.

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    • AlphaQ

      Guys: If a girl shows interest, ask her out. Keep advancing till s**. If you start chasing her game over. Just blow her off first. Notice the red flags shes not that into you.

      Girls: Just be honest to a guy and tell him your feelings. If hes interested he'll give you the D. and relationship you've been wanting.

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  • andrian007

    Well, Susan Boyle is 48 and she has never been kissed. Sorry, I don't think that will make you feel any better...

    There are many things you didn't say about yourself. So let's start with a few things: are you the homely type? Don't like to go out and prefer to stay at home? Are you shy? You afraid of love? Do you freak out when guys ask you out?

    The easiest thing to do really is go out there and socialise. For every 10 single men you meet around your age (or slightly older), at least one of them will eventually ask for your phone number and ask you out for movie/coffee/dinner. No problem at all!

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  • fallcrysilk

    Well,I'm 25 and unfortunetly a virgin as well but that's because I have body image issues.So I know what my issue is.

    At any rate,my only advice for kissing,which ive had my share of,is to just do what you feel.Flirt with a guy,get touchy feely so he knows you want him to kiss you,and he will.

    There literally is nothing to it.So after it's done,you'll wonder why you were so nervous about it.
    Trust me when I say,a guy wont' be able to tell you've never kissed anyone before,because there are plenty of people who are experienced kissers and still really horrible at it.So know that.
    Trust me,I've kissed a lot of people.I know.
    So my point is,lack of experience doesn't neccessairly mean you'll be bad either :)
    The guy literally will not be able to tell it's your first kiss.So you have absolutely nothing to lose!!

    Remember you don't have to sleep with him if you don't want to.You're just trying to at least get the kissing thing conquered.And then hopefully,both me and you will get over whatever the hell's wrong with us lol and get onto the other stuff.

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  • alv1592

    I feel good knowing I'm not alone.
    but these comments made me kinda sad :( I'm 18 and a half and haven't been kissed. really I'm fine with it as long as it doesn't have to do w/ the way i look...

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  • EagerEmilyG

    I am in the exact same boat. It doesn't seem like it would be normal, but there are at least two of us out there.

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  • flamenquera

    I am at the same place in my life, I am 23 though. Never had a boyfriend, been kissed, have been out on a date, or much less have sex. I think its great that you don't want someone to complete you, rather compliment your life. I know its hard and a lot of crap goes through your head; thinking there is something wrong with you or that you are not good enough. But, at the end of the day just be thankful and know that its better to be alone than bad accompanied.

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  • normalisoverrated

    Let me kiss you :*

    Morissey

    Jokes aside I am sure there are plenty of people who'd wanna kiss you..

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  • OmgPirate

    Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, it's normal. I am 19 (I have had girlfriends when I was younger) and I am still a virgin and have never been kissed. I just don't see the point in having a grilfriend right now, it's just extra stress which I don't need. I plan to work hard in college (which will be easier because of the no girlfriend thing) and then when my time comes it comes. I was mature even at a very young age and did not want to lose my virginity at some party to a drunk girl that would not even remember my name. I want to lose it to a guy or girl that actually cares about me and knows my name (I am bi).

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  • Solimorphic

    Women do the choosing.

    Just go get someone! Fix yourself up a little if necessary. GUYS ARE EVERYWHERE!

    There are several posts about young women who can't find someone, I think they are fake.

    Sorry.

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  • I honestly can barely believe you're asking this. You are already 25. You've gone through over 1/4 of your life. You should know this or not have to ask this!! I'm 25 too and yeah, it is normal, but not like 100% normal. But it is a normal thing that you go through, if that makes sense. Just keep living your life normally. Live well; live fun. And don't think so much! You're not a teenager anymore!!

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    • rockera

      I can believe she's asking it. Society gives us a timeline of when we should hit those markers in life. First kiss, marriage, children, retirement. Those of us who are a little behind, can't help but wonder if we are normal or not. Honestly, you've probably have been spared. So many of my friends rushed into things: sex, marriage, etc. They have such screwed up stories. Believe me, not being kissed yet is not the worst that can happen. I hope it's great when it does eventually happen! : )

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  • cuntsniffer

    Well, are you uglier than a weimaraner? Are you fatter than a minivan? Do you have large growths on your chin with black hairs growing out of them?

