I love him so much it hurts..iin?

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I have been with my boyfriend for six months. I honestly never thought i would have a longterm boyfriend, let alone a boyfriend period. I grew up with two parents who did nothing but fight.(they still arent divorced) I never even heard them say I love you. So when it came time for me to step out into the dating world, i wasnt really into it. Being alone was more of my thing. however this one guy totally changed my mind. I have never felt so comfortable with someone. we started going out and three months in i said I love you..four months in he told me he loved me too. Anyway here we are six months in. We both love eachother so much to the point where it hurts. Hes goes away to school, while i commute to school. the long distance kills me inside(of course its not a worry of mine but it sucks) What I want to know is it normal for me to love him so much to the point where I sometimes cry my self to sleep because i feel so special and lucky? Is it normal that I love him so much it hurts?

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  • bumblecreek
    12 years ago

    course it's normal. you're just very genuinely happy. there should be more love like that between people nowadays. congrats!

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  • solo1
    12 years ago

    It's normal but dangerous to allow yourself to be so dependent on someone. He is just a person, remember that. There are many people in this world that you can love for so don't let yourself believe otherwise. Sometimes it's the fear of losing that love that causes the pain. Losing love happens to all of us at some stage in our lives. You need to be able to accept that if that should ever happen. When you can do that you will be able to truly enjoy the moment. Love is beautiful, enjoy it but don't try to hold on too tightly or you'll hurt it!

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago

    dude, its REALLY freakin important for u to love urself more than him! if u do, u have heartbreak in store... guaranteed!

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    • jac4224
      12 years ago

      Well of course i love my self, but to a certain point. I have always loved others over my self, and put others before my self(its probs why im my friends fav person....i better not get a broken heart =(

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      • joybird
        12 years ago

        Pixie_dust is 100% right and serious!!
        If you don't value yourself then why should he?

        Your 'in love' hysteria will calm down over the next 3 years. I lived a rotten life at home and had 2 long term relationships of 2 and a half years each, before I went out with my husband for 6 years before we got married. I'd seen marriage in action so never craved it! At least I knew what behaviour I wouldn't acept.

        Good luck girl, enjoy it but any crap - nip it in the bud!

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        • jac4224
          12 years ago

          yea, i have watched, my parents grandparents and friends all have really shitty relationships so i know what i will stand for and what i wont. Its just wierd because i was so againt relationships and stuff because of what i saw and now i dont want to ever let go of the one i have

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      • pixie_dust
        12 years ago

        ok, I know I must be much older, (im 36) and ive been there done that and ive seen it happen to my friends too.

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        • jac4224
          12 years ago

          can i ask you what happened?? did your friend end up heart broken?

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          • pixie_dust
            12 years ago

            well, it's more of a psychological principle that i've learned. it's actually very common. when a girl starts to love her guy more than herself, she loses self esteem, and that's when he gets bored of her bcuz she changes. that makes it even harder for her to move on bcuz she can't see herself w/o him. it's worse when he starts to put her down. she gives all her power to him. it's an ugly situation. I went thru it at 16, and ive watched it happen to other girls. I didnt overcome it til I was about 23-24! it's so horrible!

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  • Boredbastard
    12 years ago

    i love loving someone so much it hurts.
    just so i can feel.

    ...sounds a bit bad, but i don't want not to feel.

    i like to cry. i can't stand feeling indifferent :o

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  • stonecutters93
    12 years ago

    Sounds like you found your "one". I wish you all the best, many people are still searching for the love you share with your boyfriend. I'm happy to see it's worked out for somebody :)

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    • jac4224
      12 years ago

      aww thanks. yea i am pretty lucky....well actualyl hes pretty lucky too =)

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    12 years ago

    "Hurt so good, come on baby make it hurt so good. Sometimes love don't feel like it should; you make it hurt so good." -John Cougar Mellencamp

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