I'm 19, my little brother has more sex than me.

Okay, so you described yourself as a nerd, unhygenic, jealous, unfulfilled, and to top it off you totally degraded youself completely.

First of all I believe in online dating. Its normal, really. I have done it, and actually I'm going out with someone right know from the internet. Don't say its fake, you're just putting yourself down more.

Second of all don't be jealous of those around you and especially your brother. Seriously? C'mon, you can do better than that.

Okay, first thing you need to do is build confidence. Learn to respect yourself, and that means get clean. It does alot. Keep your skin clean, hair un-oily, weight under control, etc. Just try not to sit at your computer all the time. It helps. And eating salad every couple of days won't hurt either. I suggest eating one serving of fruit AND vegetables everyday. Watch the carbs in bread, and don't eat fried foods, hon. (McDonalds... Eww! >.<)

Once you get good with that, look for a job. If you have a car, great. If you have no way to get out anywhere (or to work), I suggest selling a few things (let go of your darling PSP. I could never sell mine, though xD;;). A job will help you even more. Girls like you to by them things. I would know, because I'm a girl looking from a boys' eyes (I act boyish, I can't help it).

Get inside a woman's head. Know when to kiss her, when to leave her alone, etc. If you know that already, then great! I'd keep it all in mind, of course. Always respect them.

Go out more, PLEASE. Meet new people - especially girls. But even if she is taken, be her friend (and don't have the "creepy-stalker" vibe). She will help you get a girl, guaranteed. Just don't ask her lol. Same with guys. I'm positive they'll have hook-ups.

Go to places that interest you. Barnes & Noble, for example (yay books! x3). If you like books, and you see a girl who likes books, then great! Don't be afraid to go up and talk with them. It also is a good thing to like the same thing (manga, history, mysteries, etc.) but again not an acquirement.

I said all of this because I know where you are coming from. I used to have a lot of the same problems you have now. Just remember: they aren't permanent!

Try it for a few days. Find the courage and strength in yourself. I hope everything works out. Don't let anyone pull you down.

Here is my MySpace:
myspace.com/thisishowixxx
Check me out if you need any more help or you just want to talk. ^_^

Oh, and I'm not 16, a male, and I sure as hell don't live in Japan (I wish I did, though -_-).
My MS is a lie, you'll see.

Have a great day!!

~ Jade

I make this short and sweet so I dont waste 30sec of your boring life. Get off you butt and get out of the house get a job make money move out. The fact that your brother is more successful then you should make you want to get out and be better. Im almost 18 and have been working since I was 14 I bough my first truck at age 16 and I love having money and spending it on whatever I want im hardly ever at home cause im working all the time and I love it.

Sounds like depression I have it too but I don't let it get the better of me clean yourself up and you'll start to feel better then lose weight I imagine sitting around made you a little overweight then go bang something. Boom boom boom problem solved.

No way to wash your cloths but internet? wow...

If you follow something it happens.You just sit and say he does it I can.You should act instead of thinking

first of all, you have no confidence. you need to work on that first. next, you need to ask your brother if you can wash your clothes where ever he does, and find a job. then you can take your clothes to a laundromat, because you will have money, this will lead to better hygiene and better habits. also, a job will open you up to opportunities to make friends. but remember, confidence is key here. not everyone is dealt an easy hand of cards, believe me i would know, but self-pity and turning into a hermit is not the answer. do what you have to do.

ur lazy, have a shower and go out with your friends. and there are ways to wash your clothes even if you dont have a washing machine

u need to get up and fix urself if u want sexdrive

wow its kinda sad lol

911-therapy :D

Just love yourself and you'll be confident

Hygeine, and personality are pretty much everything. 1. Start cleaning yourself.. and work on your confidence! 2. Why are you comparing his sex life to yours.. he is your brother not you. Everyone moves at different speeds. Just wait until marriage or something? Tell people that's what you're doing if they ask i_i

I know this post is really old and junk bu if you are still wondering personally i like nerdy guys i mean hygine is an issue don't be smelly,but beig a nerd and kinda a loner isn't bad :) as I said before I love nerdy gamer guys.you just need to find a person to relate to

you have just described my old self there other than the unhygenic thing. the way i got out of it was i started to dress better wash even more than usual, and go out with my mates and make new connections from there. i hated everything about myself, so i started to act like i was in love with myself and was the cockiest guy in the room, and when girls admitted they think im as great as i do (or acted) it started to build my confidence. now im pretty confident, ive got 10 gals in love with me, ive got a bunch of mates, and there is always something to do. im finally content with myself, and its all because i acted the complete opposite of myself. it may or may not work for you, but it did for me, so its surely worth a try, because if it doesnt work you wont have lost anything, but if it does work, you could gain a lot

First) Change that attitude, I don't like it one bit. You should care about yourself, it is your life and experience that are relevant to you.
Second) Get the hell out of that damn house and take a walk somewhere, the Internet and your games are not going anywhere. They'll be there when you get back.
Third)Get a job and develop interests unrelated to computers i.e hiking, swimming, art anything.

