I have a friend but i can't ever hate her.

I have a friend and I love her to death but she lies to me all the time and I really never know when she is lying to me unless someone tells me. And after she lies to me I get pissed at her and ask her why she lies to me but she always says that she doesn't even when I know she does. And I would stop being her friend because lets face it I don't want a friend I can't trust, but I can't. IDK what it is but I can't stay mad at her and it's really confusing. Also my cousin has the same problem with one of her friends and I tell her not to be friends with her but she doesn't listen to me and obviously I don't listen to myself either. IDK what is wrong with me. Is this normal?

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  • yesnomaybeso

    I used to have this friend when I was like 10-15, who lied all the time. Like, 90% of her speech would be a lie. Very unrealistic lies sometimes too.
    She once said: "My mum had a baby yesterday but then they gave it away because they didn't want it because she says she loves me too much"
    Whatever, I ended up by ignoring her, and when she was telling me a lie i'd be thinking "lie lie lie" but i'd smile and think other stuff. I guess she's going to stop lying at some point, most of the times they don't even realise they lie, it's almost an illness!

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  • alv1592

    i can understand that you like her a lot, but she's hard to trust. try to confront her and say "i know you're lying to me, please stop." if she's really your friend, she will listen to you.

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  • almostunreadable

    You are under the influence of your "friend". (and you are probably not the only one who is) Whatever the case, your friend surely does not respect you.

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  • TalktoFrank

    I agree with Ollieo you need to break it down to her that one day its going to get one of you in some serious problems... i should know i was also a victim of friendship fraud. Still am infact but hes less of a twat now hes learning. Story of my life, i have a girlfriend and my best mate kept hitting on her etc and then one day she told me that he himself told her he fancied her and was there anyway in which he could replace me? and then he went and said to her that had he known i was going to ask her he'd have asked her first (i technically didn't ask her by the way haha we sort of agreed on it) odd i know but still haha and then i went and got pissed at him and now they have borders :) they're still friends but they're less close and she makes sure he only gets a couple of hugs every now and again so yeah be careful as to what she lies at tell her that one day itt could make a feud and that if she continually lies it won't just affect her but will have a knock on effect on others too.
    Frank...:)

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  • I think so - you have a bond & sense of loyalty to friends which is commendable. And you don't stay mad because you are not vindictive. But trusting her will be (and is) an issue.

    Relationships sure do get complicated. You are choosing & compromising among competing values in this one. But the lying is a problem. You may want to let her know that it could become a deal breaker between the 2 of you one day. If that day does come, at least she will have been warned.

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  • farmerswife899

    My best friend lies to me everyday. From little things to really important things. I've known her since a 4 and im 26 now.. I have gotten to know when i can trust her and when i cant. Onestly.. I know that she will always be there for me. And that when it truely matters she wont lie. When she does lie to me i just nod and smile. Because if i didnt it would be alot more hastle.

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