I have absolutely no idea what my gender is?

For the past few years, I have been questioning both my gender identity and my sexuality. It started when I was around 13, 14 or 15. For most of my life, I had assumed that I was Straight and Cisgender, like most of the population. Then, I had thought I was Asexual and Aromantic, because of my lack of attraction, but that was just because of how young I was. Then, I thought that I was Genderfluid, Panromantic, Demiromantic, and Asexual. Then, in late middle school, I said that I was Bisexual and Nonbinary. After that, I thought I was FTM Trans and Pansexual. Finally, I figured out that I am Nonbinary, and a Lesbian. (It’s kinda hard to name a specific sexuality to me, because I am neither male, nor female, so the closest one to it is Lesbian, because I like girls.) But every now and then I find a guy kinda cute. And I only just recently cut off my two feet of hair, for a more masculine look. And I’m really confused now because I’ve changed my mind so many times, and I just can’t figure out what I am or who I like and it’s really bothering me. But one thing I know for sure, is that I am not Cis and Straight.

Vocab:
Gender Identity- the gender a person identifies as
Sexuality- the gender(s) or sex(es) a person is attracted to
Straight (Heterosexual)- a person attracted to their opposite sex
Cisgender (Cis)- a person who identifies with their sex assigned at birth
Asexual (Ace)- the lack of sexual attraction
Aromantic (Aro)- the lack of romantic attraction
Genderfluid- a person who identifies as multiple genders, and switches between them
Panromantic (Pan)- a person who is romantically attracted to any sex/gender
Pansexual (Pan)- a person who is sexually attracted to any sex/gender
Demiromantic (Demi)- to only feel romantic attraction to those whom you are already close to
Bisexual (Bi)- a person who is attracted to two sexes
Nonbinary- a person who does not identify as either male, nor female
Transgender (Trans)- a person who does not identify as their sex given at birth
FTM- a female to male trans person
Lesbian (Homosexual)- a female who is sexually/romantically attracted to females

Sorry if this is confusing, I tried my best. ;-;

Thanks for reading, and put your thoughts in the comments! :)

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Comments ( 16 )
  • ellnell

    I don't see the point in labels. Just be who you want.

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  • megadriver

    I speak English, German, Bulgarian and Spanish and can kinda understand Russian, but what you wrote is new to me... Google translate wasn't much help either.

    How about stop worrying about bullshit labels and live your life. Do what you wanna do, without looking for some label for it. Do you really have to explain in perfect detail to a potential partner what you like. Just say I like you, shag and be done with it.

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  • CozmoWank

    How about just living your life and not worrying so much about labels?

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  • SwickDinging

    Stop worrying about it and just be yourself. You are unique. You don't need labels.

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  • leggs91200

    When I first started living, at least part time, as a transgender, 20 years ago, the labels were different and fewer.

    transvestite, transsexual, crossdresser, gay, straight, bisexual, trysexual (try anything at least once)

    I thought most people outgrew the obsession with having a labels about the time they reached high school.

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  • SunSnow

    No offense.
    I love gender creativity.
    Just a hormonal Imbalance.

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  • CDmale4fem

    You are putting WAAYYY to much pressure on yourself to fit behind a label. Just work on being you. They way you are thinking it's like taking your car to the shop for repairs before anything is broke. The socialtal pressures from social media, etc. is crazy. People are so worried about what others will think, say, do, or post just to fit. Duck all that. You be you.grow your hair back out, keep it short, makes no difference. If other People choose to judge you based on shit they know nothing about, well keep them out of your life. 5 years ago I started losing my vision. People even say some stupid shit to me or about me because I'm legally blind. So yea,I have to have my phone, tablet etc very close to see them even to write this right now. People really do judge others based on very little I formation. Again - Fuck them. I don't care. Just be ok with yourself. As long as you like yourself that's the important part. If you are attracted to other females, or makes or transexuals, it's joined business but yours. It has taken me most of my life to be ok with myself as a crossdresser.. Society is far more accepting of women in any caliber. In jeans, shorts, a dress, a smile,no matter what you wear. Guys like myself are not so well accepted in society.

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  • raisinbran

    It’s really important to label yourself so you can have the proper social media presence. Otherwise, you don’t exist.

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  • Grunewald

    Sorry, I only speak European languages.

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    • English is European though.

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  • Don’t worry about that whole gender thing, it’s a mess. And the idea of transgender is pretty damn sexist to begin with.

    There’s no “right way” to be a woman or a man. You can be hyper masculine and still be a woman, or hyper feminine and still be a man. What you like/do doesn’t decide your gender.

    A man who likes dresses and makeup is still a man, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

    And the sexuality labels stuff is the same, labels are just obnoxious, date who ever you want.

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  • d0esnormalmatter

    I didn't read this stupid ass post because your WAYYYY overthinking it. You know excatly what your gender is you just aren't sure if you like it, as if you get to choose lol

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    • Um, no. I don't know what my gender is. I'm not sure yet at all and I still have a long way to go before I figure it out. And you don't get to choose your gender. You just have to find out what it is.

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      • d0esnormalmatter

        Ask your parents if you were born with a cock or a vagina

        Cock = male
        Vagina = female

        Any questions dipwad?

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  • private3

    This is 100% not normal. You are having these thoughts because of the indoctrination you suffered in school. For your whole life, people around you have been saying that you can choose your gender. You can't. Gender is the same as what sex you are. I think you know whether you have a vagina or a penis.

    As others have been saying, the labels you use are not helpful. The world is not black and white (except when it comes to anatomy).

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    • Zonfire80

      Who gives a fuck honestly

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