I keep hurting my girlfriend

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One time my girlfriend, who I loved and considered perfect, cheated on me and it shattered what I thought about her. Before I knew she cheated on me (because it happened months in the past) I actually cheated on her and when we broke up because of that she desperatly wanted to get back with me. It was during that time I learned she cheated before me and it changed everything, I hated her for it. I found out over the months of us talking on and off she was obsessed with me and even though I hated her for cheating I still had feelings for her and we eventually got back together. We are back together as of right now but since we have been back together I have just been lying and tearing her apart. Since she will not break up with me (I'm pretty sure she's obsessed) I just keep hurting her. Most of the time I just lie about what I'm doing and she stays very happy but when she finds something out or I slip up she freaks out and there's drama and we fight but I never care because I know I can get away with it and I know it hurts her and she hurt me and I just can't forgive her for what she did. I love her but I just keep hurting her and its to the point that I know I'm doing it because at first I didn't know what was wrong with me. Why am I doing this to her? Is this normal?

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  • libguy
    8 years ago

    Been there, Dude. My advice: Get out of this sick relationship before she has your child. Then you'll get a whole new prospective on love. A child. Nuff said.

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    • Beep_Beep
      8 years ago

      Yep. Danger zone, man.

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  • mas0n
    11 years ago

    your a mind rapper!

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  • mas0n
    11 years ago

    so your think rappening her

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You haven't got over the fact that she has cheated on you. I think that with the way you're acting she'll probably cheat on you again

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  • sarah_cox
    13 years ago

    I know how she feels,i would not break up with my bf and let him do things to me just to keep him but in the end i realised what a jerk he was and finally broke up with him. Took me ages to get over him but i am glad i did

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Dude y r u hurt!? U did the sake thing as she did to you! So chill for a bit abd thunk about it

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  • LikeABoss
    14 years ago

    I agree with iin2000.

    Also, if you really love her you wouldn't be cheating on her anymore or being ok with hurting her. Either forgive & forget and try to progress the relationship or just take a break or actually break up so you both can move on.

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  • browndoll
    14 years ago

    shes gonna leave you for someone else one day

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  • DreamerxX
    14 years ago

    it's normal but everyone has their own limits. if you keep on hurting her she'll end up leaving you one day....

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  • Jessicashleigh
    14 years ago

    It is normal.
    But if you want a chance to salvage the relationship, you two need to go on a break. Split for 6 months and see how you both feel during that time.

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  • iin2000
    14 years ago

    everything got its limits. if you keep doing it, she will just dump you one day, even if she loves you and is obsessed with you. after all who wants to live with someone who keeps hurting you and do not want to let the bygones be bygones. what is important is, whether she is truthful to you now. so, show respect. tell her that you forgave her. and ask for her forgiveness for being such a dick. after that your relationship will be in wonders! good luck.

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