I just found out my wife was the biggest slut

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My wife and I just moved. I ran across an old laptop of hers and she kept a diary on it and also a bunch of emails. My wife was the biggest slut, she would go hunting for guys to have sex with and even go to vacation spots just to screw a room full of guys where nobody knew her. I have pics of her with guys she would pick up and take home to screw. But she plays the innocent, clean, shy type to a TEEEEEE. I should have known when we were dating she made a comment on how she enjoys living one life but having her coworkers thinks she's so nice. Damn I should have picked up on that but now I am having a hard time looking at her play this role and being with her knowing her true self. What makes me so mad is she makes it hard for me to have sex with her, playing that little nice girl.

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  • Pink-pumpkin
    6 years ago

    Never marry a liar and a manipulator. They're the worst!

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Whats your wifes number?

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    Was all of this "slut" business before or after ya'll were married? If this happened after ya'll married then that is cheating, and I could of course sympathize and totally understand why you would be angry, but... If all of this "slut" business happened before ya'll were married and especially if ya'll weren't even together yet then it's really not any of your God damn business, Snoopy!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      She is a slut, plain and simple. You can put a wolf in sheeps clothing but is still a wolf. Granted she fooled me and pretty much anyone else who looks at her, but she is a slut wolf PERIOD!

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        You never answered my question. Please answer my question.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Before for SURE, After Possibly...why?

          Point it, she still has sneaky slut ways like flirting etc.

          Are you one of those..."My Sista Girls, can't do no wrong" people?

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          • RoseIsabella
            6 years ago

            No, I'm not a "my sista girl", but like I said before it's one thing if she did it before she was with you, and something entirely different if she is doing it after ya'll have been together. Doing nasty, slutty shot after ya'll got together is at best wrong and at worst cheating, but if she did stuff before it shouldn't be an issue now.

            Then again, I suppose there is the argument that it's a sign of her character. Have you talked with her about all of this stuff?

            How long have ya'll been married, and how long did did you know her before ya'll got married?

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            • CozmoWank
              6 years ago

              It would have been nice if she told him about this stuff before they got married so the poor bastard knew who he was marrying.

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    • rayb12
      6 years ago

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  • nikkiclaire
    6 years ago

    How did being innocent, clean, shy or nice get entangled with who you sleep with? None of those qualities have anything to do with sex.

    If I want to whore around and have group sex it won't change how I feel or act towards my girlfriend or anyone else for that matter.

    I think the only problem I see with your wife is she is potentially a liar since she chose marriage and didn't ask for it to be an open one.

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  • hootiemomma
    6 years ago

    Her behavior sounds very abnormal but you invaded her privacy looking through her old laptop and now you know things she doesn’t know you know. Things you shouldn’t know because of how you are reacting. She obviously didn’t tell you because she knew how you’d react. You opened Pandora’s Box and the only way to resolve it is to talk with her and let the chips fall where they may. You might end up closer for it or in divorce court but at least you’ll have honesty and communication.

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  • lonewolf1253
    6 years ago

    Was? Once a slut whore, always a slut whore. Hopefully you can dump the cunt without losing the shirt off your back.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Hahaha. This is a continuation from that troll post the hypothetical "wife" made a long time ago, ain't it?

    You're committed aint'cha.

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  • McBean
    6 years ago

    Dude. You can't change a woman like that. Just accept it and join a swingers club. You can go the lifestyle resorts and get naked for group sex in the sunshine. If this is not your style, split up with her and masturbate yourself in the bathtub everyday.

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  • Kittenfever
    6 years ago

    You're clearly the jealous type (me too, dude). But don't be angry at her; she has done nothing wrong, as far as I'm concerned. She's allowed to have all the sex she wants, as long as she wasn't with you at the time. I know it must be frustrating and I do sympathise with you, because I know I'd feel hurt and insecure if my husband had that history, but it's really no big deal.

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    • [Old Memory]
      6 years ago

      I can see that with women, screwing 50 men at once has the same moral implications as a monogamist 1on1 relationship. None of you seem to get the 'slut' or 'whore' aspect of his wife. He probably though that the lack of moral judgement and character was not going to be an issue. Especially since she seems to be doing this pure girl charade.

      If nothing else, this thread has taught me that women are very forgiving of each other. Probably because they are no better than the accused.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    Divorce.

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  • S12207
    6 years ago

    I don't blame you for being pissed it's pretty fucked up and plain and simple you don't trust her anymore and will never trust her again.

    Get out bud and good luck!

    And I'm sorry you're going through that it must be awful! 😯

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  • Fetiza000
    6 years ago

    I would never cheat on someone i love.

