I love my fiance, but i still have strong urges for promiscuous sex.

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I have been with my fiance now for over 2 years. We plan on getting married in 2017. So, we have time to get done with college and get our lives situated. She (21F) is a great person, very kind, and very thoughtful. I (M 24) have always been, in my own words, an asshole. That being said I have never been an asshole to my fiance. My friends sure, funny asshole but still an asshole.

Now that I have briefly discussed my relationship I will go a little into my past. In high school I was the nerd that had plenty of friends but no girlfriend. The last year of high school/ first semester of college I adopted the asshole ways that I have came to know and love. This assholeness had gotten me a lot of sex over the years, but nothing substantial.

Now, let's fast forward to the age of 22. I moved to a new state, started going to a new school. Still an asshole, but still a nice change of pace. I meet my current fiance. She, is a huge introvert, heavy christian, and had never been with anyone, ever. We start out as friends and then move into a relationship. Knowing she had never been with another guy before I worked slow, and I mean slow. I waited 9 months for her to be comfortable before we ever had sex. Since then, sex all the time.

Here is what my issue is. I know, long prologue just to get to the point! I love my fiance, would never hurt her. But as stated previously, we are in college. She leaves for months at a time, for breaks, while I live here. When I started dating her I changed my view point on relationships and wanted to make it work so I stayed exclusive with her.

I would never cheat on my fiance, but is it normal to want to have very strong urges to have sex with other women? I am not saying I see every woman as someone to have sex with. But mainly, the thought of having that control over my life to have that decision to talk to a woman and see where it goes.

Is this normal behavior?

In advance, I am an engineering major and my grammar is not the best, so be kind on that front please!

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  • Phat
    9 years ago

    So basically your like any other piece of shit human. You have no character or honor. Do the right thing and tell your dumb ass fiancé he's not cutting the mustard and leave him. Then start living your life with dignity and honesty. Hell I try to go out on as many dates as I can and fuck as many women as I can. There is nothing wrong with wanting a lot of Dick. But always and I mean always let each and everyone of them know your full intentions up front. There is no better feeling then to be on the right side of things. Its called winning.

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  • sillygirl77
    9 years ago

    break it off now if you don't want commitment.

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  • HaHaHaBatman
    9 years ago

    She is to me

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  • Short4Words
    9 years ago

    Is she worth it?

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    9 years ago

    Your grammar seems perfectly fine. I am a 23 year old female who has been seeing the same guy for going on 5 months now, also an introvert, was a virgin and a heavy Christian (but also a 21 year old male so much easier to circumvent the Christian aspect on the caveat that I attend church with him). I love him dearly but shit, the thrill of the chase has yet to go away.

    I have self-discipline and all, yes, and I'd never cheat on him but I, too, was a nerdy fuck in High School and suddenly, I move to a new city at 18, mature somehow, and getting men (and women) is such a breeze! I couldn't not explore my options. True, I wasn't exactly getting laid left and right but having the knowledge and ability to get with practically whoever I wanted with enough effort after spending lord knows how many years as the nerdy ugly duckling was just mind-blowing. It's like I'm living life over again as a different person and every relationship is a new adventure/conquest (I don't like getting with men/women who are easy to get with).

    Despite what men like to think, getting quality tail as an ugly bitch is a pain in the ass but I came here and suddenly became attractive and desirable. It's nice to be desired by more than just band geeks and the like, as shallow as it may sound. So yes, I totally understand. Whether or not it's normal? I can't tell you. I do understand, though.

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