I love one guy but am crushing on someone else...

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For over a year now, I have loved this one guy. (I'll just give him the generic name Guy#1) I'm not in a relationship with him just yet, mainly since he lives a couple states away & we haven't been able to go on a proper date yet. (Although we went to an amusement park together once in the year and a half I've loved him, but both of our families and my friend came with, so I don't quite count it as a date.) But keep in mind, he's extremely funny and sweet!
But lately I've been missing him like crazy and I think started trying to look for comfort in other people. There's this guy in one of my classes who is super funny and attractive. And I've noticed I've became really attracted to him. I mean, like REALLY attracted!
But here's the thing- I can't see myself dating him. The only guy I want to date and have a meaningful realtionship with is Guy#1. But I actually wouldn't mind kissing or making out with Guy#2. I picture myself just grabbing him by the shirt and kissing him every time I see him. But that's it. That's all I can see happening with him and myself. Plus, I don't think he even likes me in any way similar.
We joke around all the time, and I'd say we're friends, but that's all we are and all I think he'd think of us in.
And I REALLY love Guy#1!
Is this normal?
And any suggestions on what I should do?
I need help! I don't know what I should do!

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  • ToTellYouTheTruth
    11 years ago

    You don't have to be able to see yourself with someone in the long term period to have a fruitfull and enjoyable relationship. Even if you did chances are you will be strongly disappointed with the real outcome especially if your young. We're conditioned with a false sense of the definition. Guy meets girls falls in love white picket fence marriage kids happily ever after. It's beyond cliche and sooo over rated. If this were realistic I guess divorce wouldn't be at an all time high and your heart wouldn't be crushed trying to achieve it 15 times before your 25. Guy 1 thats cool but until he's not hundreds of miles away and can give you an experience is worthless. Not to sound like a jerk but there's hundreds of guys in your school that can make you feel the same way if you open your eyes and mind/heart a little bit. Don't fall into the illusion just because one can no one else can. Its also possibly to love more than one person also. Whether you'd like to explore the both or one or five is purely choice despite popular belief does not make you a whore. Your just as entitled to your sexuality as a guy is. Some choose to some don't simple as that. Guy 2 it sounds like you got the hotts for. In my opinion much more suitable and realistic for you especially being young and in school. Short term long term who cares as long as your enjoying yourself. Being held down is not all its cracked up to be trust me. No matter what never emphasize the relationship more than yourself. Chances are.. even in marriages its not going to be "forever". When it comes to you on the other hand.. your stuck with you forever. Keep it light keep friends deep and just have fun like the last poster mentioned.Best wishes ;)

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  • MilleBornes
    11 years ago

    If you can't see yourself in a meaningful relationship, AT ALL, leave guy 2 in your imaginations. I'm an advocate for having fun, but if you want a real relationship with 1 then messing with 2 will complicate things.

    However, if you're a high schooler,, FUCK it. Talk to guy 2. It'll still be a little complicated, but being young is all about having fun, not acting like you're married

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    I really love my wife but i crush on julie benz she is so nomz.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    Thanks to all those who has commented. It's helping a lot. But new news: Guy#2 does indeed NOT like me in anyway more then a friend. And being in any type of relationship is pretty much out of the picture. In his words, "Thinking of you in any way other than a friend is a little creepy in a way."
    I gotta say, I'm a bit hurt, but I completely understand and am not mad at him. But like most of you have said, I'm young. I've got forever and a day to settle down. But I am going to be keeping Guy#1 close! I still do love him a lot! :)

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