I i n to like my wife telling me about the sex she had with her uncle

I had the identical situation with my wife of now 27 years. About 15 years ago, I'd asked if her recently deceased uncle by marriage had ever approached she or her sister sexually when they were young, and she admitted he had kissed them in their teens, and for durations up to 30 seconds. This had always had me curious if it hadn't gone further, as she appeared to be holding back.
Several months ago (some 17 years since her aunt & uncle's deaths), when the same conversation had come up (I bracing myself for anything, but trying to remain as empathetic & mature as possible), she admitted having had sex with her uncle.
I was literally sick to my stomach to hear this, but there was also something arousing about the fact my "girl next door" (yet almost fridgid/servicer of a wife) had this lurid past, as due to medical reasons (she a heart patient, with lots of meds, as well as her being 58 now), we haven't had sex more than 8 times in the past 10 years. Yeah, I know.
Knowing her degree of discomfort about talking further, I thought I'd create a questionaire for her, which asked about locations (one of which she'd admitted was at a location as late as 1994, well after our third child was born), and degree of sexual contact. My feelings were all over the place. My sense of betrayal (which I thought I'd handle with greater maturity), was pretty profound, as I'd been faithful for so long, yet she was still servicing this usually drunk prick (letting him fuck her) during our busiest child rearing years, and as our sex began to taper off dramatically. Of course (being me) it got the best of me, and I lashed out with the typical, "How could you?" questions, and she pretty much told me to go find someone else to fuck if I really needed sex.
All of this calmed over a couple of months, as we both still care about each other, and separating at this time is financially too much for either of us. Unfortunately, I started obsessing over dates, frequency (knowing she'd "have dinner" with her aunt & uncle (near their home) at least once every 2 months from the time we'd met until they'd moved, meaning her "it only happened once per year" answer on the questionaire, was more likely 3 to 6 time per year.
So even though things had calmed, I'd begun to see a therapist over this issue (she won't go), who'd said that rarely does such a relationship begin in one's teens, but much younger, when the child/victim isn't aware of right or wrong, and assumes such relationships are normal, and adult family members to be trusted. Upon my mentioning this, she'd given me an unusual look, as though the therapist was correct.
This prompted even more curiosity on my part, as I was definately getting the impression this awkward relationship had a great deal to do with her having become so sexually cold as an adult, as I know she's avoided orgasms since I'd met her.
Questionaire # 2 revealed that (and I'm confident she's still holding back) her uncle had allegedly begun kissing her at age 12, performing oral sex on her at age 14 (I'm sure oral on him, somewhere in between), and penetration at age 17, and that he'd said he'd deny it if she were to ever tell anyone, which fits the pedophile profile, but at the same time, he apparently told her that he liked her, and thought about her all of the time. This likely started the Stockholm Syndrome (developing sympathy for the enemy), and for some twisted reason, led her to feel the need to please him for better than 25 years. And by pleasing him, this meant agreeing to meet him elsewhere in the house during family gatherings, and fucking him twice while I was in the same house with our 3 kids, his wife, & the in-laws.
Most happened after dinner at her aunt 7 uncle's, and aunt would go to sleep, leaving the two of them to suck & fuck on the sofa in the den, and apparently almost being busted while she was sucking him off in the bathroom, and her having to hide from her aunt in the shower.
I wish I knew why I think her sneaking off to fuck him, and with such regularity is such a turn on for me (maybe finally discovering there really was some twisted/slutty side to her, which I'd never seen before, as well as guys typically wanting a lady in the living room, and a whore in the bedroom), but after having zero sex for almost 3 years, it's all I've got to work with. Hoping for even more details in the questionaire I'm planning on handing her on my birthay in a couple of months.
Wish me luck!
Some kinky-ass stuff, huh?! lol

that may be why she dislikes telling you.

it's possible she felt pleasure - the problem however is that it sounds like he took advantage of her age and her love for his own pleasure.

and when she tries to open up to you and relate what happened to her, you get aroused... perhaps she dislikes this reaction? or dislikes the fact that you think she was willing.

too fucked up to comment

my master seems to enjoy me telling him about my abuse

I don't get off on the thought that she was abused - it's more the thought that she, as my wife (not as a child) has had sex with another man (and enjoyed it) .

you guys are sick pieces of shit getting off on your wife being sexually abused as a child.. you have no idea how confusing it is. I hope your dick falls off.

Laxxe, quite surprising to read yr story, and the similarities.
After that first time (in which my wife was only a passive participant), and the next couple of times where she was more aware of what was happening but did nothing much to stop him (quite understandable considering her age and also the fact that he was quite a physical man), she then became much more 'active'--- she would go to his house several times each week knowing he would have sex with her; some days she would 'bunk off school and would spend all day in his bed'. This evidently went on for quite a few years, until I met her (she has told me things that suggests she continued to visit him while we were dating, but I can't be 100% sure). She also told me on one occasion that he 'probably fucked her more in those years than we fucked in the first ten years of our marriage!!'
She will only talk about these events on very rare occasions as she confesses she still feels bad about it, even though I have said that whatever happened then made her into the woman that I love (and still do).

By the way, good luck with the questionaire - if she will agree to do it.

Maybe she dislikes telling you because recounting abuse is painful and difficult, especially when the person you're talking to insists that you wanted it.

I guess it's your fetish.