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Well, I met this wonderful guy at school and I love him a lot. But there is a problem. .. he is an atheist and I'm a Christian. I don't know what to do. He told me over Facebook and I cried the majority of the night. PLEASE HELP ME! !!
**edit** no I have no idea if he likes me back at all but we are great friends.
If you love him and he feels the same, then religion shouldn't keep you apart. If anything, you need to embrace the other's ideals or find a belief system that works for the both of you (a compromise).
So how do you suggest they could compromise on the existence of god? Both of them agree there's only half a god?
They could probably reach agreement about ethical and moral standards though, as long as they left god out of it
Maybe they could adopt a sense of agnosticism along with their main beliefs.
Well, only time will tell. I think it would be unwise for either of you to pressure the other to adopt your beliefs. Just be yourself and see how it goes.
It's possible you might be better off with a fellow Christian and he with another atheist, but then again it could work. Do not pressure him nor allow him to pressure you.
Im christian non denominational and my bf is atheist.
The trick is respecting eachothers beliefs and not caring as long as the other person is a good person...and u both love each other.
I read, "I love him but he bases his beliefs on personal observations instead of anecdotal faith."
This is why I dont like religion. Separating good people since its existence.
me too.. my bf is atheist n i'm muslim.. but as long as you two can respect each other .. it'll be fine
Fuck you you goddamn goatfucker. fuck that peedophile mooooohammed and allah also.
Hehehehe whatever you say, you'll know what called as 'karma' someday (^ ^) ... me with my religion n you with yours
Hehehehe whatever you say. you wont be laughing when a 7.62 enters your skull :)
Ignore that person they suck.
I think it is awesome that you and your boyfriend are happy, you guys are very open minded.
I'm an atheist, I don't know any Muslims IRL. Do many other Muslims feel the way you do about dating atheists? What about atheists who used to be Muslims? Do people ever give you guys crap about religion?
I've heard that some Muslims believe people who quit Islam should be killed, some people say this is common but some say it is not and that only happens in kooky places like Saudi Arabia. I have no idea since I don't know any personally, but I'm curious to hear from someone like you.
Hmm... my cousin is Christian and her bf is Buddhist but im too scared to talk to her about it...
Middle Eastern women are some of the most beautiful women on the planet. Don't mind the random retards and congratulations to the both of you on your tolerance.
the only thing you can do is ask yourself is can you be with him even knowing this? but if you choose to be with him in hopes of changing him, then its already for the wrong reason.
for everyone has the right to believe what they want.
I'm assuming you were raised Christian by your family? If that's the case, then consider how he was NOT raised in the same environment, so it would be wrong to discriminate against him over something that he had no control over...
I know that it's a kind of sticky situation. I used to go to Christian church with my best friend from high school. I'm familiar with it. I appreciate the church and the good people there that just want to love you and help you, so I don't knock the religion for that part.. However, if you take into account the psychology of how someone perceives the world and spirituality, then don't judge him for not being in such a place to have been taught what you have.
The best way to assess it, in my opinion, is to look at his inner beauty. Is he beautiful on the inside? If the answer is yes, then you ought to forgive him for not being Christian and start out just being friends with him, and if it's meant to be, it'll happen on its own.
This is something I posted previously on divine cosmos that may make you think...
Remember: god didn't make religion, MAN did. In the name of religion, many bad things have been sadly justified over the centuries. ...
Wouldn't it make more sense for us to learn about every religion and THEN decide which religion we want to follow? Only after watching the Ancient Aliens series, they talk about different biblical texts of India, of China, all different cultures, multiple different religions. I had no idea they even existed!
Thinking of it in terms of psychology, how each culture teaches their offspring their religion as fact without ever considering such a thing. They don't do it, deliberately depriving them that possibility (necessarily) because they want the best for their family. If I were God I wouldn't judge somebody for believing something inaccurate because they were taught that since childhood.
If it were up to me, I would assess every person on their inner beauty, regardless of race or religion, while taking into consideration the hardships/abuse/whatnot that could have molded them into doing harm to others. Instead of punishing people by throwing them in a cage, these things ought to be assessed.
Before I get side tracked about the horrible penal system we have, I need to finish my original point. Man made religion. Tracing the original christ based religion of the Roman Catholic and their manipulation of the bible has many things to understand, when you look at it in terms of anthropology.
David Wilcock's insight on this is interesting because he brings up how it was originally the government and the church that was one entity, so you go to jail for committing sin... Not to mention the entire book of Enoch was deleted, among other passages. Another thing that dawned on me, especially after seeing the ruins of ancient Egypt., The advanced mathematics and "unknown' to this day methods. Ancient Egypt was truly magical. I really don't understand WHY this is not reflected in the bible's account? IT's not like Egypt was far away and they didn't know or something. Egypt was obviously more spectacular in its day than what's leftover now, that is STILL stunning.
I'm not here to judge anybody for their beliefs. If certain logical questions can't be asked, though, than it seems that something has been confused and should be corrected. It's not about attacking anybody. It's about NOT attacking anybody anymore!
