I lie to my wife about my schizophrenia diagnosis

I was diagnosed with Paranoid Schizophrenia a year ago, I’m 29 now.

I lie about where I am when I’m going to therapy, and I lie about what medications I take, I lie about sex so I can avoid getting her pregnant cause I’m afraid I’ll pass it on, I’ve been drinking extra so she write off my wild rants as just drunk antics, and I lied about my diagnosis when I was hospitalized while on a business vacation when I told her I was given bad weed that made me act out.

The other night while we were drinking she asked if I was having an affair because I’ve been sneaking around, I denied it and she didn’t trust me. I haven’t seen or talked to her for 2 days now.

Lying is always wrong	7
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transferdinand

4 years ago

That's ok, she isn't real

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  4 years ago
  
  Good one.
  
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curious-bunny

4 years ago

Crossdressing whore? Now what on earth gives you that idea? I have never crossdressed in my life mate. I'm a trans woman who dresses appropriately. And whore now what gives you such a notion that I'm a whore? Besides if this "whore" has better tastes than your wife then. Hopefully she escapes before you put her in any such casket. Tsk tsk.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  I’m sorry. I’ll delete my comment. I really didn’t mean all that I’m just freaking out I guess. I really apologize, talking like that isn’t like me.
  
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Grunewald

4 years ago

Let's look at it in terms of the worst case scenario: would you rather she left you because of something that isn't true or because of something that is true?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  But at the same time I don’t want to tell her and she go watching everything I do trying to nitpick at what my schizophrenia is doing.
  
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  - Grunewald
    
    4 years ago
    
    If she did that it might just be that she wants to understand you. Is there anything so wrong with that, other than being hit in the pride a little? True, there's a small chance she might leave you if she finds out. But she will almost certainly leave you if she thinks you're cheating.
    
    What's more, your wife finding out could really work for you in the long-run. If you can get you wife on-side with your schizophrenia you could have a powerful ally in life who will help you manage your symptoms so they don't cause you to fail in your life outside the home, and she can help you be the best you can be. Wouldn't an ally help you right now?
    
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  - curious-bunny
    
    4 years ago
    
    Are you really this pathetic? Either loose her or dont. It's a pretty easy coin flip mate
    
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SwickDinging

4 years ago

Stop lying to your wife. She deserves better.

You have no idea how she would react to your diagnosis, and if she loved you enough to marry you then I would imagine she will be supportive.

You've lied so much now that you're in danger of losing her. Just bite the bullet and tell her, apologise profusely, expect to be in the doghouse for a while. It might not be too late for you two if you tell the truth now. But I promise you the longer you lie about this for the worse it will be when she finds out. And she will definitely find out at some point.

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curious-bunny

4 years ago

What aspiringruth said. If I was her I would leave you. The trust is gone and anything you said would just make me distrust you even further. If I was her our relationship would be over and you would be getting divorce papers shortly. I dont ask much from a partner but honest is key. If you cant be honest with me then you cant have my heart or body

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Divorce papers because your s/o was going through a rough patch? Because they didn’t know how to handle a very scary situation and panicked?
  
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  - Cuntsiclestick
    
    4 years ago
    
    If that's how my partner handled a rough patch, I'd think he's not worth being around anymore. I can't stand when people hide shit because they're too scared or prideful.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      I just wanted to figure shit out first, crack down on what’s real and what isn’t so I know what my plan would be to approach this to her. Shit just kept getting worse and my brain got so much messier that I just dug myself into this pit that I’m stuck in now.
      
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  - curious-bunny
    
    4 years ago
    
    No because they lied to me. Sneaked around and so on. Look I'm not even mono but if hes sneaking around and lying then hes not the man I fell for. I wouldnt trust him. And if I cant trust him I cang lovs him. I would feel betrayed.
    
    Had he been straight up with me from the beginning. Even mostly beginning I would understand. I'm not saying it would be easy but the trust wouldnt be broken. You break the trust by mind will think your cheating or worse. Just how it goes.
    
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litelander8

4 years ago

I agree with everyone else. You're a terrible decision maker.

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libertybell

4 years ago

You need to tell her the truth. Your dishonesty is getting you nowhere.

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