I have to keep my bfs away from my girl friend...

My bestie is everything I am not.

I am taller than average, I have a thin, athletic build and I have glasses and struggle to maintain a halfway feminine appearance. Most of my friends are guys and we typically work on trucks or read comic books.

My bestie is almost like my altar ego. She's short, cute, feminine and has nice skin and hair. She enjoys shopping, reading and pretty much everything that bores me but we have a good time. Our friends compare us to lesbians and she is the woman in the relationship... Where they say I'm the man!

I have dated four men over the past four years. All four were totally different men, all four were great relationships, all four tried to make a go at her. A couple of weeks ago, I introduced my current bf who I've been with for about a year now... And this bloke seemed to take an incredible liking to her. He added her to his Facebook and speaks to her occasionally... He's given me no solid reasons to be suspicious but it may be due to my telling him in conversation how she came to me with the last three guys.

I'm not going to bother him about it without reason and I've expressed my concerns, all of which were met with reassurance. All the while, it looks like history is repeating itself.

I don't know what the hell to do. Is this normal!?

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Based on 44 votes (25 yes)
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  • fullhouse

    Relax. Its ok. I guess it's normal to feel a bit insecure n jealous even that ur bfs like her so easily. But you have to let the chips fall where they may. If u find out that guys wld rather be flirting with ur 'bestie' then u know they weren't right in d first place. U did d right thing by letting ur bf know ur uncomfortable abt his chatting with her, but don't push it, it'll only make d guy go further away. Tc

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  • finleyjacobs

    Do you know if your friend does any flirting with them? As much as it is the poor choices of your ex boyfriends fault, it could very well be your friend flirting with them behind your back. I wouldn't say be worried because there isn't much you can do other than trust this guy and hope he will stay true to you. However have you had a conversation with your friend about your feelings? Maybe she will help reassure you that the guy is not into her.

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    • From what I've seen, she doesn't reciprocate and she has assured me that she's not interested in them...

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  • MonAmour

    Just to push back are there any other indications he likes her more than Facebook chatting?

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    • Not really, I know my worries are slightly irrational but history has shown that it's not unlikely.

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