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  • kingofthebigToe
    6 years ago

    Her asshole must be like a convenient store open 24/7

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    • EnglishLad
      6 years ago

      I was thinking a wizard's sleeve but your ANALogy works too, (see what I did there?)

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    Does she know that you know?

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    How you feel about this is normal, but maybe not enough to make a decision. You have to make sure she's loyal to you now and she always was. Then, if this is the case, you might want to discuss this with her.
    Edit: Now, reading some of your comments, sounds like being with her is a bad decision. She has the tendency to be flirty with other guys, and she'll stop in some particular cases just because you say so. You can't act like her guardian. Personally I believe that you should never tell your partner to stop being unloyal. If you're required to, it means you won't change anything at all, so the next move in that case is to abandon her.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    6 years ago

    Other background info.
    When we first got married we found out she was pregnant about 2 months later. She said she didn't want to have a baby so we both agreed and she got an abortion...now I don't think it was mine. Also that same year she took some classes at a local college and met this guy, she said he was just a nice guy who she met during registration. She was emailing him kissing emoji and love emoji...when I said something about it she agreed to stop emailing him.

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    • Tealights
      6 years ago

      Here's the real issue. You can't trust her, because she's known for living a double life and making a game out of it. You feel as though this marriage is just another one of her double life games, where she's an innocent wife by day, and a mistress by night/behind closed doors. It probably isn't, and she's trying to change; but I can see why you're suspicious.

      In my opinion, I find the abortion odd as well. Normally, if children were agreed upon prior, a new baby after getting married is super welcomed, and it's strange she would want to abort the first child you two had together if it were yours. However, since the baby is dead, we'll never know for sure who the father was.

      Talk to her, but gather your thoughts and calm down before you do. Her past doesn't matter unless she lied about it to you directly (i.e. "I'm a virgin!"). Talk to her about the abortion and why she wanted to have it. Ask her to be honest about whether the baby was yours or not, among other things.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        6 years ago

        I don't know if it was my baby or not but looking back, I'm glad she did have an abortion because she was heavy on Valium and some other pills...something else I found out. When we got married she must have had a few hundred Valium and some other Sedative Hypnotic pills she used to take everyday. I'm sure the baby was being harmed and probably would have been born with problems.

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        • Tealights
          6 years ago

          Damn dude, why did you marry this chick?

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          • Anonymous Post Author
            6 years ago

            Like I said, she is real good at playing the "I'm a good girl" role. If you saw her, met her and knew her for years, you would have no idea. In fact she even told me her coworkers and friends don't even know the 'real' her...she told me that. But at the time I was just thinking oh ok, so you like to be private I guess.

            She is like the QUEEN manipulator. And all this is not even the half of it.

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            • RoseIsabella
              6 years ago

              That I'd definitely a red flag! It's not normal to live a double life, and claim that your friends don't even know you.

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            • Tealights
              6 years ago

              So has she done anything recent that could be suspicious? Is she off the drugs? What's the current situation?

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    • RoseIsabella
      6 years ago

      That is actually not normal of her!

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  • Boojum
    6 years ago

    As a general principle, I don't think spouses have a right to pry into the sexual history of their partners or shame them for what they did in the past. Sometimes it's relevant to what's going on in the current relationship and lingering issues need to be dealt with, but usually it's just history, and we all have those.

    So what exactly is bothering you? Do you feel your wife is being phony with you and lying about the person she truly is? Or is the main point how she's just not that into sex with you? Do you maybe feel twinges of jealousy and inadequacy, wondering if you just can't turn her on as much as those other guys did?

    Does the idea of her behaving as she did turn you on? Don't feel bad if it does, since lots of guys would react that way.

    If it repulses or disgusts you, then I'd suggest you need to step back, think about why that is, and consider just how important it really is to your relationship with her.

    People's priorities can change. Maybe she looks back at that period of her life as a "been there, done that, moved on" sort of thing. Maybe something traumatic happened during that period which forced her to reconsider her choices. Maybe she came to understand that she was looking for something in entirely the wrong way. Maybe she just woke up one morning and decided she wasn't living the life she wanted.

    Your image of your wife has obviously changed drastically, but you can't really understand why she went from what she was to what she is without talking to her about it. Not that there's any guarantee you'll get the truth. It's entirely possible she either won't want to share all the details (which is her right), or maybe she doesn't fully understand why she did what she did and why she changed.

    It probably wouldn't be wise to admit that you were snooping on her old laptop, but if you do find that the thought of her being sexually voracious does things for you, maybe you could consider easing in to some fantasy talk and checking out how she responds.

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  • paramore93
    6 years ago

    Retroactive jealousy?

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  • Badasswithboobs
    6 years ago

    Well if you like that she is a slut and it turns you on stay with her. Her sex might get better and you might experiment more. Xxxx

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