I have a decent amount of friends, but i feel distant from them...

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I have quite a few different friends, but as the title says, I feel a bit distant.

Sure, we talk about some random stuff, but mostly to pass time and keep ourselves amused.
Also, my 'friends' only really talk to me when they're other friends aren't around...

Whenever I start getting real close and comfortable to a person, my personality ends up changing a bit and instead of being quiet and shy, I get rather annoying and rough and end up playfully hurting them, or something.. This ends up driving that person off, keeping them at a distance once again.

Is it normal to end up getting affectionately rough or driving people off, even though you want to be closer with them..? I'd love to have a close friend.

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  • karmasAbich
    12 years ago

    I thought I was the only one. All I want is a close friend but i end up playfully pushing them all away and become (what I feel) really annoying.

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  • smallestsheep
    14 years ago

    hey! i feel the same way. really. its like.. first i try to be the best i can be. like, be shy and nice and just be friendlly. thats so that i can actually have friends. then when i get all comfy with them, il be rude too. like il be loud and stuff. its normal. ure just 'getting comfy'. if they go away, then hey you could always explain to them. theyre your friends right? dont be afraid to tell ppl how you feel. :D goodluck.

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  • S3LiN4
    7 years ago

    Stop overthinking and stop assuming that something that happens ones or twice will happen again! You simply want so much to get close to someone that when you do you are very attached with them and they feel the presure the good thing is that you ecknowledged the problem, the next step is to trast that they will stay with you and live them some more space!

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  • XXBuTtErFlIeSX
    14 years ago

    ik the feeling except i just shut them out emtionally im not an expert but right now im trying to be my self 100%% of the time mayb we can try this together

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