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I have a crush on my best friend, but his friends don't like me and keep telling him all theses lies. And now he doesn't want to be my friend and hates me. But i love him. He means the world to me and i would do anything to make sure he is safe and happy. I am real depressed about it, and i don't feel the need to love or live anymore.
Hang in there, first and foremost. I'm sorry this kind of thing happens. immature weak people will sometimes let others make their decisions for them.
I was friends with a group like this in middle school. On a whim or unpopular clothing choice they would kick someone out of the group. usually just for a while. I was one of these people on a number of occasions because I refused to conform.
what would I do? Well I'd be hurt, but I'd go hang out with new/other friends. most of the time the other people I hung out with were better than the ones who had kicked me out.
when they saw they couldn't bring me down by kicking me out and punishing me they'd always ask me back. being young and stupid, and actually liking a couple of them, I went back.
point being, go out and have fun with other people. show them that you don't need them, it will drive them crazy. yes you will still hurt but smile through the pain. eventually the pain goes away. and maybe he'll see the error of his ways. by then you might be the one who happily tells him to go.
I would make one single effort to tell him that his friends are lying to him. if he's really your friend he will believe you, he may not start hanging back out with you right away. But at least he'll know your side
Just tell him the truth and ask him if they have ever lied to hom before then ask him if you have ever lied to him before. And after that tell him that you've always been there for him and that you always will, no matter what. And if he still wants to go seperate ways then he's not good enough for you. And oh yeah, also tell him that he shouldnt listen to rumors and if you've been friends for a while then he should know exactly how you are and know whether or not the rumors are true. I mean dude, how would his friends know anything about you? He should be the one to know these things, not the friends.
Thats sad but really: are these backbiting mean-spirited gossips (including the bf who has turned on you in so unfair & nasty a manner) the kind of people you want to be around? Make friends with more decent people.
Don't give up. One guy isn't worth dying over unless he is willing to die for you in return. There are plenty of other guys out there and 7 of them are your possible soul mate. I know it sounds like a small number but split souls always have a way of finding each other. Just take off your blinders and open your eyes to all the other possibilities. (See Romeo & Juliet but without the suicide)
Just call him and explain the situation. Even if he doesn't feel the same about you, at least you can stay friends.