I lied to my friends about losing my virginity

I'm a girl, 20 years old and I'm still a virgin. Its not that I don't like sex or I'm saving it for marriage or anything. I'm actually an extremely sexual person, I just wouldn't feel comfortable with my first time being someone I wasn't at least steadily fwb (friends with benefits) with, which just has not happened. I've never had a serious relationship and even being in college now anything with guys has either been a one time thing or I just haven't had the time to continue them. I've done other things with guys, just haven't felt comfortable enough for sex. But I felt so uncomfortable around my friends being so open about their sex lives talking about it all the time and me always being the butt of the jokes because I'm the only virgin. So I made up a story. I told my friends at college I lost it to a guy back home, and I told my friends from home I lost it to a guy from back at school. They've pretty much layed off the jokes now but it just sucks I have to lie about such a big thing. And when I ACTUALLY lose my virginity I can't even go run and tell my girlfriends about it, because how pathetic would it be if they found out I lied about it in the first place?

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  • RoseIsabella

    I think it's very sad that you felt you had to lie to these stupid chicks to fit in with their shitty, skanky asses. Peer pressure sucks, but girls like that don't sound like very good friends at all.

    Honestly, most of my friends from college were gay men, because lots of chicks were too much drama and tended to unload on and drain me way too much. I can maybe think of only one good female friend in college.

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    • IINtobeonthiswebsite

      That is funny story! Easier to be friends with a gay dude than a chick...I believe it...only subtle differences, right?

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      • RoseIsabella

        Oh yeah, gay guys make better friends. Some women are very mean, but they could be jealous as well.

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  • green_boogers

    People lie about sex more than about anything else. I'll bet that most of the stories you hear are 10% true, 90% not.

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  • Sog

    When you actually do lose your virginity, why is that anyone else's business? This is all childish silliness. Your friends stopped bugging you, so speak no more about this with them.

    Go on, live your life. Find a nice guy. This will all make a nice story that you can confide with him.

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  • ilovetoiletrolls

    You're in deep doodoo as the kiddos say! Why did you lie, they're your friends? I am not a virgin but when I was, I didn't lie to my friends as they couldn't care less. Even my friend who was obsessed with sex didn't think anything of it and actually complimented me for it.

    I don't understand why you can't be honest? I had sex with quite a bit of guys now and one of my friends is a virgin and she openly told me that no problem and I was respecting. Man, if you feel you need to lie to your friends, they're not your friends. I respect mine and would never poke fun at them. I actually think it's smart to save it anyway. Save it for when you're with someone you love otherwise you feel silly (like me and my friends as we all envy the virgins). I think I lost it to the wrong guy. I was with him for three months and he forced me into it and now look at me, I have been with more than a dozen sexually and sex to me doesn't mean much anymore. :(

    You should just tell them you lied and if they're your friends, they won't be offended.

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    • IINtobeonthiswebsite

      That is what is different about you...you are the kind of friend this girl needs!!!

      And, she is not in deep doo-doo, nobody needs to know anything more. Fuck them, and, sounds like they aren't really her friends anyway. In a year, she'll have a whole set of new firends.

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  • IINtobeonthiswebsite

    People lie about a lot more serious shit than if or when they lost their virginity, and, like the first comment from SOG said, why is that anyone's fucking business to begin with?

    Anyone who teases you or calls you names because you are a virgin would do the same thing if you were a slut and slept with a bunch of dudes, women, horses, whatever. These people are immature, and, really, NOT your friends.

    First thing you want to do is, find yourself some REAL friends.

    Then, look for a guy. Don't look hard. You'll likely meet him in the least expected place.

    Once you KNOW him, and have feelings for him, and decide this is "the one", continue the relationship to that point at your OWN pace. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing squat, at any age.

    If you take your time, make sure it is right, you stand the best chance of it being the ONLY one you have....if that is important to you. It was to me. STD's can be forever...aides certainly is, so is hepatitis. Not shit you want to mess with....and of course, pregnancy CAN happen, even if it is your first time!!! You don't want to fuck up your life, you got too much good going on, your young, take your time growing up all the way.

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  • mlbryan44

    I would like to eat you out and then fuck you from behind doggy-style.

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  • FloridaCalm

    Im guilty. I have done this to my very brother as well. I told him it to supossedly impress him or give more attention. It is sadly normal.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

    When your ready, your ready. Don't worry you won't implode if you don't give it up to the first guy that asks.

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