I have a huge crush on my friend.

17 Comments

Ive had a crush on my friend at school since the start of the year. When we got closer and she got really nice to me and I started to like her. Ive been been to the movies with her twice but with other friends there. There has been small clues ive given her that i like her but she still treats me like a friend. But however she does act overly nice with me and sort of changes her voice when she talks to me. We are in the same grade she is 15 and im now 16. Im a libra and she is aquarious if that helps. (Ive never had a girlfriend before)

Stop thinking about her. 2
Keep trying to talk to her. 11
Tell her how i feel. (If so tell me how) 14
Other. (Tell me what to do) 3
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 17 )
  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    You've got to be careful not to put her on a pedestal. If you've been daydreaming about her all year, she's probably already firmly up there. So try and talk her down (in your mind).
    The problem is that if your mental perception is of her, the absolute goddess and you, the unworthy peasant, that's going to carry over into how you talk and act around her. She'll think you're an unworthy peasant too, and that she can do better.
    You don't want to be the guy, who obsesses over a girl for years and ends up getting hurt because she's just never going to be interested in him meekly trying to please her.
    You have to give her something to be attracted to. And let her know she is not the centre of your universe.

    I'm not saying you're doing any of that, but it's possible.
    Maybe she is already attracted to you. So maybe you should mentally get a bit of perspective, try not to be too infatuated with her. That way, you can confidently ask her out, and be prepared for all possibilities.

    *Take with a grain of salt*

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    5
    5
      -
    • fresh121099
      8 years ago

      Thanks ill take this into mind :) also would you be able to elaberate on your first sentence about putting her on the pedestal.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • victorygin
        8 years ago

        Sure, It means that you think very, very highly of someone. You might think she's almost perfect, you hang on her every word and always try to please her or impress her.
        When you have a crush on someone for a long time, that tends to happen. But it means that, in your mind at least, she is this magnificent, perfect creature. And by comparison, you're not. So in a sense, she has all the power. It's not "real" power, it's just power that you've given her in your mind by bestowing all this "awesomeness" on her.

        All actions start out as thoughts. So if you're putting her on a pedestal, then reality will play out so that she is higher in the pecking order than you are. She will have all the power. And she might see you as less important, or less worthy than she is.

        And ideally, you want the reverse situation. You want her to be the one thinking about you and how awesome you are.

        So the way you think about these little relationship dynamics effects how you'll act, which affects how she will think about you, which affects the whole relationship dynamic. So that's why it's good to keep some perspective and try not to let your mind be tricked into thinking she's much more amazing than she really is. She can still amazing, but just without having all that power over you.

        Anyway, it's probably not good to think about things like this too much. It's just something to remember in the back of your mind.
        {If you start analysing social situations too much, you might start seeing people as robots to be manipulated, which is just an awful way to look at things}.
        But, it's also good to know.

        Good luck, and sorry for the chapter-long response. I've gotta learn how to edit better...

        *And again, don't take this too seriously. People give advice on how to get girls based on what works for them. But you've got your own personality with your own strengths. So use your personal strengths and assets (sense of humour etc) to your advantage and figure out what works.

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        2
        2
  • freakdom
    8 years ago

    tell her. what is the worst that can happen? maybe she feels the same you know. and maybe you will never know if you dont tell her. maybe you will regret it years from now if you don`t. If she`s not interested you will just have to move on and nothing has really changed

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • 53739
    8 years ago

    I don't think your horoscope or zodiac signs has anything to do with it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • bdtttlera
    8 years ago

    Bruh with the little boys... Aye man I've had the same problem with this girl that I've had a crush on for years, I told her how I felt and that I had feelings for her,but all she told me is that (I'm glad you told me too) but what does that mean? Anyways I flirt with this girl all the time talking, texting but have never been on a date with her,and it had to do with I didn't have enough confidence because I never really had a real relationship with a girl before,and I'm starting to regret it,wishing I would've asked her out, my biggest insecurity is not having my life together and not being able to support this girl,long story short,just ask her out you have nothing to lose...

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • tightlittleboysasshole
    8 years ago

    At your age, you should really be focused on fucking a cute sweet little boy in his tight asshole. You are young enough that it makes luring them so much easier.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Forestheart
    8 years ago

    You can't just go to a few movies with her and expect her to confess her love to you. Give it some time, cause from the sound of it I think she might like you.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • fresh121099
      8 years ago

      But its not only those 2 days its been all year

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
        -
      • Forestheart
        8 years ago

        Did you take her on dates?

        Comment Hidden ( show )
        0
        0
          -
        • fresh121099
          8 years ago

          No

          Comment Hidden ( show )
          0
          0
            -
          • Forestheart
            8 years ago

            I believe you have your answer then.

            Comment Hidden ( show )
            1
            1
  • orgasmio7
    8 years ago

    Your need to share your (obviously growing, & quite strong) feelings for her.
    Also, you need to be honest (with yourself, & later, if she responds enough; with her)
    that you have, or soon will have, sexual desire for her - with accompanying powerful sexual imaginings about her, & the valid need to engage sexually together.

    Any sort of Lesbian, or bisexual relationship is a wonderful, precious, special thing; to be nurtured & relished.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Jonathan_G
    8 years ago

    Probably just the effect of hormones. You can get over it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • mokuton
    8 years ago

    Get drunk together. Talk to her and casually get closer and slip yr feelings in. If she's not on the same page get out of there for the night and next day apologize to her saying it was the alcohol speaking. If she agrees to yr feelings yr in luck.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Just be her friend.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • fresh121099
      8 years ago

      But i really like her

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0