You seriously need to motivate yourself, it's not too late. But life has a strange way of passing us by, so enjoy it while it lasts.

In order to make a big life change like this you have to want it more than anything. Start with taking daily showers and do your laundry at least once a week. As soon as you get that together get a job. save your money buy new cloths get an apt and the rest will follow. Youll find that once you stop looking for something youll find it. Unless none of that will make you happy. If you like being dirty and its just about the sex theres tons of chicks that dont shower or care about money cars etc. But your options would open up quite a bit if you do change.

GET OFF YOUR ASS AND DO DOMETHING JESUS FUCKING CHRIST I KNOW YOU ALREADY N OTHE ANS I DONT MEAN TO BE MEAN BUT STOP FUCKING MOANING AND DO SOMETHING

Of course we all find it easy to say
'wash, make new friends, get a grip' but i doubt any of us could instantly change our outlook and sort out our lives in a matter of days.
This situation is just like when people are trying to 'discover themselves'.
You need to sit down (With the computer turned off) and think about what you want to get out of your life.
Try thinking positively when you wake up in the morning and just doing small things like walking round the park, visiting the library, seeing a friend, they can all help you see the positive aspects of your life and all the possibilities ahead of you.
When i read about you i thought you were middle-aged. You need to lighten up and acted like the young person you are in a way you feel comfortable.
:D

Dude,

You have to stop smoking that cush buds and go live life like your little brother. Sex is not going to come knocking on your door neither is a job. here is a formula for you.

Stop Smoking Stop playing video games all the time = More time and energy for a shower.

More time and energy shower can = a job

a job = money, which = a car, which = SEX

here's what you do.

1. upper your self esteem. you sound like you hate yourself! seriously, you'll get nowhere in life with attitude like that!

2. get motivated to do something. write a book, get a job,go to college, be a musician, whatever interests you and that you can afford. follow your dream!

3. if you follow your dreams or get a job, you'll meet people. and probably have sex.

be more like your brother.

clean up, suit up, and get a job.

ive the same problem except that im 20. i know im not bad looking but im too insecure when i speak to girls. ive aproached a couple of cute girls in my life (suprisingly in my insecurity i still approach girls, cute girls) but they always say no at the end and just want to be my friends. i guess i will just have to wait then and its very hard cause im really into girls and i get jealous when other guys without the need to approach them or anything get a lot of girls for themselves

You already know what's wrong with you, it's really up to you to fix it, now isn't it? I think it's normal to be a computer bum, but to sit around in filth while your at it isn't.

Once you get good with that, look for a job. If you have a car, great. If you have no way to get out anywhere (or to work), I suggest selling a few things (let go of your darling PSP. I could never sell mine, though xD;;). A job will help you even more. Girls like you to by them things. I would know, because I'm a girl looking from a boys' eyes (I act boyish, I can't help it).

Get inside a woman's head. Know when to kiss her, when to leave her alone, etc. If you know that already, then great! I'd keep it all in mind, of course. Always respect them.

Go out more, PLEASE. Meet new people - especially girls. But even if she is taken, be her friend (and don't have the "creepy-stalker" vibe). She will help you get a girl, guaranteed. Just don't ask her lol. Same with guys. I'm positive they'll have hook-ups.

Go to places that interest you. Barnes & Noble, for example (yay books! x3). If you like books, and you see a girl who likes books, then great! Don't be afraid to go up and talk with them. It also is a good thing to like the same thing (manga, history, mysteries, etc.) but again not an acquirement.

I said all of this because I know where you are coming from. I used to have a lot of the same problems you have now. Just remember: they aren't permanent!

Try it for a few days. Find the courage and strength in yourself. I hope everything works out. Don't let anyone pull you down.

Here is my MySpace:
myspace.com/thisishowixxx
Check me out if you need any more help or you just want to talk. ^_^

Oh, and I'm not 16, a male, and I sure as hell don't live in Japan (I wish I did, though -_-).
My MS is a lie, you'll see.

Have a great day!!

~ Jade

Well, sounds like you need to get your life moving in a more positive direction, Take Showers Daily, Go to Laundromat, Get a Job, Go out and make new friends, and things will get better. Or, Maybe you're gay and in denial, who knows???