I just don't want sex. i want to be sure i'm married and with the ...

this is totally normal and you're not stupid. you're way smarter than the idiots that get knocked up at a young age, especially when they can't provide for the child. it's great that you're looking for a job before you even have sex.

What you're feeling is perfectly normal. In fact, it's actually quite admirable. There is something you need to know. This you-must-lose-your-virginity-ASAP mentality is very American/British and is a remnant of the sexual revolution.

There are many parts of the world where it's perfectly acceptable to wait for marriage before having sex for the first time. Unfortunately, here in Britain and in the USA, if you tell people that, you will be mocked.

To cut the long story short, you should never have sex just because your friends are pressuring you to. This is a bad idea. Will they be there for you if you get pregnant or HIV? I don't think so. Will they be there for you if you regret your first time? I don't think so. You're ultimately accountable for your own life.

Don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

Wait, honesltly.

I am a 20yo male and lost me virginity at the age of 13, it was at a new year ever party and me and a few friend stole some of the adult vodka and stuff, been at that silly age you think you can take the world ( or half a bottle of vodka) shortly after i was having sex with a friend of my cousin, she was 16 years old, my mother and auntie caught me in the act, 7 years later i still hate the fact of how i lost it. I will i could of waited and kept it till now and wait for the perfect lady.

Dont let anyone force you, do it when its right.

No, no, no!!!!! Don't ask a question like that. Losing your virginity should be no ones choice but yours. It's not stupid that you're waiting til marriage! If anything, it's smart! There's less to worry about like possibility of getting pregnant, stds, sti's, etc. Sex just complicates things if you're not ready. I'm 21, I've never had sex & for the most part, I'm ok with that. I hear too many stories of things going hay wire in peoples relationships, sometimes I actually feel lucky I haven't had sex yet. At least when you're married, in most cases you won't regret it. If a guy isn't willing to wait for you, then he was just a waste of time anyway! More girls should realize that instead of feeding into the hype.

you are normal I'm so glad to see someone who thinks like you ;)

If you don't feel like having sex yet then don't, sex is definitely not something people should be very much provoked or forced into doing. Take it easy

It comes down to personal beliefs and your own philosophies. Condoms are 98% effective against pregnancy. You fallaciously believe that the chances of pregnancy are extremely high due to your own friend becoming pregnant. Of course it's unfortunate, but this is confirmation bias and your friend is part of that small 2% of people. Sex is one of the most amazing sensations this life has to offer as well as the fact that the only reason that there is any life is due reproduction. However, don't succumb to peer pressure, only do what you personally feel is the best decision. : )

Why tease yourself with icing when you can have the whole cake?!

You dont wanna die a virgin

If my wife didnt want to have sex with me and i still go bj's and we still messed around i would still have stayed with her, if after years of that your guy is still around and with you and loves you then when you finaly do get married atleast youl be part of that TINY SMALL % that actualy saves it for marrage and im not religious atall....just to many women out there throwin there junk all over the places nowadays

Everyone has his values and principles.Why to hear what others say?Live your life as you wish .If you are happy then dont care about others.I am 19.My mom says wait till marriage,my friends say do it you are missing something.You know what I have my own opinion.I am not going to do it just because everyone does it and I am not going to wait till marriage as my mom says.I will do whenever I am ready.

But I would take anndrian007s advice

With me I wanted to have sex early. By the time I was 14 i was having some hardcore sexual fanastys. I'm a girl so i felt slutty loosing my virginaty at 15 but when I was 16 I fell in love ( or my closes feelings to it so far). We had sex like 4 months before that but once we were really in love and we had sex it was amazing. The most lustful moments of my life so far. It's up to you, i think if u have strong feelings towards him you guys should let all that out :)

Well to be honest sounds like peer pressure, don't be forced if your having fun with the little stuff then keep it there, don't let anybody control you, and you should occasionaly have sex when in your 20s, cause? Don't wanna wait to get married and be inexperienced, very, very unattractive. My advice use your own, goodluck!

If you and your bf are satisfied, then you shouldn't care what these other people think.

Wait until you are ready.
If you're not ready, you'll regret it a lot afterward.
You'll feel guilty, dirty. And you'll be very disappointed that you did not save yourself for your husband.

^ roflmao. you're normal. =) there's no need to rush into having sex.

Well, it's a sin to have sex before marriage, but to me you blew that already with the blow jobs and fingering. Still, you should wait.

well in opinion i think that it oki 4 u 2 wait i mean u n ur bf get an orgazm so like ur not missin out <well u r on a bit but ur life is ahead of ya unless u get hit by a bus;/ then nevermind> yh i think that is beautiful what u r doin :) n it doesnt mean u will get prgnent coz ur friend did the best way is 2 take pills , get a diaphram n use condoms .... then tehre r very little chances of getting pregnant :P my moms friend does that n now shes 37 n never had a child n she got married when she was 20 or so <my mom tells me all these things ;) were close ;P>