I haven't made a single friend in college...iin?

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Well I am a freshman in college. I am from NY but went to a great art school in Ohio. I like the school and it's everything I wanted but I haven't made a single friend. I talk with my roommate but that's the only person; and we aren't even that close. My two best friends are in college, one at home and another went away too. I'm so lonely and homesick it's depressing. I can't really connect with people. The first day people knew each other and had their own cliques. It doesn't help that I went away for a week because I lost a beloved family member. I never got a chance to make friends and now that I try I feel like the black sheep. I usually spend my time eating alone in the cafeteria, in class or working, talking on the phone or walking alone. I have this wonderful boyfriend who supports me and keeps in contact; He can't call this week because he's in the military and right now he has drills. My best friend at home has a very busy schedule so we only text and my friend in florida calls me every other night. When I talk to them I feel happy but once we have to stop I get depressed. My family supports me and has such high hopes for me that I don't want to let them down. I'm very family oriented so that doesn't help; I love my family and naturally miss them a lot. I have no one to talk to about these feelings and I can't drop out since I got a really good scholarship here. Is it normal to love school but hate your after school life? Is it normal not to make friends in college?

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  • JustAGirl92
    12 years ago

    Cheer up :) I just moved to Ohio too from another country and haven't made friends . But it will come naturally . Don't worry ! :) and if u wanna be friends , I'd love to but I need to figure out how to send messages here . Lol

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  • lc1988
    12 years ago

    I'm starting my 5th year and come to think of it..I haven't really made any friends in college. There's always the people in my classes that are "friends" but we never hang out outside of class. I'll have the same people in a lot of my classes and enjoy talking to them or working on group projects but never made any close friends. One of my co workers is my best friend and we just make friends from going to bars. ha. College isn't really about cliques anyways. Study hard and do what you need to do to graduate. Might be a hard concept to grasp at first coming right out of high school but you'll get there. Just try to talk to some of the people in your class. Even last week some random guy after a test came up to me and said "how easy was that test?" and bam! 20 min conversation. Instant "friends" ha.

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  • LOUi_CUDi
    12 years ago

    yes normal. And just wait u will find a new friend. Im start colleg on 22nd dam i hope i meet a lot of people.

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  • Twarrior
    12 years ago

    If you're a girl you gotta put out more. If your a guy, you gotta get drunk and bang fat chicks more.

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  • zackattack
    11 years ago

    Hey it's ok. Nothing to beat yourself up about. I know that it sucks. I felt very awkward my first semester of college, because everyone seemed to have known someone. My advice is to find a club or something of that sort. It worked for me. Also keep a positive attitude and maybe your floor mates will come around, and be friendly to you. Also there's no shame in transferring next year. My current room mate this year hated his old school, and transferred here and likes it here much more. You're totally normal just in a rough patch.

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  • Dovesolo
    12 years ago

    Bro if you're black stop being the normal you I know this sounds wrong but black people from New York are worse than super fag sometimes... It's like all of you nyp all just have to be the center of attention the loudest bro and he probably annoys the hell out of people

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  • flufffluff
    12 years ago

    This actually cheered me up a little (I know I sound selfish but hear me out) I just moved to college as well and I'm on a completely different continent and I've been here for around 5 months and I'm going through the EXACT same thing you are! We just need to suck it up and learn to be independent, be your own best friend for the time being and trust me when I say friends will come along when you least expect it and you'll probably meet them in the most bizarre places or during the weirdest situations. Better to be who you are and make one or two real good friends then pretend you're someone your not just so you can be a part of any 'cliques', Goodluck!

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  • Oooby
    12 years ago

    i think it is normal, youll find some eventually.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I spent 4 years at University and loved the course but never spent any time with classmates after class. I spoke to a few but had no real 'friends' nor did I want any!

    There are enough sites like this to keep you occupied - otherwise study hard. Don't worry too much about it, I'm sure you will meet some pals soon.

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  • crackdispenor
    12 years ago

    what a loser

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