I like it when he's abusive

You know, it's seriously messed up; but I identify with what you're saying all the same. My husband used to be abusive, I mean really abusive, and then sweet as hell. The abuse almost always led to serious passion. I got trapped in that cycle of craving the drama and the make up sex. The problem is that it doesn't stay at the level you're currently on. It gets worse and worse until you finally wake up out of the dream you're living in and find out that things have seriously gone beyond what you signed up for. My husband got so drunk one night after we'd had a fight and came home to attack me with a knife, he kept me hostage for hours in the bathroom. I was cut and bleeding everywhere, my nose came close to being broken and I was bruised all over. He beat in the face with a belt - God, it was very traumatic. That was when I finally realised that the whole situation was really bad. I got such a wake up call that night. What happened had gone far beyond the domination fantasy I was living in and the danger had become a real thing. Sooner or later, this abuse you are living with is going to cut down your self worth and you are going to start believing you are worth nothing, that you're useless and have no options. I am still with my husband now, but it took 6 months of marital therapy for us to overcome the situation we were in and for him to figure out what was wrong and why he was doing the things he was. We have been incident free now for the past 3 years and are enjoying a normal relationship and it's much happier this way. Please reconsider your situation. The end result is not worth the domination you crave, there are other ways to get that - like roll playing which is a lot safer.

I think abuse is a turn on. :P

It's totally normal to like the rough aspect of sex and being dominated, but as ReaperAJ said its very easy to let the situation get out of hand. You could explore safer things like role play and bondage to get off, but please don't let yourself stay with somebody who wants to hurt you. Best of luck!

If you like it there's nothing wrong

your like my dream, but a man. I love beating people. tell your boyfriend to come fuck me.

well.. I've noticed this thread seems to be pointing towards domestic violence.. and i'm not denying that in some cases thats a reality, howver I enjoy the roughness without any violence whatsoever. My partner pushes me around,whips me,slaps me, hits me, pushes me, strangles me,spits on me, and we have a safety word if it gets too much.. but we do keep it for strictly in the bedroom. outside we're as nice and cuddly as can be! He loves to dominate..and I love to be dominated. it can be safe too.

yes and no.it is normal in bed but where other people can see.its not normal

Oh wow- you've been through so much. Sometimes I get upset with him but then when he's sweet I like it...I hope that I don't get completely abused to the point where he doesnt feel bad about it. My friend told me it's not normal and that I need help? sorry you had to go through such hell and I really hope my boyfriend doesn't end up like that. Thanks for your response.

i know what you mean. you are not messed up, at least not in my opinion =]

i, personally, have a rape fetish. i like being spanked nd handcuffed nd held down nd called bitch or cunt nd i like being hit nd pushed around too.
it does make sex better. i advise you not to let your bf get too comfertable with it. make sure he knows that its only for sex and that ur not a worthless lap dog. u mite like his control, but hes not above you. u shud still b equals.
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yea let him get you pregnant