He told me that pretty much everybody in his family is Christian but he doesnt believe in the invisible man in the sky and some insane dude wrote the holy bible
it doesnt really matter that your different religions even the thought of christianity makes me cringe but my best friend and boy friend are both christians
Just live your own Faith and beliefs: you boy (friend) is the one you like and love: His beliefs are his so let him live his life to the full once he does not influence you or try and disweade you from living what you believe; you both must value and respect each others while you get to know each other differences about building human relationships: Always believe in yourself then you will be happy and content:
I don't remember what book of the Bible, or verse, but you can do an internet search: It says that if a husband isn't a believer, but the wife is, then he is saved.
That being said: You must be a true Christian to be SO Judgmental about a person. Stop with the religious middle-eastern bronze-age dogma that your parents taught you, and join the rest of us in the modern world.
As you get older and become more educated about the history of your religion and the make-up your religious book, you'll stop thinking like a child, and stop believing in childish things.
I'm an atheist for reference. But you two could easily be together provided these very important two things.
1) You don't ever try to convert him
2) He doesn't ever try to convert you
If you don't make religion an issue you can have a happy relationship. If you guys want to take it further sometime down the road you have to discuss how you will deal with the children if you choose to have any.
If you take him off the table just because you're a Christian and he's not, you're just demonstrating the problem with religion. :P
While the union may seem impossible to you, it actually is possible. No one has to convert. If you both love each other it can work out. If you love him as much as you say you do, you wouldn't let the difference in beliefs destroy the relationship.
I don't see a problem.
I thought in most religions or it maybe all that you shouldn't judge the wrong way in others beliefs, that there can be compromise and that is the way to learn in life.
For me I am not purely one religion, my parents may say that I'm Lutheran but I never went to church for it. I went to all sorts of different churches in the past with my friends and to meet different people and found it fascinating on the different beliefs and how they take this world. I have read about certain religions too, like Buddhism and found that to be more believable than some. Just live gracefully with your own beliefs and observe what is around you!
Haha you cried over it? Wow. If it's THAT big of a deal to you, you should find someone that shares your spiritual... Belief.you should be happy you have such a logical, analytical, upfront and honest man. Not a guy that tells u what u wanna hear to get what he wants.
1. It is not funny that I cried over that
2. For the love ogmf God, fix your grammar.
3. It ain't that easy my dear
You want more than a Freud "just do it-" ? Go smuggle some scopolamine from Mexico and load it up onto a straw and shoot it in his face POOF and hell follow ur everywhere and do anything u say like a zombie. YOU can drag him to church and wherever YOU want. Jesus, why do people whine about grammar on a freakin blog thread? Go grade ur papers Mrs. Whilliams
You have to think about what's important to you. If you fear so much that your thoughts will be plagued of his burning in hell, then you shouldn't date him. However, if you feel he somehow is immoral or corrupt, you certainly should give him a chance if only to learn how much of a myth that is. If it's somewhere in between, you should consider compromising with him. You open your heart to his thoughts and he open his to yours. Neither of you trying to change the other's mind, only trying to understand where the two come from.
You should think of this regardless- God loves sinners with sins both big and small, wouldn't God want -you- to love them, too? After all, those who are lost are in the most need of love. In other words, it's okay that you love an Athiest. God wouldn't disapprove of this. Whether you date him or not, don't punish yourself for doing what God teaches you to do.
If he can overlook that your a Christian then you should be able to over look he is a athiest. That's the problem though people take God stuff far too seriously
bones is atheist, booth is a christian. Take it from them, its possible to have a relationship with someone who sees the world differently.
For instance: i love English and art, while my partner hates both and loves math.
It's all the same really, the only thing is you would have to find ways to accept and respect each other...which shouldn't be too hard.
I'd have to say if i wanted to date a Christan the only problem I'd have was the no sex before marriage thing..but that's just me.
Religion is just what is written. Use your mind. Love has no boundaries. If it is real love why let religion dictate how you feel or whom you can love/ Don't do it. Don't cry over society's or your religious sects expectation of whom you "can" love. Good Luck. Follow your heart, not your congregation.
Check this out OP: 2 Corinthians 6:14. In general you'd be better off seeking help for Christian issues on a Christian website though. Unless you want people who aren't Christians deciding for you.
You would do well to forget your religion and go with this guy. Your religion will do nothing good for you in life and much harm, as you are already finding out with this guy. IF there was a god, a loving graceful god, why would he present you with this wonderful guy, only to say you can't have him because he doesn't believe in me (god)?
No, take the lesson now and dump the "opiate of the masses" before it really fucks up your life and be with this guy because it IS the right thing to do.
Excuse me sir but you are not God so stop talking like you are. Get outta here NOW
There is no god, you stupid brainwashed child. If there was, it would have to be the most cruel, deceitful, horror loving, human hating creature, to allow all the horrible things that happen on this planet.
Interesting how your 'christian attitude' flies right out the window when you feel your beliefs attacked; 'Get outta here NOW'. How awfully christian of you. I shall go nowhere I choose not to go.
You are a weak minded fool, who depends on a mythical being to take responsibility for your actions, because you have no faith in yourself.