I have decided to stay single

I'm a guy almost done with medical school, and I love my career. I have a loving family (dad, mom and younger brother) and many good friends and a nice Church community.

The problem is, unlike most Christians, I HATE marriage/love relationships. I just hate them.

I like women but I HATE the package that comes with a woman: drama, kids, slavery, mother-in-laws, etc. I also hate babies/kids because they're nothing but poop machines. The idea of changing diapers sickens me!!

My ideal lifestyle is to buy a luxury condo in Chicago, buy an expensive Italian sports car, love the Lord, volunteer as a doctor in 3rd world countries, and live a single life.

I'm kinda like the single and ambitious Nicholas Cage from the movie "Family Man"

Is this normal?

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Based on 103 votes (81 yes)
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Comments ( 23 )
  • cinnalife

    You are awesome!! Live life & have fun!!

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  • finally someone who understands me!! im the same way & i have no respect at all for snotty nose kids who scream & pitch a fit in the mall or the store. it shows they ain't got no home training.

    @Ollieo, stop criticizing other people's choices, if the man wants to be single, then, damnit, let him be single. you're not God so you've got no right to judge.

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  • andrian007

    You sound like a sensible chap, so I guess this is your choice. But remember one thing which is always hammered into my head: The day will come when you retire and realise that all your friends and family have families of their own and may not have the time to spend with you. Regardless of how you feel about marriage and love, you too will need companionship at some point in your life. Not having a partner may risk you being lonely at old age and having no one to take care of you. I'm not trying to scare you but just trying to warn you of the dangers ahead. As long as you realise that and you're still adamant on the decision you've made, then you're all good.

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  • Moonlit_Heart

    Slavery?? What do you mean slavery?

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  • buriedalive

    Yea, I think it's sorta normal, but don't completely rule out the idea that you might meet a woman you fall for and want all that with. Do what you wanna do, just keep an open mind about it all : )

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  • seniregnat

    just live your life the way you want to. It sounds like you have a pretty good head on your shoulders so don't feel you have to bend to what society feels is the norm.

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  • chuy

    Yes normal, feel great I'm not the only one who thinks this way.

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  • IMissMary

    Good for you

    You have a long happy life ahead of you

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  • ucipher8

    slavery? Abraham lincoln the vampire hunter has something against that!

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  • 1000yrVampireKing

    you know like a very sensible man. If you are happy with the way things are just stay that way. Nothing says you have to get married.

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  • dalmationUntoyourSoul

    i don't know i was too busy masturbating.

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  • SillyKitty55

    live your life:)

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  • IveGotBallsOfSteal

    Word i feel the same way. I love being in love but I hate all the sacrifice and compromise that comes along with it. I've made similar vows in the past, but every time i commit to it, someone comes along... Just avoid women I guess. Learn to be like Henry Higgins in My Fair Lady lol. Obviously this isn't a normal thing but you're not alone.

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  • Its amazing that anyone graduating from med school could have such a moronic and disrespectful attitude towards committed relationships, families and children. That has nothing to do with whether or not you choose to be single.

    I think this is a fake post. If not, don't go into family practice or 3rd world work - you are too lacking in sensitivity and judgement.

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  • aauda

    notanymore....u rocks!!!

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  • lawlawl

    The reason you say this is because you've probably seen kids in the store crying really loud annoying the shit out of everyone. Great Encouragement

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  • WayOutThere

    Yes, this is perfectly normal. There are plenty of men who do not want the "package deal" that you describe; there are even more men who have accepted it, but silently regret doing so later in life.

    You don't have to accept this "package deal." Nor do you have to remain single and celibate, should you choose to reject it. Such false alternative is imposed only by your religion, by your desire to follow it's doctrines, and by your acceptance of it's basic premises. In other words: it is entirely your choice.

    There are plenty of women who do NOT desire to have kids, who do NOT want to get married, who do NOT want a traditional "relationship." If you're honest and open about what you want, you WILL be able to find women who fit the bill. But, bear in mind that people do change, yourself included, and you may one day find yourself accepting the "package deal" after all. But, take this latter advice as precautionary, not as prophetic.

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  • notanymore

    your dad and mom wont stay there for ever. your brother will be busy with his own family sooner or later. believe it or not, most (if not all) of ones friends are not real (think if you suddenly become totally bankrupt , would one of them give you half of all his money ? even this would not be a rough friendship test)
    the only real relationship is direct family, those are the ones that care for each other for life (if raised in the right way)
    these will be the achievement of your life.
    the package that comes with marriage is not perfect, that is why God created this strong sexual desire in us, to accept it.

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    • girlygo

      i totally agree with u! :)

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    • gunfreak

      you are so rigth!

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  • lina222444

    It's good to live it up now that your young and strong, but later on in life you will want someone by your side! I can guarantee it!

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  • aeroboy27

    Sounds pretty good to me, Live you're life as you see fit first, then settle down later in life, you'll think different as you get older, but for now, Live it up!

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  • ULTRON

    Thanks for the replies everyone!

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