I love my friend, i dont know if he is gay? what do you think

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Hello People, i am 17 male and i seriously love my friend (16 Male) we are not the closest of mates but i see him nearly everyday. We always have a great laugh and always give each other good banter. He doesnt know that i am Gay but i think he has an idea im gay but im not fully sure. Most of my friends thinks he is gay because he is quite a spice boy who looks after himself extremely well. Moisturising, always making an effort with his appearence etc. And everytime he see's a mirror he will make sure his hair is in perfect order. Straightening his t-shirts out etc etc... He also speaks with quite a soft tone and is quit soft. He says he has had sex with a girl not so long ago but it has never been proven as mates we are just going by what he has said so we dont know. He also has next to know interest in girls if a hot girls walk by most of my mates will comment to each other but he tends not to get involved. He always touches my legs if im sat next to him and sits on my lap occasionally but im not sure if he just does this because he thinks im gay what do you think? Also when he came back of holiday as soon as he saw me he gave me a big kiss on the lips but it was infront of everyone so im not sure on that one either... I am trying to tell myself he isnt gay so i dont get my hopes up to much. I am not out to him like i said before but the mates that know i am gay think he is gay and thinks i should try it on (Im not going to try it on though just incase it would be a stupid mistake!). But from what you guys have just read what do you think is he gay/bi or is he straight?

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  • Truth_teller
    11 years ago

    I read the first line, how dafuq are you gay??? Your still in middle school. A quick way to test this is to grab his dick, if he jumps, hes straight

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  • FiestaXR2
    13 years ago

    Thanks people, My friend asked him not so long ago if he was gay because he really thinks he is gay and he didnt reply, He didnt say No either just simply changed the conversation. But then theres other times where he has just shrugged it off and go "Yea yea im Gay clearly" in a sarcastic voice but when he says that he looks very worried, annoyed and sometimes you get the impression he is scared... Its a tricky situation...

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    This sounds like a bad idea but I'm in the same situation and it worked for me, get him alone and seriously ask him

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  • asdf90091
    13 years ago

    Hm...hard to tell. What I can tell you for sure is that he's not comfortable with his sexuality. It sounds like the girl story is BS to me, but he just might not be comfortbale talking about it. If you try to push, he's gonna pull away from you. The fact that he doesn't know you're gay really doesn't help. At this point, you might not want to tell him either. If he's trying to run away from his sexuality, having a friend come out is going to amplify the fears in him and make him run the other way.

    You can't force someone out of the closet. Show that you'll support him no matter what and maybe drop subtle hints from time to time. A great way to "test the waters" is to make a gay joke from time to time. If he acts really disgusted, he's hiding something. You can try prodding him in a joking manner about his sexuality, but if he gets really defensive back off. He'll come out to you if/when he's ready...if he's gay/bi.

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