I love my partner, he is bi, and we never are intamate..

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So me and my boyfriend have known eachother for many years. When we meet he was more so gay, but has always claimed to be bi. Ever sence the day he meet me he told me I was the only girl he has ever had immense feelings for, and that one day we would be together, and have kids n get married and all that sappy stuff. Well 7 months ago we started dating, and I guess I thought things would be great because of how he acted towards me as friends. Our relationship is nothing like i hoped. We have poor communication and worst of all we never have sex. I try to be appealing, I tell him I will try basically whatever, I touch him often but I get rejected. He masturbates often but doesn't want to have sex or be intamate. I ask him what he likes but he doesn't know. I understand I'm the first real girl relationship that he's ever had but doesn't he at least get curious and want to "play"?? IIN?

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  • Sweetz
    12 years ago | pl

    What he likes is obviously dick.

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  • bleach_baby
    12 years ago | pl

    He's gay

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  • Gelmurag
    12 years ago | pl

    You answered your own question in there..."Our relationship is nothing like i hoped. We have poor communication and worst of all we never have sex." Why are you putting yourself through these bad things, if he's not working out for you? Relationships should be based on mutual feelings, and it sounds like he isn't even trying. So if he isn't trying, why are you?

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  • shezzdog
    12 years ago

    He gay bro.

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    MissSorel,

    You obviously have had little to no contact with the "gay community." it's no secret they'll admit it freely themselves. The only people who say otherwise are delusional types who want the world to be Politically Correct and try to portray it as regardless of unrealistic it is.

    Seriously, ask almost any homosexual guy and he will tell how it is, 9/10 times anyhow IF you are on good/friendly terms with them.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Really? My own brother is gay, try that for size. Not to mention, I have gay friends and aquaintances and believe me, they are not whorish in the slightest.

      You're taking one group and judging them on what? Their sexual preferences? Straight men are probably more whorish than any gay man considering how much some men love "teh pussy".

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    Many gay guys pretend to be bi so that they can relate better to straight guys, or more specifically make straight guys think they can relate to them more and thus be more comfortable around them.

    Your BF is clearly gay. You need to move on. And it might actually be a blessing he doesn't sleep with you bc he's probably messing around with guys behind your back and homosexuals have a much higher rate of STDs and STIs, both because of the relative promiscuity among gays and the sexual acts they frequently engage in.

    It's admirable that you told him you'd do *anything* with him, but Sweety, please, please don't do *anything* with him (and you and I know exactly what I'm talking about) because that would be the #1 way you could get an STD from him. If you want to give yourself over to a man in that special way, make sure it is with a monogamous straight guy you are certain is clean and/or wears protection.

    The facts are slapping you in the face though, I mean he is CLEARLY gay. Why would you keep hurting yourself with vain hopes of some impossible reality? If he's not sexually attracted to you now, when your relationship is relatively new, he's never going to be. And it doesn't sound like he ever was to begin with ("he was more gay when..." comment).

    You can find a friendly sweet guy who's not gay. Move on.

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    • remyjones
      12 years ago

      WOW I'm straight and even I'm offended by your bigotry. You sound like you wear cardigans over eat and never have orgasms. That is all.

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    • PumpkinKate
      12 years ago

      Worst, least helpful response ever. Good job.

      If you're going to come offer advice at least make some effort to not use the questions as an opportunity to shove your bigoted, narrow-minded view-points down the person's throat. Try to base things on OPINION and speak from EXPERIENCE.

      "Your BF is clearly gay." <-- There is only ONE person on the entire face of this planet who can say whether her BF is gay or not. That's her BF. You are not him, you do not know.

      "he's probably messing around with guys behind your back" <-- Based on absolutely nothing. Zero. Zilch. You have NO foundation for this fearful claim. The only thing it does is show you have an exceptionally poor grasp of how to deal with what you don't understand.

      There is ZERO reason to believe that her BF has a higher chance of having an STD than any man in a relationship, be it gay, straight, or otherwise. You seem fearful of the gay community. Projecting your irrational fear onto someone else seeking advice is not helpful or productive.

      "The facts are slapping you in the face" <-- You offered no facts that relate to the OP's question. The only thing slapping her in the face is your bigotry.

      You seem empathetic enough, why wouldn't you try to get your point across in a way that isn't highly inflammatory? You might actually help someone instead of anger or upset them, or convey your opinion with dignity instead of meeting firm resistance for trying to do it so aggressively. Think before you act, and you'll do yourself, and those you wish to help, a favor. You have a valid opinion! There are ways to get it across. This is not it.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago

        You said it lots better than I did :)

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Gays aren't more likely to be promiscuous, no more so than straight people. And that's why condoms exist as well.

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  • blackalica
    12 years ago

    Dear juliusE....you are a dumb ass bitch who got told, and know your rotten old dried out pussy has to try and make it justifiable to say such ignorant, repulsive things about a community you obviously do not know anything about. JUST BECAUSE you know how to use that computer doesn't make you smarter in the slightest, people like you make me sick due to your facist comments so oblivious to the ones around you, it becomes redundant in the process. i'm sure everyone on this entire IIN comment box hates you for your unintelligent sense for debating and reacting poorly to false thoughts you make up. get a life and stop trying to be dr. phil you dumb bitch. also, if i hurt your feelings in the slightest, you can slit your wrists, drink mercury, and jump off a mountain for all i care. FUCK YOU!!!!

