I have no sympathy for adults in abusive relationships

Sounds like you got bullied a lot as a kid

So if your significant other one day beat you to an inch of your life despite your best efforts to stop it, what would you do? If you call the cops, they are gone for three days, then they are back.

Would you pack up all your stuff and move in those 3 days? Where to, with what money? Most people can't drop a few thousand for a place immediately. Stay with a friend? Ok. What about your belongings?

Kill the person? Have fun spending your life in jail.

Life is messy. Think through what you'd actually be able to do if you found yourself in that situation before judging others.

Hopefully you never have to experience it.

It's a case by case basis as _Mehhh_ said. Their are many things to consider. One in three women have experienced domestic violence in their life. One in four men have experienced domestic violence in their life. Personally I have seen equal amounts on both sides.

I have a cousin who is still in an abusive relationship for near a decade she leaves then goes back then leaves, then goes back. You know the story. For her I have no sympathy. If you leave because you are being abused, why would you go back. And bring you children back into that environment. That really ticks me off.

The second female abuse I saw, I hurt the man badly. You don't kick a women sobbing on the floor.

The first male abuse was my father who used to beg me to bet up his second wife. See she would get all coked up and freak uot and bet the crap out of him. And he couldn't put a scratch on her of she would be on the phone in a second calling the cops. So he would ask me to beat her up. Because I was a kid and wouldn't go to jail. I just laughed and watched.

And the other male abuse was my brother. Almost the same as my father.

People need to stop being afraid of losing money, or how it will look to others, or if you might get penalized, or hurt. If your being abused leave. There are places to go. Unless your a man, but that's something else. If you can't leave fight. If you can't fight, kill. Abuse is tyranny.

It's a case by case basis for me.

By default, I have sympathy. It's a horrible situation and NOBODY deserves to get abused like that. There's also a lot you have to consider. "Just leaving someone" is not "just leaving" them, it's leaving your home and potentially your city to get away from them. That's a big lifestyle change not everyone can just afford to do at the drop of a hat. There's also the threats. If the abuser has beaten their partner down so much that they know threats will work, it gets the partner scared to leave for fear of their life.

That being said, I do pity some people who have options and choose to stay there, especially women who have the option of shelters for abuse victims.

I do think one instance of domestic violence should be enough. A man would only have to hit me ONCE, and that is absolutely it, we are done right that second.

sounds like your an abuser trying to rationalize your shitty ways and blaming the victim c:

It's okay not to understand something, but coming to a conclusion based on a lack of information and a few assumptions isn't reasonable. Based on the beliefs you hold, I think it's normal to feel nothing for people you don't sympathize with or understand. If you really want to understand it you should go do research.

That's a very sad view of the world. Believing everyone's misery is their own fault sounds like an excuse never having to help anyone. If you've been treated badly I'm sorry. But don't let that turn you cold, or whoever hurt you will have won.

Yea are you an abuser? And because of manipulation and all kinds of other shit everyone is different, I don't know why people do what they do or how your mind works. But sometimes its lack of support no way out. For example I know a cunt who's dad was raping her it all came out after her mother divorced from her father, and the fathers mother her grandmother told her if you can't forgive and forget then your no granddaughter of mine. You know why? Because it was easier to forgive him her son than accept what he did. Its called denile its when you lie to yourself and believe it to make yourself feel better and its the most dangerous lie you can tell.

These comments! Ahahaha.

You sound like a kid that's watched too much anime. Nobody is impressed.

Lighten up Francis.