I just need advice on this one guy

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So I’m in college and recently developed feelings for this guy a few doors down. He’s very caring and loyal (at least wth friendship) however he’s been hooked on this girl since last semester and I feel like she is just stringing him along like hyping him up and then dragging him down again (considering she’s been sexual with other guys) also according to her friend (who isn’t truly a friend at all) she is hardly hygienic whatsoever! Apparently he knows and wants to help her and it sucks that I fell for him and he’s completely into someone else. I think it’s sweet he wants to help but to be brutally honest I feel like she just loved the attention she gets from having him wrapped around his finger. I like him a lot but don’t know when or if I should even tell him or if I should wait and see if they become a thing or have a falling out.

P.S. we have spoken before sometimes he comes where I work to gets food and asks if I’m okay and just stares at me cause he thinks I’m cute in my uniform, he flirts a little but I can’t tell how he feels about me.

Tell him I like him 9
Tell him she’s dirty & to move on 0
Don’t get involved 0
Like someone else 2
Just be his friend 0
Tell him I like him BUT that remain friends only 1
Don’t tell him and let this ride out 3
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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    Just start having sex with him and he will forget all about the tart down the hall. Keep him happy and you won't have problems.

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    • MangoTango
      6 years ago

      Um, that's one way to go about it. This is probably the easiest, most direct way. Guys aren't that complicated.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        6 years ago

        I’m not into having sex so early df kind of advice?

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        • MangoTango
          6 years ago

          I see. Alrighty, you have to go the old fashioned way. Just get to know him, be friends, and let things play out. That's perfectly fine. He might realize you're his type. Go for it!

          You can also play slightly hard to get. That works with some guys, almost too well. You stay friends, but don't let him think he can ask you out so easily.

          Or, don't play any games at all. Just be sincere, and let fate decide.

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            6 years ago

            Sounds like a plan, thanks!

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  • Whatintarnation
    6 years ago

    I would suggest grabbing the bull by the horns and telling him how you feel. If he likes you and flirts with you, he's obviously got some feelings for you. If he knows he has a chance with you, he'll most likely wanna get together.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Well it’s only been 2 week/ almost 3 I feel it’s still too soon

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      • Emokate
        6 years ago

        Take your time and don't let anyone talk you into something you don't want.

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  • barstool
    6 years ago

    Try and hook up with him or ask him on a date. I'm honestly not sure what the best option is; I just want to make the point that iMO sometimes when guys are really into one particular girl, they get a bit tunnel vision-ey. It's not that they don't notice other girls exactly, just that they can get really hung up on one girl, so everyone else comes behind her (not literally btw).
    And you don't want to play second fiddle to some other girl he's got a crush on.

    So I'm just sayin, if he's really hung up on her (and you know this - and it sounds like he might be?) then it might be better to just steer clear. Not much you can do. Cos even if something happens, you never know if he's still really thinking about her.
    But if it's just that he thinks she's cute, or kinda likes her, then continue as normal, try and get together with him. Don't tell him how you feel, but ask him out on a date or something.

    And if you want him to find out about her bad hygiene (for example) be really sneaky/subtle about it. If you start talking shit about her to him directly, he'll see right through what you're doing.
    (Not sure if you were planning to do that, I know it sounds mean. But I'm just being realistic, this is what people do..).

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    I want to thank everyone for their advice, but as of last night he told me he thought I was beautiful and kissed me and I got my answer!! Woo!

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  • TerriAngel
    6 years ago

    You dont see " I wish Id had less sex " on ANYONES headstone.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Yeah well he’s not looking to do it just to do it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Just ask him out, and don't waste time talkin bout the skankosaur.

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  • Checkmate_King
    6 years ago

    If she's skanky and unhygienic the hold she's got on him is: blowjobs. You have to compete with that. So practice up, learn all you can, watch a lot of bj porn and then offer him one. Trust me bj's go far when you want to bag a guy. Be the best you can be and learn to suck with a grin on your face.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      He hasn’t done anything sexual at all

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      • Checkmate_King
        6 years ago

        Time for you to step up to the plate then.

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