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  • skullcrusherjoker
    12 years ago

    Hes gay and told you that because he didnt want to hurt you you shouldt have to settle for a bi guy he is gay find a real man to love you and want you and you only. if you did marry him whats to say he want cheat on you with a dude or leave you later for a dude married people suppose to be husband and wife not husband and wife and boyfriend you want be happy with him always wondering if he wants a guy

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  • hhdvedgbch
    12 years ago

    Forget him and fk a real man I live in Miami my # is 3055421842

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    He's gay. He'll eventually go back to what he wants (men) and you can't change that, as much as you'd like to, sorry to be blunt.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I like to cd and be a girl slut for men. But I love women. Some would say I'm bi but I don't cause I love pussy. I do love cock especially when in lingerie, but not men. I know ur pain.

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    MissSorel,

    Great comeback. I never saw that coming.

    Btw, I'm using a device where replying is not supported and the app is no longer being updated.

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    PumpkinKate,

    EXCUSE ME! THERE IS ONLY ONE PERSON IN THE WORLD WHO CAN SAY THAT I'M BIGOTED: ME!!!

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  • Legion
    12 years ago

    he was probably trying to sort himself and his feelings out, cause he wasnt sure about his sexuality.

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    ...portray it as such*, regardless of how* unrealistic it is

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    PunpkinKate et al,

    2) You are exemplifying Operant Conditioning. You have been trained since you were very little:

    A) you encounter stimuli, in our case: a person who dares to suggest people are't a the same, rationally practices value judgements, and understands what a generalization is and doesn't hypocritically apply to his life

    B) trained response: "RACIST! IGNORANT! BIGOT! SUPREMACIST! NAZI!"

    Goooood little boys and girls! You deserve a treat!

    P.S.
    You're all fucking retarded sheep
    And my advice was, he's gay, move on, which is totally legitimate.

    By your logic we can make no judgements or generalizations in life. You fail.

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    • StevenC
      12 years ago

      I had to make an account just to educate you.

      I am a gay man, 21 years old. I have been in a monogomous relationship for 5 years. My boyfriend who is the same age as I has also never been with anybody else.

      You are so closed-minded its absoloutely frightening that its 2012 and you legitimately feel these things.

      Firstly and foremost, please find me any supporting evidence for your outrageous claims that gay men have more stds than straight men or straigh women for that matter.

      Did you know that currently, the majority of new diagnosed HIV cases are straight female?

      The stigma of gay men sleeping around comes from days when homosexuality was illegal and men were FORCED to hide their sexuality and choose female partners for cover - which obviously led to infidelity. Lack of education surrounding sexual health for gay men also led STDs being more common in gay men back then. Unprotected Anal sex also has a higher contraction rate for most stds, which meant stds were spreading faster through the gay community.

      50 years on, things are quite different. We know the risks, we know them well. It does shock me how many women think that HIV is a gay mans disease and they can't get it. No wonder so many are getting it.

      Gay men have relationships now, not secret hideouts where they can have sex behind their wife's back (which was only because they were forced to live that way if they wanted any kind of sexual relief, lets see what happens if we commanded straight people to ONLY have same sex relations for the rest of their life, see how many straight men cheat on their "husbands" with women!). It's EXTREMELY offensive that you not only are stuck 50 years in the past, but you are so CONFIDENT that you are right and everybody else is silly. That confidence is disgusting.

      I know a number of young gay men AND straight men, and i can say with certainty that the straight men are by far more promiscous. Gay men, if you hadn't noticed, are rarer than straight men, and so there is actually a limited choice. That is probbaly why straight men seem to have more sexual partners.

      So here are the FACTS that are slapping YOU in the face:

      Straight women are contracting HIV more than Gay men, which leads us to believe straight men are having sex with several women and spreading it.

      Gay men are less promiscuous than straight men, if not due to any morale fibre difference, but simply because of availability.

      I believe this destroys 99% of your argument.

      Although I will agree that the OP needs to move on, it seems he IS gay, but she should confront him about it.

      Ps.

      As much as you use your poor arguments and self delusion (nobody can help you with this, it is clear you believe you are correct; you are not) to justify your arguments and counter this statement:

      You ARE a bigot and you ARE narrow - minded. You are also an exceptionally annoying person.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      You really are ignorant. And use the REPLY button to reply to people, the clue is in the name.

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  • JuliusE
    12 years ago

    The "gay" community is generally much more promiscuous than most people and your gay brother and his friends don't change that. It is a generalization. Generalizations are so because they are generally true. Exceptions don't change that rule.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Well you go on thinking that, what I see is a lot of guys who sleep with a lot of women but that's fine isn't it? That can spread sexual disease too.

      And they're not HIS friends, they are MY friends. He doesn't know them.

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  • BoredGuy
    12 years ago

    "bi" as if the exist.

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