I have fear for relationships..

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I dont like changes to my life, vunerability and stuff.I dont know how I can fix it. Its my last chance I have given up on dating but I have 1 guy whos always wanted me and ive always liked him.He want to do videodates because of pandemic..I dont like it I have anxiety and I dont talk on phone or camera even with my friends.He said months ago he wasnt sure he want a relationship right now so I thought it was cool but now he does....I feel down because how I will handle it?

When it come to this I always run to my male friends because they dont talk about sex and expect it and they dont expect emotional closeness unless if we are talking about a serious thing.Its almost like relationship but platonic and I want romantic love.I ruin it everytime tho by getting angry at guys im dating for expecting stuff that are part of relationships and call them pervs or pushy.My fears take over.I dont know where it comes from to me.The relationship closest to me that ive witnessed in life is my younger brothers current one its lasted long for a first relationship and is very wholesome and cute.I look at them and wish I had that and at the same time....its so many changes.What will happen if I go to new places and be close with a someone....I feel like if I do this the world will explode...Like first time I travel with my former best friend and I sufferd panic attacks before trip...

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  • SkullsNRoses
    2 years ago

    You’ve already posted this and my advice is the same, you don’t have to have sex if you don’t want to. You also don’t have to be ready for romance right now even if you want it one day.

    This guy is certainly not your “last chance”, you’re being over dramatic.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      But I like THIS guy nd ive tried for years this I want to know how I can feel ready

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      • SkullsNRoses
        2 years ago

        Just because two people fancy eachother does not necessarily mean they will work as a couple.

        If you really want to try to work it out with this guy I recommend speaking to a therapist about why you push romantic partners away.

        It’s not clear from your post if you are scared of sex or if you feel no sexual attraction. Did you feel your previous partners wanted to go to fast or would you prefer a romantic relationship without sexual contact at all (yes, those exist)? If it’s the latter I recommend researching asexuality and demisexuality, this website is a good place to start:

        https://www.asexuality.org/

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