I'm 18. he's 34. iin?

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Okay, I just read a comment on some other age difference story where the person stated, as long as you're both adults, why not? So now I am asking my own question. I am a young adult, and this 34 year old guy id crazy about me, as I am him. He is super good-looking, charming, caring, loving, and considerate, and he thinks I am awesome as well. However, do you think there is a future for us? I had always been the type that wanted to marry someone while I am young, and have kids, but now I fell in love with this guy. And I wonder if everyone will think we are weird, and we will be miserable, besides, he is divorced, and maybe that would add even more baggage to our relationship. But we are SO deeply in love. Help!

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nilsoj46

12 years ago

I am married to a man who is 15 years older than me. When I was 21 and he was 36 it worked out. However, now that I'm in my forties and he is in his sixties it doesn't work so well. That's not to say that it can't, but for us the age difference really shows up now. I wouldn't recommend it to my own children - but if you love him you love him.

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  12 years ago
  
  Okay, I can see what you are saying. Having to put up with a gray-haired, pot-bellied 60 year old could be depressing when I'm still a reasonably hot 44 year old. But then, you're right, love is willing to overlook such things. But like you, I would never recommend it to anyone. I won't say, c'mon girlies, go for someone twice your age!!! But once love happens, I am not a fan of chickening out.
  
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MajorKusanagi

12 years ago

if the 34 year old guy has the maturity level of an 18 year old... good luck with that :/

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  12 years ago
  
  NO, actually it's that I have the maturity level of a 34 year old. jk, lol. But I think we meet at a medium of about 25 years old, as far as our maturity levels. :)
  
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DannyKanes

12 years ago

It won't work out, sorry.

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chubbyguyswithbeer

12 years ago

ITS NORMAL ! AGE SHOULDNT MATTER WHILE UR IN LOVE

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Okay. Thank you! :)
  
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helmsman1

12 years ago

As long as you both love each other.

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LightningTechnician

12 years ago

Yeah it's normal, next.

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nowimsureimsane

12 years ago

Nope its the fact that im a master at everything.and i miss you.and im sick of only huggs i need kissies now.and im not sorry.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  I see. Good for you. So I take it your not mad at me anymore over the whole elitist thing? *grins with relief* And okay, I understand how you feel, so sure, why not? xoxox :)
  
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10.5inchard

12 years ago

hey there sweethart i think if u love him go to him its your life .if u love someone in that way dont loose him .i date a 18 year old any day mesg me back please

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  Thanks for the encouragement. It is hard to feel that way anymore, seeing as so many people are so judgmental. You sound like a nice guy. Have a great day!
  
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nowimsureimsane

12 years ago

Yeah i know who you are and huggs again........

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  12 years ago
  
  How do you do it? Is it something with cell phones always showing a person's screen name, regardless of whether or not they are anonymous? Hugs returned...
  
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sunny_wantsome

12 years ago

He is using you i think and will fly off soon

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  12 years ago
  
  But no, that's the thing. He first kissed me when I was 16, and we have been in a relationship since then, although he patiently waited for anything sexual until I was of age. Because of this, I am convinced he is truly in love with me, and would do almost anything for me.
  
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  - sunny_wantsome
    
    12 years ago
    
    Tell us more about your relationship and the things going on, as i dont think he is faithful and you are just 18. I am saying this because one of my friend was in the same situation she was 18 and his bf 36 WTH and later the results were as predicted.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      12 years ago
      
      Well, for the first while nobody had a clue we liked each other, but now that people do, we are getting a lot of ridicule, and he is getting the brunt of it. He is enduring and risking a lot, and that convinces me he really loves me. He tells me everything, and I know for a fact that he has not slept with anyone else since we started our relationship. For him, he can never see sex as a light thing, but says he views it a deep, enduring commitment. He pretty much keeps to himself a lot, and is depressed much of the time over his divorce, lack of a good job, etc. But when he is around me he is the most devoted, humorous, passionate, romantic, loving person I know. I didn't know it was possible for two people to be as in love as we are. It makes us not care about any obstacles, or what people think.
      
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      - sunny_wantsome
        
        12 years ago
        
        In short, if everybody around knows about your relationship, If you both are committed to each other, If criticism does not affect your relationship, if you both enjoy being with each other, if either of you do not care about any obstacles and what people think, if sex is not the thing..
        
        Well keep going i dont feel anything wrong but it sounds lovely. As it sounds the guy needs support now and you are the one providing it to thim.
        
        Hope the ex-wife does not returns to his mind and his children if he has.
        
        But i would like to tell you about my friend even she was madly in love with her bf as i told you about her and she wanted to be with her all her life even though he was married and had kids, just after 2 years when the guy was bored from her, He left her and now she has a tag on her of Slut.
        
        I dont wish this to happen to you.
        
        But still i dont find it normal and i dont believe it shall last as time goes on the thoughts and feelings will change you shall see a new world and realize it yourself.
        
        God Bless You
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        12 years ago
        
        Thank you. It is amazing how moved and comforted I can be by the words of a stranger.
        He actually does have kids, and that is a big obstacle for me, having to accept that they will always be in his life. However, they are beautiful, lovely kids, and adore me. As for the ex wife, at first I was a bit jealous, but then I got to witness a couple of their fights. She is a nosy, manipulative, unstable person. He is not into her at all anymore.
        I am so sorry about your friend. I really do feel for her deeply, because the word gets out, the more I know people assume me to be a desperate slut, and him a cradle-robber. However, I must say that I, unlike your friend, would refuse to ever be with someone who is married. I still believe marriage is a holy covenant, which I mean to keep, and do not wish to aid others in violating. I am not passing judgement on your friend though, and still sympathize with her deeply. It is sad that there are so many guys like that in our world.
        You seem like a wise, caring, understanding, and knowledgeable person. I certainly hope you have found that special someone who you love, and who loves you for being the lovely person that you are.
        God bless you too!
        
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nowimsureimsane

12 years ago

Stupid me your the girl..oh well wont matter anyway because you little girls never listen anyway.but yeah i really do care for her but guess what shes going to be the one to throw me away....stick that in your hat and ride away on your horse with it.....

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  12 years ago
  
  I don't mind listening to my man. If he wants to boss me around, well, fine, he is 16 years older than you. I know you from some other stories. :) You seem like an interesting guy. Good luck with the girls, although I hope you just pick one special little lady and settle for her. :)
  
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nowimsureimsane

12 years ago

Its fun damnit its perfect glad you asked the question problem is you seem to only have one now i feel sorry for you damn it must be why i stay at this job...well kinda knew it anyway..plus i have authority over them.do you blame me?

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nowimsureimsane

12 years ago

Damnit i just had a whole story on this and it was blocked but yeah im 34 and the girls i work with are 16 to 24 and there is an amazing girl there now shes 19 absolutely a gem i dont know how normal it is but for me it seems very natural.an older manly man like me they fucking love it but at the same time theyre so young so they might not know how to act i dont gaf i just be myself and its great and very sexual personally i think its perfect those two ages go great together...guess im lucky cause i have many around me.perks of working in a restaurant i guess....muhahaha!

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jasmine81

12 years ago

It's normal but don't move too fast. You are still young and while you are technically an adult you still have a lot too learn. Just be careful. But if you love him than that's all that matters.

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diddlyo

12 years ago

thats step 3

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  12 years ago
  
  What's step 3?
  
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Are You Normal?

I'm 18. he's 34. iin?