I love my friend more than a friend

I met this girl at work and we started talking. We have been best friends for 3 years. We have the same intrests and we do the same things, we even have the same food cravings...if she was a guy she would be me...and if I was a girl I'd be her basicly...she doesn't know it but I'm madly in love with her...I would do anything for her...but she has a boyfriend and he constantly pisses her off...she always looks to me for advise about how to handle her boy troubles...I want to tell her how I feel but idk how and I dnt know if she feels the same way...I dnt wanna ruin my friendship with her or make it akward after I tell her...is this normal...wat should I do?

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  • marley56

    Ugh tough one! Went through the same thing. The thing is that u really can't just TELL her how u feel... She sees u as a friend and not really anything else. I've been in the "friendship zone" so long that u can't really tell her and expect her to feel the same way, especially if she has a boyfriend. The question is: do u want to stay safe and not say anything? Or do u want to risk losing everything, and making it awkward between u forever, and tell her how u feel? It's ur choice. I know, it sucks. It really does. My advice? Stay friends, find someone else to love. I know, it's hard . But the odds are against u on this one. Sorry. Best of luck though!

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  • Aliceee93

    I'd tell her..
    What if you don't and then you regret it? She may feel the same way? And is scared to tell you. It's te best time to tell her specially if her bf is annoying her (: Good luck!

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  • Sunnydayz

    When she's alone and pissed invite her over and tell her how you feel
    Ask her if she understands
    Role play
    You- " are you ok?"
    Her-" no I'm pissed again"
    Y-" do want to talk about it at mine!"
    H-"thanks"
    Drive there
    Sit down
    Have a Convo
    Y-" I need to tell yu something"
    H-" yes?"
    Y-" I am badly in love with you!"
    H-"oh"
    Y-" I understand you have a boyfriend and you love him I just had to tell you I still want to be friends with you though do please don't take this badly"
    Convo

    BTW you don't have to use those exact words but something like that

    Sorry soooooo long

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  • Ryan556

    When i was little I got madly in love with this gamer girl I got to know her we had even kissed at one point by accedent and she ignored me wouldent talk to me in the halls or anything but I was madly no more then madly in love with her I was a I had the love for her the size of Godzilla she alwayse said I hate you but then shed say I love you when I told her I loved her she blew me off got a bf to make me jellus when i stood up for her she got mad when I beat the girls that were hurting her physically I kicke there asses but nothing she hated me more I eventually told her I was going to stop and she ended up dead a girl beat her do hard she died well fell into a coma for 7 years now I still go see her every day :,(

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  • BoredGuy

    ^you are full of shit

    @op: get distance. if you r in love with her ur not her friend anymore

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  • Mikael

    SRRY I HAVE TO CAPITAL TIS SO ULL READ IT WELL WTCH 500 DAYS OF SUMMER THATS FOR U BRO..ULL UNDERSTAND WHY??? SHES ACTING THAT WAY HONESTLY NO LIESIVE BEEN IN URSHOES BEFORE U TWO DO REALLI LOVE EACH OTHER BUT SHE REALLI LIKES THE OTHER GUYS TRUST ME SHE GETS PISSED OFF IF SHE DOESNT LIKE HIM OK LET GO AND LOOK SHES NOT THAT MEANS SHE LIKES HIM AND TOO BE BE BE HONEST A WOMEN TELLING U ABOUT HER THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS TOWARDS THE OTHER GUYS THE MEANS = THAT BASICALLY UR NO MORE THAN JUX FRIENDS IM SRRY TO SAY THIS LOVE ONLY WORK IN THE FIRST TIME THAT U ARE WITH THEM THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SECOND CHANCE IF THEY LOVE U THEY DONT NEED BE WITH SOME OTHER GUY THEY SHOULDA BEEN WIT U SO PLEASE STARTING LETTING GO NOW ITS GANNA GET WORST IF U DONT...U R JUX SICK EMOTIONALLY AND DONT LET THEY GET U SICK FROM THE INSIDE...AND I HAVE GONE THROUGHT THA ONCE AND I WAS SICK PHYISCALLY BECUZ WE SHARE ALMOST EVERYTHING THAT U HAVE DONE EVEN SEX WAS INVOLVE BUT THE THING IS THAT IVE TRIED SO HARD AND WE ACTUALLY DATED ANDWORK OUT FOR A SHORT PEROID OF TIME I WAS HAPPY EVEN THROUGH WERE NOT TOGETHER BECUX INSIDE ME ALL THERE IS THAT SHE ONCE LOVED ME BETTER THAN NO TO BE LOVE...

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  • grumpybarbie

    Tell her, but fo it when she's not having a pissy day with her boyfriend so she has a clear head but tell her too that you respect her relationship you just wanted your feeling known. She might feel weird a bit, the trick is for you to then keep everything normal no matter how weird it feels

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  • I had the same issue. But then I got up enough courage to tell him how I felt and he felt the same way and we have been going out for 3 months

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  • That sucks balls mann

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  • LoRe*

    Hey. Yeah it's normal to feel this way sometimes about a long time friend. But the thing is if she is still with this boyfriend, it may make ur relationship awkward. Maybe first try to find out if she really loves him before saying anything. Good luck

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