    These are the only things that would stop me from kissing you. (I am a minivan with growths on my bumper.)

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  • Scarlett12

    I also have never been kissed or had a boyfriend no guys seem to want to date me ive been rejected a few times

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  • thomas84

    And what do you think if we turn the tables? I am 28 and had my first and only kiss with a girl at the age of 27. She must have been really experienced with that as she really led all the way through and surprisingly enough I have got into it very quickly. I guess the experience was so enjoyable that it paradoxically backfired and prevented me from calmly going into a relationship with her. She was 21 - with three times having been blown off by her boyfriends in the past, so quite a burden of negative relationship experience - and admitted thinking of a relationship with me, however I have simply acted too clingy and too insecure afterwards, which eventually made her blow me off... What would you think of my situation? Both those of you, girls, who are experienced in kissing/sex/relationships and those who admitted not having been kissed before? Would you think there is something dreadfully wrong with me? Would it be attractive for you to have your first relationship experience with me? Cause after the experience I have just described I guess it may have been easier for me to establish any kind of relationship bond with a girl who has not experienced a kiss before, that would create the 'first time'-based bond for us. And, guys, any of you had a similar story? I would be grateful for any insight you may have on this.

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  • SamanthaItaly

    Plus if that don't work, I'll be happy to kiss you. lol.

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  • SamanthaItaly

    You're most likely a very sexy person without even knowing it. Believe it or not, men are afraid, like women, to look foolish in front of someone they're attracted to. Plus, some people can be real pigs. Those are the ones you don't want to lose it too. Don't worry about it though, the right guy will show up and you'll see he was well worth the wait.

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  • assh0le

    Halitosis?!

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  • stridenttrident

    I'm in your exact situation. I'm turning 25 in two months, never been kissed, never had a girlfriend, never even held a girls hand. I think I'm an average looking bloke though I've been complemented on my looks before. I'm outgoing and empathetic, yet here I am. I'm on dating sites, and I always take the initiative, but alas, still single. So yes, it is completely normal. I know it sucks. You can beat yourself up over and over again for thinking that you're not normal, but you are. Hold out hope, and live for yourself because no one else will give you validation of worth besides you.

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  • soso84

    Hi, I'm 27m who never been kissed or had sex(I'm a virgin). I like girls who are the same and i want my wife in the future to lose her virginity and have her first kiss with me. Do not be ashamed of that, OK

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  • SirTannen

    I'm 18, single, and I've never been kissed and am still a virgin, frankly I'm just waiting till I meet the 'special' girl, which I really don't think will ever happen considering my hobbies take up all my time and I don't hang out with any people outside of my friend-circle. :\

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  • screamdemon

    Try prostitution. It's not safe and u get paid to do it. Your welcome and good nite. Thank you I'm here all week

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  • screamdemon

    Homobean that's funny and cuntsniffer that's fucked up in so many ways. But this story reminds me of the 40 year old virgin lol

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  • Rhysi

    dont listen to the comments your never to old etc etc do it now before you get fatter and uglier go to partys etc boys dont care how u look but fillng them up with alcho first wont hurt.

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  • Rhysi

    woah i thought i was a little slow i kissed a girl when i was 15 and pashed a girl when i was 16

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  • alexisfreak

    This is not normal. Most of the guys I know have already f*cked literally 10 GIRLS EACH! Surely, someone has to be interested. Maybe he is hiding his feelings. He is afraid that you will reject him. Just come up to a guy and start showing off your stuff. Are you fat? Just asking.

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  • bdasd

    it may not be that normal babe, sorry, you have to face that. if i had to guess, probably 95 percent of women your age have been kissed.
    idk wat the problem is because idk you, but your obviously VERY PRUDE!
    change that, its easy

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    • maacri

      Seriously girl,
      Men are waiting for a girl who is never been kissed.!

      Tip: You will never get a good guy to kiss until you show him your real self. Go and hang cheerly.. Wat's gonna happen anyway..!

      If all else fail, come back. I will be here..

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