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There's this girl I like she's a year older and she moved away I'm trying to have a long distant relation ship but my friends said that in the end I'm gonna be the one to get hurt she is coming back in 5 years I tried to tell her it wasn't. Gonna work out but she said I'm the only one for her what should I do?
| wait for her to come back | 64 | |
| try to convince her to like other guys | 11 | |
| end our relationship | 30 | |
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I was in a relationship with a guy for a year and a half when he broke it off. Said he just wasn't feeling it anymore. Well, a few scumbags later and I decided to move away to clear my head and experience somewhere else in the world for a while. He and I started talking again about a year after I moved and well, when I went home to visit him, he admitted to wanting me back for good. I needed a few months to get things in order with my job and to find a place to live, but I'm moving home in 2 months to be with him. Do I know things aren't going to end again like they did last time? No I don't. Do I hope and pray they don't? Every single day.
My point? Wait for her. Have fun in the meantime, I'm sure she will. But in your heart, WAIT for her. If you feel she's worth it, wait. She'll come back.
Sounds like 5 years of fun while she's gone, and if she comes back you can try a relationship. If not, so be it.
Come on man!!
Do you realise that there are 7 BILLION people on this Earth.
The both of you should date whomever you choose and if/when she does come back and you are both still single try to make something work.
How realistic is waiting 5 years for someone? Do you have kids together, a mortgage etc.
Forget the what-if thing, what-if can be satisfied with countless other people out of the 7 Billion available. Rest assured there is more than 1 person that will fit-the-bill with either of you...
My advise is, go out and buy a few boxes of condoms and get to work until you don't even remember her name.
5 years? how strong was the relationship before she left?
I lasted a year, actually a year and a half, without seeing my man. It was hard on us but we had been together seriously for well over a year. and now we're back together.
I'm not sure if we'd have lasted 5 years apart. not even with skype.
well...
sucks for you...
but i has them same problem im really into this girl but... she lives in belgium... luckly we has facebook,msn,etc. but i tell you this: get over it go on with life there are plenty enough girls !
You don't sound very committed. She already told you she needs you and promised to return. Email, skype, mail or phone... It's 21st century ffs.
theres a saying if you love someone,let her free.if she comes back,shes yours.i love that saying.it'll work out just keep trying!
I agree with you to 100%
And I find it quite interesting that I found this comment today of all days, you see I actually let a girl I love free today (she lives in Germany by the way)
Technically she was free all along but she said that she was worried that I would get depressed if she started dating.
I was actually against it in the beginning because she's perfect for me and I couldn't imagine finding someone like her again.
The thought of her with another guy made me sad, later on I started thinking about her getting emotionally hurt by this guy and I would never want that to happen.
I wanted her to be mine and only mine, selfish I know but love usually is.
Two days went by and then I started thinking more about her and less about my own feelings, I thought that it wouldn't be fair to hold her back when I know that we might never be together in that way.
I told her that I understand that being more isn't an option and that she should do what she thinks is right, but that I'll always love and care for her and that I'll always be there for her if she needs me.
So what I'm saying is that it wouldn't be fair against either you or her by holding on to each other when you'll be separated for 5 years.
I suggest that you stay in contact and if you're both still interested when she moves back then restart the relationship.
I don't think you should end it now just because of what it is. Like Bananaface pointed out, if you end it now while you are still in love, then you'll wonder "what if".
Allow it to run it's course naturally. Five years though, is an awfully long time to be separated from the one you love. Can you not find a way to be together sooner?