I have trouble asking girls out

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Greetings everyone! I am a 21 year old boy and my greatest desire is to find a kind and trustworthy girlfriend. I would like to mention a few things regarding my past, just to help you getting a better point of view, regarding my issue. I have had a difficult childhood and was being mistreated throughout my years in school. Everything has changed since then and I have very good friends and girl friends, who help me as much as they can and I am honoured to have them by my side. In my spare time I read a lot of philosophical books and I have swimming as a sport. Due to the fact that I haven't had friends for many years and suffered a lot of loneliness and rejection of girls I had been very self-conscious until recently. Thanks to my engaging with sport and making very good friends, I have gained a significant amount of confidence and self esteem. However I lack of experience when talking to girls. I am not a complete amateur anymore and I have already had the chance to kiss a girl and make sex. However, my relationship broke apart, because we had a complete different point of view in many aspects. In order to be more specific, my main issue is the following. Each time I visit bars with my friends, I am trying to speak to as many girls as possible in order to brighten my chances. However, no matter how confident I am when speaking to them, I feel like that they don't really like to engage in a deeper conversation with me. I am aware of the fact that some girls may be indifferent, but despite me being kind and honest to them, they don't seem to be interested. What I mean to say, is that I feel so stupid when I talk to them... just as if I would be talking to myself. Consequently, I get fed up by their indifference and break up the conversation. My main problem is that I don't know what I am supposed to do to make a girl attracted to me. Just to prevent you from jumping to conclusions I have to mention that I don't lack of appearance( as many of my friends have ascertained me). I am aware of the fact that I will get many chances from now on to meet girls, but I just haven't found out why girls don't seem to be attracted by me and as a matter of fact treat me as if I were just a good friend of them. I am trying with all my might, but I haven't been lucky so far. Many times feelings of anxiety and anger overcome me and maybe I have stressed myself out.(I am not a native english speaker by the way)

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  • Zeus_
    7 years ago

    You don't need a girlfriend at your age. You need to date as many women as possible [and always use a condom]. But definitely no girlfriend. You do not need one.

    Stop "Conversing" with women. Your goal is to have sex with them, not be her best friend, not be the nice guy.

    You are boring these women. You want to dress smartly, smell good, speak and move confidently, and get them into bed.

    Stop trying to find a girlfriend. For the next 10-plus years, you should be seeking dates and one-night-stands.

    Your primary attention should be on your academic, and professional goals, not a relationship.

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  • Rusty-Rider
    8 years ago

    Sheep are friendly and very trustworthy.

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  • Skoll
    8 years ago

    Maybe try going someplace else then a bar to find women? Most of them there are usually only looking for a one night stand anyway.

    Maybe try meeting up with women who go to the gym as you seem interested in sports?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago

      Thanks for the suggestion. As I have already mentioned I go swimming, as well as, to the fitness studio, but simply because these are not group activities. In the swimming pool I have already met significantly kind girls, but until now I just have been out of luck. I didn't mean to say that I am trying to find the kindest girl, just one with whom I can engage as good as possible a relationship

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Good luck with; 'to find a kind and trustworthy girlfriend'.
    Remember, God promised men that good and obedient wives would be found in all corners of the world. Then he made the earth round, and laughed and laughed and laughed.....

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    • Steve2!
      8 years ago

      There is no Gawd.

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